2013 Sec 1 Discussions

[janet88]

fifiyeo:

Last night DS no.1 told me that he has music test today. \"Mommy can you teach me??\" I tested him out a little and fell off my chair. :yikes: So had to drop all the work and help him out with his music. Art also need help so have to start teaching him. Everything also need help! Wah, Sec 1 really headache!


This morning I made him sing out the notes and practising his finger positions all the way to school while hubby drove.

Last night, son had this program to write...I heard hubby helping him.
Daughter had this FTGP project to do...find pic of landmarks, print/cut and decorate. If I do not help, time is wasted doing this. Though my art is hopeless, still have to help. What in the world is going on? SA1 is just 30 days away. :stompfeet:

[fifiyeo]

When I start to scold, DH will say how I know they are suppose to do work? Then the 'Ho Lang' suddenly become 'Pai Lang' and the kids will get scolded by DH. So even if TV still on, DSs don't dare to watch already. All become 'pai lang' :spank:

[janet88]

fifiyeo:

When I start to scold, DH will say how I know they are suppose to do work? Then the 'Ho Lang' suddenly become 'Pai Lang' and the kids will get scolded by DH. So even if TV still on, DSs don't dare to watch already. All become 'pai lang' :spank:

Hub was cut into 2 last night...shiok :evil:
Both of them asked him to help with math...I was doing stupid art thing for daughter. When I was done, sat down to wait for washing machine to beep. Hub: 'you done already?'
Me: yes with art, no waiting to hang up clothes. Why?

[dyh]

janet_lee88:

i wish i can go on strike...but with SA1 coming, everyday is important.


son's mid-year exam time table is OUT !!!
the dates start from 30 Apr till 14 May...art is on last day and it is 2.5 hour paper :yikes: i told him i cannot help...my drawing of a cat and dog looks the same :razz:

This brings back memories of my sec school days. Art was always the last paper. When it was art exam, it was a time to rejoice because no need to study anymore.

[janet88]

dyh:

janet_lee88:

son's mid-year exam time table is OUT !!!
the dates start from 30 Apr till 14 May...art is on last day and it is 2.5 hour paper :yikes: i told him i cannot help...my drawing of a cat and dog looks the same :razz:

This brings back memories of my sec school days. Art was always the last paper. When it was art exam, it was a time to rejoice because no need to study anymore.

Yes, art is on last day 14/5...15/5 no school bcos of marking exam scripts.

[TheAnswer]

fifiyeo:

HAPPYH:

[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]That hubby at home makes my blood boil sometimes...he never practise what he preach...we agreed NO TV but he switches it on, saying he wants to watch news...after that, he doesn't switch it off :mad:

If I am hanging laundry or doing something, then father, son and daughter will all be watching channel 8. Kids will get a shock when I walk into the room.

Sounds very familiar. I scold my daughter including my hubby. :mad:

I also scold them all. I'm the MAD Mother Hen.
You see boys never grow up. So Daddy is just like another boy in the house![/quote]Well said!

[ammonite]

Not directing this at anyone, just a general feeling I had previously and revived by this thread. It feels so meaningless to spend so much time on school work, be it homework or prepping for exams and tests. I can’t imagine doing it for years and I feel it is just not worth the sacrifices.


We had to spend a lot of time previously because of my son’s learning difficulties, and I felt really burnt out. Now that he has improved and is spending only a small fraction of the time he used to on homework, I still feel reluctant to sit down and do prep work with him for exams. Of course I wonder if I will regret this, but right now, I just simply cannot feel invested. One hour every day is all I am willing to put in.

[janet88]

Hi ammonite,


Now I truly understand why have kids at younger age.
The energy level is depleted after coaching older one…to make things worst, the standard is tougher and when have to coach younger one, it can be very tough.

I have invested a lot of time when he started primary school…last year, I felt totally drained. Just cannot face his work anymore…sec stuff is out of reach.

Kids in schools now have it real tough…endless tests/exams now are just one of many. Preparation is mentally draining…at the end of the day, is it worth it? Poor child is stressed…parents are also feeling that way. This is not holistic nor balanced.

[mummy so kiasu]

ammonite:

Not directing this at anyone, just a general feeling I had previously and revived by this thread. It feels so meaningless to spend so much time on school work, be it homework or prepping for exams and tests. I can't imagine doing it for years and I feel it is just not worth the sacrifices.


We had to spend a lot of time previously because of my son's learning difficulties, and I felt really burnt out. Now that he has improved and is spending only a small fraction of the time he used to on homework, I still feel reluctant to sit down and do prep work with him for exams. Of course I wonder if I will regret this, but right now, I just simply cannot feel invested. One hour every day is all I am willing to put in.

I hour every day is more than enough for a Sec kid. I am only doing it with my P2 girl & totally let go on my Sec 1 boy. His workload is quite heavy, a lot of research to do. Science needs to research on enzymes & cloning. Whereas English literature needs to research on marginalised people.

I am too tired & too busy handling my P2 girl. She is active & unable to focus for long. Can't hand hold till uni right? So hubby says he is old enough to self learn & be more responsible for himself. We just keep monitoring & provide guidance when needed.

[janet88]

For older one, I leave him to study on his own…at least give him a breather to manage own time. But remind him to drink more water.


Younger one is hyperactive and has short attention span. So have to play the game of ‘flying kite’…when to push heavy duty work and let go on trivial stuff…no point sweating small thing like spelling…just spend 30 min studying it.