Does being a mom make you generally more of an anxious perso

[angel89]

Like constant fear of something bad will happen, anxiety, paranoid etc? Have you experienced this kind of feelings?

[Nihauma]

sometimes not constant. once in a while i would think of what ifs…

but i am not sure if it is because i am a mom. i think it is just my nature.

[angel89]

do you ever concider this as one of your stress??

[kamom]

Yes, I do get anxious and I do think it is a mom thing.

[sharonkhoo]

Some anxiety must be natural for every caring parent, but I suppose if the anxiety is severe enough to disrupt normal life or cause undue stress, it’s a problem.

[ammonite]

Constant fear - definitely not without good reason. If you are in a constant state of anxiety, it will be good to set aside some time everyday to clear your mind and do deep breathing. Start with ten minutes. Later increase to two or three times a day.


If this isn’t for you, consider using relaxing music, or shower breaks, or brisk walks. Anything as long as it snaps you out of that emotion.

You should also try to identify if there is a particular concern, and look at it objectively to see what you can and cannot do. Sometimes just writing it down can help to reduce the anxiety.

[janet88]

Nihauma:

sometimes not constant. once in a while i would think of what ifs....

but i am not sure if it is because i am a mom. i think it is just my nature.

I am anxious bcos the education system is tough and I worry if kids can cope. Guess as a mom, I worry about their health and welfare etc etc...endless.

[ammonite]

janet_lee88:

Nihauma:

sometimes not constant. once in a while i would think of what ifs....

but i am not sure if it is because i am a mom. i think it is just my nature.

I am anxious bcos the education system is tough and I worry if kids can cope. Guess as a mom, I worry about their health and welfare etc etc...endless.

Maybe you can focus on their strengths instead. Very few people are good at everything.

[vinegar]

I worried for my P3 ds who:


1) still cannot study independently. Is it normal?

2)I’ve to summarize the Science notes for him coz he is someone who refuses to sit still n study.

3) He dislikes drawing model for maths.Modeling is impt to solve difficult math Qs.His teacher said cannot use "free hand". If he draws,he also takes very long time.

My DH asks me to relax,but very difficult le.Coz he is not the one who coping wf kiddo’s homework,exam n daily physical & mental thingie…

[sharonkhoo]

vinegar:

I worried for my P3 ds who:


1) still cannot study independently. Is it normal?
Depends on the child. I have one who didn't manage independence until sec school, so at P3 still needed quite close supervision. Be patient, but keep trying to push greater independence in small steps.
2)I've to summarize the Science notes for him coz he is someone who refuses to sit still n study.
Make him make his own notes, even if it's in 10-min bursts. You can add and edit if his product isn't good enough, but don't let him rely on you too much.
3) He dislikes drawing model for maths.Modeling is impt to solve difficult math Qs.His teacher said cannot use \"free hand\". If he draws,he also takes very long time.
Again, small doses may help. I would ignore his teacher if his free hand drawing is reasonably neat. She will get tired of complaining eventually.
My DH asks me to relax,but very difficult le.Coz he is not the one who coping wf kiddo's homework,exam n daily physical & mental thingie....Remember the end result is how the kids are when they are grown up - we want them to be independent thinkers and learners, so a little 'messiness' in the early stages is the price we pay. If they are over-regulated and supported now, they are more likely to need handholding longer, maybe forever.