Is this behaviour of teacher acceptable?

[chenSee]

It depends on the situation.. sometimes our kids need to learn some discipline through their teachers.. but im against to those abusive teachers..

[missk]

I think pulling ears and poking head is not acceptable in front of other kids. Scolding, extra work or classroom duty, standing in corner, detention, private caning by principal is ok. Any form of corporal punishments must be conducted privately. As parents do we smack our child outside? No right? Some kids are so sensitive that this kind of shaming will put them off school for years. And since teachers won’t know which are the sensitive ones, they should err on the side of caution.


But I think if the teacher merely complains to the parent that the child is misbehaving, and does not deal with the problem within school, the child will not listen to the teacher. So teachers must be strict yet they should control their temper since they only see the child a few hours a day and it is their job.

[missk]

Teachers can don’t teach well everyday, and can return the homework a bit more slowly, or conduct less remedial… But they should never use poor forms of discipline. I think schools should let parents and students know which form of discipline is endorsed within school, so that parents will not complain unless it is out of the norm. Students should also know that they will be punished for bad behaviour, and so behave better, and expect punishment when misbehaving. After all, consistant discipline has the best result:-)


Btw, as a child I was sometimes naughty in school, and got book thrown once, stood un corner a few times, hit on knuckle with ruler, and made to write 100 times " I will not forget my homework". I still loved school… But not the teacher! Haha

[White_Gale]

it’s not acceptable but i will find out from both sides before jumping to conclusion. Some kids can be quite a handful…

[yeomaylin]

Welcome any advice on how I shd handle this.....


My ds is in P1. One day I found that he did not submit one of his hw and I insisted he has to submit it the next day. After many days, he still did not sumit it. He finally admitted that he was very afraid that his form teacher will tear his hw in front of the class. When he said that, i could see tears welling up in his eyes. My son is a very emotional child. He cried easily, eg, he cried sadly for those who were being killed in World War 2 when he watched the documentary show.

Last night, he told me that he loves to go to sch but he is very afraid to study in his class becoz of his fierce form teacher!
- His teacher WARNED the class that she will tear their hw if they submit them late.
- his teacher always screams at his classmates. Ask him why is that so, he said he didn't know the reason.

P1 & 2 students r supposed to wait at the sch canteen (opp the bus bay) for their parents to fetch them. That day, I was late and my son just happened to walk to the sch bus bay to talk to his classmate. The principal saw it and immediately pulled him back to the canteen, thinking that he wanted to walk ou of the sch. The principal called for my son's form teacher and insisted that she waited with my son in the canteen to wait for me. When I arrived, I saw my son started crying and I believe he must be scolded. When the teacher saw me, she shot like machine gun with her squeaking voice \" you know ah, your son run away like that, I will get into trouble you know. I have to be responsible for him. I have to answer for it. I need to answer for his safety, you know...... Blah, blah, blah\". Initially I apologise for it but when she kept repeating I, I, I...... It is very obvious that she is more worried abt herself being held responsible that my son's safety!!! The next day when I arrived to pick up my son, I saw her staring impatiently at my son. When she saw me coming, she just nodded her head with a LONG face and walked away.

Gosh! Now I understand why my son is so afraid to attend his class. We will be having a parent-teacher session in June soon and I wonder shd I brought this up to the teacher. I can sense that she is a very sensitive teacher (believe other parents had complaint abt her before in the past years). Some of my friends against the idea coz they said that the teacher may 'mark' on my boy for the next 2 yrs (same teacher to teach P1&2.) :slapshead: gosh! What shd I do? Pls advise..

[phtthp]

Is it possible to transfer yr son to another class ?

[yeomaylin]

phtthp:

Is it possible to transfer yr son to another class ?

I can bring this up to the principal but strongly believe it Will not be possible. The principle is well known for being stubborn and not opened to feedback.

[Mdm Koh]

It will be difficult to request for a transfer… However, you could let the principal know that he or she should ask the teacher to be more sensitive towards your son. Not every child can take harsh scoldings. Moreover, your son is only in P1.


You could also bring up to the principal a possible scenario. At the moment, your son is already crying from fear at the thought of his form teacher. If the scoldings continue, who will be responsible if he develops a phobia of school and resists going to school? Hopefully, the principal and teacher will think about that and do the right thing.

On your part, you may also wish to let your son know that it’s alright to be scolded. Try to help him understand why his teacher is so fierce (e.g. she has to discipline the class, she is shouldering a huge responsibility as she has to take care of many students. etc).

[angel89]

Its not acceptable for every parents. Teachers should learn how the proper way to discipline a child. I think discipline is more appropriate than punishing a young kid Children need to learn the basics of child discipline and responsibility from an early age. Discipline helps changing our child’s behavior. It is not about forcing them to obey and follow direction. It helps our children learn their limits.

[2ppaamm]

yeomaylin:

Welcome any advice on how I shd handle this.....


My ds is in P1. One day I found that he did not submit one of his hw and I insisted he has to submit it the next day. After many days, he still did not sumit it. He finally admitted that he was very afraid that his form teacher will tear his hw in front of the class. When he said that, i could see tears welling up in his eyes. My son is a very emotional child. He cried easily, eg, he cried sadly for those who were being killed in World War 2 when he watched the documentary show.

Last night, he told me that he loves to go to sch but he is very afraid to study in his class becoz of his fierce form teacher!
- His teacher WARNED the class that she will tear their hw if they submit them late.
- his teacher always screams at his classmates. Ask him why is that so, he said he didn't know the reason.

P1 & 2 students r supposed to wait at the sch canteen (opp the bus bay) for their parents to fetch them. That day, I was late and my son just happened to walk to the sch bus bay to talk to his classmate. The principal saw it and immediately pulled him back to the canteen, thinking that he wanted to walk ou of the sch. The principal called for my son's form teacher and insisted that she waited with my son in the canteen to wait for me. When I arrived, I saw my son started crying and I believe he must be scolded. When the teacher saw me, she shot like machine gun with her squeaking voice \" you know ah, your son run away like that, I will get into trouble you know. I have to be responsible for him. I have to answer for it. I need to answer for his safety, you know...... Blah, blah, blah\". Initially I apologise for it but when she kept repeating I, I, I...... It is very obvious that she is more worried abt herself being held responsible that my son's safety!!! The next day when I arrived to pick up my son, I saw her staring impatiently at my son. When she saw me coming, she just nodded her head with a LONG face and walked away.

Gosh! Now I understand why my son is so afraid to attend his class. We will be having a parent-teacher session in June soon and I wonder shd I brought this up to the teacher. I can sense that she is a very sensitive teacher (believe other parents had complaint abt her before in the past years). Some of my friends against the idea coz they said that the teacher may 'mark' on my boy for the next 2 yrs (same teacher to teach P1&2.) :slapshead: gosh! What shd I do? Pls advise..

If you will not stand up for your child, then who will? I think the biggest mistake I made when it comes to my son's education was not to confront his teacher and principal when they were really nasty to him. It turned out, they will become more and more defensive and the poor kid will be at the receiving end of the bully. Yes, I think teachers do select and bully certain kids, and sounds like yours is a victim.

The repercussions can be really bad, and the child could retreat and mine nearly went into depression and had anxiety disorders, so my advice is to take the courage, face the teacher, and complain to MOE directly if her action continues. He is there for an education, not to feed the sickening teacher's strange tantrums. There's nothing wrong with your child, so stand up for him before there is.

Hope this helps!