How much should I give my parents?

[SBKS]

there are just simply too many types of pple in the world to make it go round.


trust me, we need all types of pple to make the world go round.

[Imami]

SBKS:

my mum like to compare...with her so call friends....

then she wants more money...

cos i dun see any reason why they would ask how much i earn....

面子问题 . Could it be a gauge of \"how established you are\" in your career? The reason why I sometimes feel like I am reporting my grades to my mum when I tell her I have a pay increment is because it makes her feel good that her daughter is \"moving up\" and doing well. So I wonder if other folks think like this too?

[vinegar]

my mum also likes to compare n make unreasonable request.My aunt’s daughter works in US,no kid,gave my aunt a lot $ ,while i am SAHM,no income,my mum still asked me $$ to go travel.My bro is a doctor,own big hse n two cars,she doesn’t dare to ask $$ fr him.

[SBKS]

Imami:

SBKS:

my mum like to compare...with her so call friends....

then she wants more money...

cos i dun see any reason why they would ask how much i earn....

面子问题 . Could it be a gauge of \"how established you are\" in your career? The reason why I sometimes feel like I am reporting my grades to my mum when I tell her I have a pay increment is because it makes her feel good that her daughter is \"moving up\" and doing well. So I wonder if other folks think like this too?

yes they want face...how established? possible. but if i nt established then how? they will noe how to help me? from their behaviour, i really doubt they want to know how i progress.

[popireis]

Feeling good about your offspring’s progress "is not equal" asking for more money.


I have a friend who is a SAHM no income and her parents are still asking her for money, at times even ask her to help clear her sibling’s debts (sibling is earning quite decently but have habit of overspending).

[SBKS]

too bad my parents may not think that way…


so i gt to accept the hard truth…

[popireis]

Same la, in my mum’s eyes $ = filial…

[Imami]

popireis:

Same la, in my mum's eyes $ = filial...

Like that jialat for the children. Some how, the picture of a hamster running on the wheel come to mind... Pant pant. Money will never be enough,

[popireis]

I’ve come to accept that I’ll never be a good DIL in my ILs’ eyes, never will be a good daughter in my mum’s eyes… so be it. I just do what I can. Now my own family is my priority, I cannot please everyone. There’s only 1 me and 24hrs in a day, 7 days a week, I cannot do more than I can cope.

[buds]

popireis:

I've come to accept that I'll never be a good DIL in my ILs' eyes, never will be a good daughter in my mum's eyes.... so be it. I just do what I can. Now my own family is my priority, I cannot please everyone. There's only 1 me and 24hrs in a day, 7 days a week, I cannot do more than I can cope.

Hi popireis, i TOTALLY understand this as i am in exactly the same position as you are. I will just never be good enough in their eyes.

I also get where you are coming from when you mentioned the tight leash your mil/mom is (trying) to keep on you. Mine does it too. Wanna control what i do with the children.. wanna control where i go.. wanna control my weight :roll:.. wanna control what i wear.. :skeptical: Dunno la.. i told my friend if i end up being close to treating my children (intentionally or not) like that to please tell me off and remind me of this thing i am going through.