All About Autism

[sharonkhoo]

I speak as a SAHM - I am very grateful that I have had these years with my Asperger’s daughter. I don’t believe that anyone, even given my impatient nature, could have given as much time, thought and attention to her during the formative years. My husband does not earn a lot, and we have not sent her to any external therapies, partly by choice and partly because of location and circumstance. We still feel that we have made the better choice for her overall as therapies work best when the child is ready and weekly/monthly sessions don’t always catch the best opportunities, and rushing around can cause additional stress. Given the option to work, I have always decided that my kids needed me more at home, even if that meant fewer external lessons and therapies, and that is the main reason I have remained a SAHM although there are other reasons too. Now that my daughter is 16yo and is more independent and our home circumstances are changing, I am planning to return to work. I know I have lost out a lot in career, but since I know I couldn’t have given as much attention to my family if I had worked, that’s the choice I made. It’s made for up by the closeness I have with my husband and kids and the belief that I have done my best for them. This is just my personal experience - I know each person weighs the factors differently, and every family has different circumstances.

[nugget]

slmkhoo,


Actually I admire SAHM a lot. I was a SAHM for almost 2 years and I couldn’t take it. Its not easy and there is no time where you can "knock off".

I can tell you have put in a lot of effort to bring your daughter where she is today. I only wish my son can be like your daughter one day.

[Double E]

slmkhoo

Thanks for sharing.
When I see my son faces difficulties in his daily life, that’s when I feel I really need to spend more time to teach him. Atlas, human beings are always fickle minded, I can’t help but also think about the job opportunities, pple I will meet, places I will visit if I am not stuck with this job because of my family commitment. I think I will not take up this new job because apart from the flying, it is also highly stressful and requires me to be on standby 24/7. But I will continue to search for one that can satisfy my requirements. I will continue to pray and am sure, God will provide.

Nugget
My son is in private Epic, each mth $680. He is also in pte Speech and OT. So in total, his learning and therapies cost $2500 each mth. That’s why I had to transfer him to a kindy, if not I have to pay another $700 on his CC fees. I also hope to be like SlmKhoo, do the therapies myself etc to save the money but I don’t have the confident to do so. And I will always be asking myself if he will be better off if there’s a professional guiding him. That’s why I can’t be a SAHM, I have to continue to work to bring the bacon in for him. But that said, I am not the one footing the bill alone, my husband shares my load. And I hope that by the time he enter’s P1, his therapy sessions can be reduced to perhaps once or twice mthly instead of weekly so that I can cut down on the expenses and work part-time.

[nugget]

Double E,

Good that you have made up your mind. Hope you can find something you want.

I also hope to teach by myself but thing is I am not a very good teacher esp in the academics. Verbal stimulation and practicing I am still okay. I really have to rely on professional help to aid and guide him then I continue to teach him at home based on what I learn in those sessions.

But there will always be this gap where other people in the family don’t follow the rules or don’t do the best practices with him. I guess that is our disadvantage as being a FTWM.

[helplessmum3]

Double e.


Ur son is so bless to hav u n yr hub... With that kind if money that u can afford the therapies ...

I feel so bad I only can send my son to rainbow centre

For his needs

[helplessmum3]

Actually 20% increment is not high when change job …


At least its must 30% more …

[Double E]

helplessmum

30% is not industry norm, unless u are headhunted to join the senior management team. actually industry norm is about 10 to 15% only.

[helplessmum3]

Considering on extra hrs n oversea these not cover

[Www]

Try taking another part time flexi job to earn more?

[af7680]

Double e


I got the same dilemma recently.
but have decided to stay put in current job ( got offered better paying job)
In fact I am in the midst of asking current company to work sort of part time so that I can take care of my son.