Taking Leave to attend to child care matters

[FMz]

not true with regards to the title of this thread.

[waynemum]

FMz:

not true with regards to the title of this thread.

What do you mean? :?

Hmmm actually i started this thread with the Title: Mum always the one to take leave but how come it change and with a poll? :?

[buds hubs]

JMHO,


Taking care of the child is a shared responsibility.
buds is a SAHM, hence I would normally take leave
if anyone is sick or if there is any urgent matters.
That is of course if my schedule permits...

:celebrate:

[Busymom]

Hi waynemum


Actually, do you think your DH would like to have another child? If he does, and assuming you too, maybe that's the way to make him share more responsibilities with you, i.e. negotiate to have a second one on the basis that he needs to change his \"MCP\" mentality.

It's true that mothers tend to be the one giving more care to children. Some people would say we multi-task better than men , I think that's just a lame excuse.

In my case, my work has always been more \"siong\" compared to DH (he's one lucky chap in his career while I'm the 劳碌命 one who has to put in so much more)... Still, bulk of our children's enrichment programs land on my shoulders as I'm also the \"better-half\" (can speak Mandarin, more musically-inclined, etc. etc. and most important, more patient with the kids)...

I have my fair share of complaints like you, but fortunately, my DH doesn't expect me to take leave all the time. When it comes to visiting doctors, he's usually the one doing it.

DH used to not take his childcare leave too and I was like :whut:

[buds]

buds hubs:

JMHO,


Taking care of the child is a shared responsibility.
buds is a SAHM, hence I would normally take leave
if anyone is sick or if there is any urgent matters.
That is of course if my schedule permits...

:celebrate:

Yes. And buds_hubs took leave today to share the
joy of his baby DD2 going for 1st day in P1.
Armed with his neu DSLR camera!

When the kids are down (sick), buds_hubs utilizes
the given childcare leave to help me with the kiddies
and also help around da house at da same time. :hugs:
Like cleaning, vacuuming, doing the laundry and if i am da
one down... buds_hubs will add cooking as well to his to-do
list. Hehee. :lol:

[buds]

Busymom:

DH used to not take his childcare leave too and I was like :whut:

Ya man! :roll:

While reading that, i too am going... :whut:

[kiasimom]

Wow, congrats buds and buds_hubs,


Primary education starts for DD2 today! :celebrate:

[Andaiz]

congrats to buds and buds_hub on DD2 starting P1 today! Who's more nervous...you or the cheeky monkey?


Back to the thread. I'm the one taking leave to look after DD's if anyone should fall sick. When mum had to take a major part of last March off coz she had scheduled her cateract ops, I had to WFM and take leave for most part of the month. DH took the hols and promptly sent off the older 2 to full day class loh! Don't have to deal with the school-going schedule mah...even then, only 3 out of the 5 days.

I agree that parenting is a partnership...however, when push comes to shove, the mothers with our \"nurturing\" nature would typically take over. busymom, kudos for your negotiation skills. DH wants #4 and my take is that we'd only do so IF and WHEN he gets off his butt (not that he's lazy or anything but his job is very demanding and cannot anyhow take leave) thennnn...may consider

[foreverj]

hi waynemum


i think its normal that the mum is usually the one to take leave and care for the child. so far, seems to be that way for my colleagues too. i chose to part-time work partly for this reason. more flexibility to take leave if my dd happen to fall sick.

my dh always have forfeited leave cos cannot finish taking. even take leave also 24hr on call. can't be helped - he's workaholic

the only time he left office earlier, after office hours, was when dd fell down in school and needed to go to A&E :stupid: otherwise i m always the one to bring to paed, settle everything regarding dd like school or enrichment classes. but no complaints la, frankly, i think i do a better job :lol: otherwise, i everyday need to dd is fine with him...

[3Boys]

I have a bit more flexibility with my working hours and leave forecasting (not to mention also more annual leave ), so I am the one that takes the larger share of short-notice leave to look after childcare matters compared to DW. I did all the parent volunteer hours last year also, for instance.


Not trying to generalise, but its not always the mum.