All About Teaching Values
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BlueBells:
On money matters, my 8 year old receives a daily allowance that has a minimum must-save amount of 30-cents incorporated into it to help cultivate her savings habit.
Do you set aside the amount for you ie you less out 30cts first before giving her the balance or do you hand her 100% of her allowance and the onus is on her to set aside the prescribed amt?
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Hi Zack,
I hand her the full amount, inclusive of the must save 30-cents, and she needs to practice restrain to stop herself from using it. I think it gives her more satisfaction to drop the money into her piggy bank by herself. Next term, we will start giving her 2 or 3 days’ allowance at a go, and she must learn how to manage that amount of money. If she spent it all, too bad, there will be no top-ups. -
BlueBells:
Yeap... One thing to let our kids grow up is empowermentHi Zack,
I hand her the full amount, inclusive of the must save 30-cents, and she needs to practice restrain to stop herself from using it. I think it gives her more satisfaction to drop the money into her piggy bank by herself. Next term, we will start giving her 2 or 3 days' allowance at a go, and she must learn how to manage that amount of money. If she spent it all, too bad, there will be no top-ups.
... I may adopt your methodology when my son is old enough to start receiving allowances 
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Hi BlueBells
You might want to google to find the list of orphanages. For the one I visited, there is no interaction allowed between visitors & the occupants. We got a glimpse & saw a bit of the surroundings. The most important part is the explanation that I gave to my kids as to why the kids are there & why it is good to help those in need.
About saving daily, I have no problems with my kids. The only issue is that my son oversaved his daily allowance. If I gave him $1, he will only spend at most $0.50. Sometime can be as little as $0.20 to buy seaweed. He says he have enough from breakfast & lunch. He is not hungry during teabreak. But will be adamant that I bring snacks when I fetch him after school. -
EN:
Sounds like your son will grow up to be thrifty ... But I hope it's not to the extreme cos people like that are not really popular. I'm sure we've all come across people who are so \"thrifty\" that they always sponge on others :roll:
About saving daily, I have no problems with my kids. The only issue is that my son oversaved his daily allowance. If I gave him $1, he will only spend at most $0.50. Sometime can be as little as $0.20 to buy seaweed. He says he have enough from breakfast & lunch. He is not hungry during teabreak. But will be adamant that I bring snacks when I fetch him after school. -
En,
Actually my daughter also oversaves. She will inform us what she wants to pack for her recess break, and saves all her pocket money. She does that about 3 times a week, and on the other days, she will buy food.
I don’t mind that either, because the food prices has also gone up in the school canteen, and I can be sure that she is eating healthy when she brings food for her break. -
I feel that one virtue have often been overlooked :
Be humble
Even a highly gifted child needs to learn to be humble. Even if he/she is very clever, there is no need to show off this \"cleverness\" all the time. He/she must be taught to respect the teacher, and the rest of the classmates who may not be as clever as he/she is. -
tamarind:
Indeed, humbleness is a valued characteristic of us Asians, often mistaken by ang mohs as lacking confidence or weakness.I feel that one virtue have often been overlooked :
Be humble
Even a highly gifted child needs to learn to be humble. Even if he/she is very clever, there is no need to show off this \"cleverness\" all the time. He/she must be taught to respect the teacher, and the rest of the classmates who may not be as clever as he/she is.
However, I feel that to really teach our children to be humble, we must first teach them NOT label their peers as being more or less smarter than themselves. Teach them to learn to see the strengths in others, and not just nit-pick just on their weaknesses. This will allow our children to grow up well-balanced and tolerant, and become leaders who are able to mould strong teams with people of diverse backgrounds and talents. -
I just finished watching the Hong Kong TV series Chu Han Jiao Xiong 楚汉骄雄。
The first emperor of the Han Dynasty, Liu Bang 刘邦, was not the smartest or the strongest or the bravest. But he was able to group together the most intelligent strategist Zhang Liang, and the military genius general Han Xin. He acknowledged that he was not as smart as Zhang Liang, and he could not win wars like Han Xin. But in the end, with the help of Zhang Liang and Han Xin, Liu Bang defeated Xiang Yu, the most fearsome warrior. Liu Bang become the emperor and ruled China.
Liu Bang eventually got rid of Han Xin, who became too arrogant. Zhang Liang, on the other hand, was smart enough to leave Liu bang to live a peaceful life, after helping him to become emperor.
I really learn a lot from this series. -
tamarind:
one become 狐假虎威 and the other knows the essence of 伴君如伴虎....so you see what a tiger the emperor was instead of a dignified dragon!!! :lol:
Liu Bang eventually got rid of Han Xin, who became too arrogant. Zhang Liang, on the other hand, was smart enough to leave Liu bang to live a peaceful life, after helping him to become emperor.
I really learn a lot from this series.
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