Me Time!

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MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124373\" time=\"1701837708\" user_id=\"43981:

Thanks all mommies for your very valuable inputs. Really appreciate it ..all kids are different and their differences also change over time and we seem to be forever learning on how to guide them.

We tried our own mtd and we see quite a non desirable outcome. Dh would like to continue let them have their says. But I m quite worried. So I think we may go for the middle way path. This morning another session of crying..really buay tahan right..but she later kind of accepted it..this time round I bring her beloved soft toy in..to help remind her of her other aims. After a good cry, things seem fine to me.

One side of me still wanted to check with school on the commitments etc but another side of me tell me better chop it off. I hope I can be determined enough this time round. My dh got a surprise this morning when I told him I don't mind if dd were to be unhappy with me. I have explained to dd and I hope she could really understand me.

I remember reading that your elder got A for CL in O level so sound like your experience is not so bad? What is non desirable outcome. I often misinterpret nowadays. Can be no A is non desirable. Or really C and below?

Crying due to CCA selection? It is only Dec; they have until 2nd week of Jan to decide correct? Do be mindful of kid's mental well being. Dont want kid to feel the drastic decision parent is making is to punish her for her PSLE results and scarred her before sec school even started.

Didnt parents swarm to choose affliated pri school so that they have less PSLE stress? So if she gets to proceed to her affliated sec school, that is not non-desirable. kid has not even started secondary school. Quite alarming. So what if can go IP. Look at the boy in IP in the news. Any happiness? desirable outcome? He should be quite brilliant, can study O level on his own in prison and achieved stellar results.

Kids being smiling (most of the time) and by our side is the ultimate importance. Nothing else matters.

[00skyblue00]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2124382\" time=\"1701841695\" user_id=\"28674:

Again, I don't want to be a wet blanket, but are you sure that she will be able to get into the CCA after a year? That seems to be what you are saying. I don't how it is with that particular school, but my impression is that some CCAs are very difficult to get into if the student doesn't join in Sec 1. You may want to check as it will be very disappointing for your daughter if she gets the grades but still can join the CCA.

Agree. Our school may be different. Cos we have affliation bonus points, so CCA points are not so critical as compared to other schools, I was told. And yes, require auditions. Not easy to mingle with peers and juniors as newbie.

[00skyblue00]

Also if she joins in sec 2 (2025), SYF year, she may not get to participate in SYF.


For me, I think sec 1 is ok to experiment, but sec 2 can monitor closer to get choice of subj combi. Similarly, sec 3 can let loose a bit and sec 4 … well, automatically, the pressure will build up.

[MrsKiasu]

00skyblue00, the non desirable outcome was referring to elder gal. Yes A1 and that’s may be all. We talking abt difficult going to Poly.

[MrsKiasu]

Coolkidsrock2\" post_id=\"2124381\" time=\"1701841686\" user_id=\"48901:

Agreed with you about kids being fully engaged.

Similarly told kids that they will need get a scholarship if they want go overseas. DD got it and \"announced\" she would be leaving for overseas, any discussion was not so relevant since it was funded.

That is such a good news!! Congratulations to ckr2 dd.

[MrsKiasu]

slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2124383\" time=\"1701842311\" user_id=\"28674:

Asking for a friend, and posting here as there was no response on the Autism thread.

Does anyone have a recommendation for a good private psychologist who can do the assessment for Autism? For a teenager. Thanks!

Slmkhoo, I always wonder if confirming it still helps?

[sharonkhoo]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124392\" time=\"1701846420\" user_id=\"43981:

Slmkhoo, I always wonder if confirming it still helps?

You mean ASD? It helps if you need to get accommodations, support etc. My daughter was offered some accommodations for exams (which we found didn't help anyway, so didn't use them), but more importantly, she was cut a bit more slack when she had difficulties in school and university (like misunderstanding instructions, having issues with group work, etc), and eventually got help in finding a job.

Some parents just want to get a professional diagnosis to get confirmation of the fact. Or they want to get professional therapy. Some will stop there and prefer not to ask for accommodations if they don't really need to. We didn't really need confirmation, but we realised that if we wanted accommodations and help, we needed the formal diagnosis.

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slmkhoo\" post_id=\"2124383\" time=\"1701842311\" user_id=\"28674:

Asking for a friend, and posting here as there was no response on the Autism thread.

Does anyone have a recommendation for a good private psychologist who can do the assessment for Autism? For a teenager. Thanks!

i've pmed u. yr mileage might vary.

[Coolkidsrock2]

MrsKiasu\" post_id=\"2124391\" time=\"1701846002\" user_id=\"43981:

That is such a good news!! Congratulations to ckr2 dd.

Thanks, am sharing from context that your DDs will be fine.

Think my kids are further academically at the same point in time. But they learned from young how to manage and deal with set-backs and disappointments, so I do not really need to worry about them as they know what they want and how to achieve it. And they know how to pick themselves up to move on.

[MrsKiasu]

Coolkidsrock2\" post_id=\"2124399\" time=\"1701852719\" user_id=\"48901:

Thanks, am sharing from context that your DDs will be fine.

Think my kids are further academically at the same point in time. But they learned from young how to manage and deal with set-backs and disappointments, so I do not really need to worry about them as they know what they want and how to achieve it. And they know how to pick themselves up to move on.

Yours is a very good example. Both dh & I were all ready the see them fall and stand up and learn from there..but you know what. Now I m very scared of seeing them losing hope and slowly getting withdrawn. Maybe due to environment they growing up in..