Club Super Daddies

[TheAnswer]

JohnYeo:

Hi everyone, I'm new here...wondering how daddies juggle play time and work time?

While work is never ending, play time with kids is also important...so how do you juggle?

Thanks,
John

My DH spends his weekends with my DS mostly as I have to work every weekend. Father and son will do housework, cook and go swimming. Sometimes just simply lazy around together.

My DH does not work on weekends except when he needs to rush to meet a deadline but he will still set at least one day a week for our DS.

[JohnYeo]

TheAnswer:

JohnYeo:

Hi everyone, I'm new here...wondering how daddies juggle play time and work time?

While work is never ending, play time with kids is also important...so how do you juggle?

Thanks,
John

My DH spends his weekends with my DS mostly as I have to work every weekend. Father and son will do housework, cook and go swimming. Sometimes just simply lazy around together.

My DH does not work on weekends except when he needs to rush to meet a deadline but he will still set at least one day a week for our DS.

That's nice...father and son bonding time...i feel parents really need to work hand in hand so that at least one of the parents is spending time with the kids.

I was reading an article titled: Spending too much time at work when the children were young is a parent's biggest regret

Here are the top 5 regrets from parents:[list]

[Nebbermind]

JohnYeo:

Looks like more parents are now more aware that spending time with kids is a must.


John

Yeah, unfortunately, most of the time it's 'on hindsight....' :sad:

[JohnYeo]

Nebbermind:

JohnYeo:

Looks like more parents are now more aware that spending time with kids is a must.


John

Yeah, unfortunately, most of the time it's 'on hindsight....' :sad:

Never too late to know n to start now?

[senseimichael]

JohnYeo:

Looks like more parents are now more aware that spending time with kids is a must.

How does the father of a low-income family who has to juggle two or three jobs to put bread on the table \"spend more time\" with the kids? We have quite a number of these in Singapore.

[JohnYeo]

senseimichael:

JohnYeo:

Looks like more parents are now more aware that spending time with kids is a must.

How does the father of a low-income family who has to juggle two or three jobs to put bread on the table \"spend more time\" with the kids? We have quite a number of these in Singapore.

It's possible...what we normally tell our parents is about the quality time spent and it's about consistency - do it and do it regularly and stay connected with the child.

For example, parents can start off using only 5 minutes daily by tucking children into bed. This works because there is more to it than the tucking part.

Parents always end up talking and chit chatting with their kids finding out what their kids did that day. And again, we advised our parents to NOT talk about school work or if they have finished their homework. Talk about something else. You can start by asking \"What interesting thing happened to you today?\"

Normally, parents get silence or one word answer such as \"Ok.\"
This is actually a test by the kid to see if the parents are genuine in wanting to listen to them.

The next step can be the parents take the first step and share something interesting that happened to the parents that day.

It's just 5 minutes a day and this works...because many parents have feedback to me that their kids started to talk to them...and the duration gets longer each time.

If the parent says they can't even take out 5 minutes a day to talk to their kids, then I will leave it up to the parents to think it over. We all have choices.

John

[senseimichael]

JohnYeo:

If the parent says they can't even take out 5 minutes a day to talk to their kids, then I will leave it up to the parents to think it over. We all have choices.

John

My at-risk students need more parents like John!

[JohnYeo]

senseimichael:

JohnYeo:

If the parent says they can't even take out 5 minutes a day to talk to their kids, then I will leave it up to the parents to think it over. We all have choices.

John

My at-risk students need more parents like John!

Hi Teacher Michael, I just a normal parent who wants to make sure I'm with my child...actually, in fact, there are many more members here who are parents with more experience than me...so well, i'm just sharing what works for me and for some of my parents...

So u r a teacher? mind telling me about the at-risk students?

Thanks,
John

[senseimichael]

JohnYeo:

So u r a teacher? mind telling me about the at-risk students?

Thanks,
John

Just returned to Singapore, but been in the education line (whether teaching or running holding companies) since 1997. I dare say that, in 9/10 cases, at-risk students are traced to issues with the parents.

[JohnYeo]

while the issues are traced to other related issues with parents, i think the denial aspect can be very challenging too…that is why, when it comes to family therapy or family work, very few families are keen in doing that…