In-law problems?
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straffan23:
Grandparents tend to spoil the grandkids. My kids will become naughtier after my mum looks after them - yes, they get their way with grandma at home. Thankfully, my MIL does not look after or play with them, I think she only interested in bragging rights. Anyway, easier to speak to my mum ( than MIL ) when all this \"spoiling\" gets out of hand.My MIL likes to be the \"good guy\" with my children. So she will not try to teach or correct my children at all - things like keeping the toys after playing, returning the books to the shelves, good eating habits, etc etc ... In fact she will play along - take out my yoga mat from the storeroom because \"DS said wanna play\", take the forbidden toys from above the cupboard because \"DD said wanna play\"... etc etc. Worse part is that the flat would be tossed upside down and then she would go home.
My children also know that they can commit murder with MIL around, so they would scream and shout at MIL. MIL would just laugh :siao: :siao: - - I used to scold the DD when she does that cos it's rude... but once my daughter said \"Mama is the bad guy, always scold us. Even when I shout at Amah, she just laugh what...\" :yikes: From then on I never scold my children because/in front of her. Without her around they are always well behaved. :xedfingers: -
mine here also the same…only wants bragging rights that she is grandmother to xx number of grandchildren…blah blah but just for show…my parents give way but not to the extent of spoiling.
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popireis:
Prefer maids... Probably so.
Worse was once (or twice, can't rmb), she even compared me to my maid.
She asked DSs who they liked better, the maid or me, who takes better care of them, whose cooking they prefer, who does the housework better etc... :siao:
In my heart I was thinking, so what now, u prefer to have a maid as your DIL? Ask all your sons to marry maids instead....
My MIL chose to believe my ex-maid whom she hardly knew than to believe in her DIL of more than 10 years. Still can't believe it. Trying to understand, forgive and forget.... But still still working on it ... -
janet_lee88:
mine here also the same...only wants bragging rights that she is grandmother to xx number of grandchildren...blah blah but just for show...my parents give way but not to the extent of spoiling.
My children are her only grandchildren... Yet MIL makes no effort to get to know them and never offered to babysit once. Does not play with them, look after nor feed them. DH says she's forgotten how to. How does a mother forget such things? However, always have lots to say about how to raise them, feed and clothe them.
My mum looked after DS1 when DS was younger and I was working. Whenever DH was irritated with my mum, he would say MIL wouldn't do this if she was looking after DS. Finally, couldn't stand his complaints anymore, told him to stop complaining, that MIL never offered to look after DS. DH finally shut up. -
My hubby here is blinded by her acting. I know she is acting, bcos she behaves differently when sons are not around. Never once has she been interested in what my kids like to eat or how they are. Never. But come any occasion, she will ask them ‘我是谁’.
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janet_lee88:
My hubby here is blinded by her acting. I know she is acting, bcos she behaves differently when sons are not around. Never once has she been interested in what my kids like to eat or how they are. Never. But come any occasion, she will ask them '我是谁'.
'我是谁'...she muz be Jackie Chan's fan. -
vinegar:
Big fan. That is the only phrase on tip of her tongue.janet_lee88:
My hubby here is blinded by her acting. I know she is acting, bcos she behaves differently when sons are not around. Never once has she been interested in what my kids like to eat or how they are. Never. But come any occasion, she will ask them '我是谁'.
'我是谁'...she muz be Jackie Chan's fan.
I am stressed enough with daughter...if ils do not want to look after themselves, nobody can tell them what to do. Cut down on smoking and drinking, money spent on eating proper meals is better right? Hubby already gave up advising. -
Mine’s fav phrase is 傻瓜 & 笨蛋 (meaning stupid, for the benefit of those who dun understand chinese).
She will go "your XX son…"
or say to DSs "you are so XX…"
or ask DSs "are you XX?" for nothing, or as start of conversation. -
:hugs: popireis..
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popireis:
If she jokingly says 傻猪, I can still accept.Mine's fav phrase is 傻瓜 & 笨蛋 (meaning stupid, for the benefit of those who dun understand chinese).
She will go \"your XX son...\"
or say to DSs \"you are so XX...\"
or ask DSs \"are you XX?\" for nothing, or as start of conversation.
But if she ever tells my kids 笨蛋, I will ask her why she said that.
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