Me Time!
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phtthp\" post_id=\"2123973\" time=\"1701216479\" user_id=\"35251:
True. 9 in 10 Pri school kids I know had shared that they would quit Chinese tuition if their parents allow! Lol
In Singapore context, kids usually tend to attend tuition, in .... Chinese and Maths.
No need to attend tuition in ALL PSLE subjects, but
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Imp75\" post_id=\"2123979\" time=\"1701219032\" user_id=\"2358:
I reckon I spent the most tuition fees was when they were in Pri School. When I managed to get them into IP, I quit all tuition.
For my kids, it was a need-to basis in pri Sch as this mother cannot teach Chinese (yes my CL sucks) and I needed to push my younger ones to a different level based on this “weakest” subject. Not a bad investment I must say cos I started them late and it was $200/mth for combined CL/HCL (4 components) and I recouped them back when they were awarded ESIS for 6y.
Come sec Sch and jc now, no tuition cos probs do not make any difference and no national exams. Don’t think will do anything different for J2 unless they ask for last minute help (eg GP) which to me, is probably a small cost considering the duration.
Thereafter, which subject jialak, then start tuition for that subject. Of cos JC2 is different again, as long as my 18yo willing to attend, then just go cos A level is a major exam!
Talking about good/bad investment: When I look back, it’s not because I don’t want to send my kids to Eng/Math/Sc quality tuition at TLL. But it’s because TLL fees are very expensive. If FOC for my kids, I will probably send! -
lee_yl\" post_id=\"2123997\" time=\"1701228069\" user_id=\"17023:
If the Child is interested to study Business Administration, he/she still can go SIM University, Singapore Polytechnic or even ITE to study, the freedom is there but only not under any special tertiary institutions.
Regarding freedom to choose, what the child just wants to go SMU to do a Business Degree, nothing too outlandish but if the results are not there, the child will be deprived of the “freedom to choose”. -
lee_yl\" post_id=\"2123997\" time=\"1701228069\" user_id=\"17023:
Letting them childhood does not mean can dont do homework. Still do work and study. Only diff is parents do not follow everyone to sign kids up for tuition. One elder boy actually went local uni after poly. The kids will do what they know is good for them and learnt their ways if parents let them. I dont see the outcome being different now that they turn adults. But when they were young, before I had mine, I was wondering too, if this is alright as their results were enough to be in express but nearer 200 mark. The family is close and now I see why; they have more time together as family doing family things. kids are helping each other too. All three had a full education and decent jobs.
My cousin gives her kids full freedom to do what they enjoy after a long day in school. The boy usually plays Lego and the girl watches YouTube, do art and craft, just that they do not attend any tuition. That doesn’t mean a lack of parenting as the kids are taught good manners and my cousin also spends quality time bonding with them.
The kids receive Good Progress Award. In fact, from what I see, mother and child relationship is very strong. No one in the family gets upset over poor academic results.
So your definition of full childhood is the freedom to choose what they want to be be, can be a nurse or an engineer, by their own means. What if the child’s dream is to be a doctor? Then how? For kids who wants to get into coveted courses, the competition is cut throat. It is the same for popular Poly courses. The only recourse is to start the academic preparations early
Regarding freedom to choose, what the child just wants to go SMU to do a Business Degree, nothing too outlandish but if the results are not there, the child will be deprived of the “freedom to choose”.
Recently, I was told, a girl had 1-1 private tuition from P1 to P6 as parents cannot teach and wanted to provide best things for only child. Kid got AL10 and was disappointed to missed RV COP. Was told they will continue this tuition approach in sec school. Many kids have 2 to 2 subjects tuition, more in upp sec.
I shall take my leave from this topic from here. Thanks for the discussion. -
At the end of day, parents should know what works for the kids and what they want kids to achieve out of the education process. Having said that, of cos many succumbed to peer pressure and started loading kids with tuition . Wise or not, difficult for outsiders to judge but watch out for mental health issues. For me, haha, not gonna spend so much on my kids cos don’t see need (I hv better needs to save for my retirement). I think my kids can figure out la or if not, the local education system should be able to absorb them for further education.
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Where is a good, cheap place to get small quantities (<10 pieces) of 4R photos printed? What’s the price these days? I see Fotohub is charging $0.60 per piece. Is that the norm now? Any other recommendations?
I used to print my own with my inkjet printer, but don’t have it any more. -
Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2124003\" time=\"1701229045\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2124003 time=1701229045 user_id=195250]
I am not sure should that even considered as “freedom of choice”? Precisely to avoid such lack of options, parents invest heavily on their children’s education.
If the Child is interested to study Business Administration, he/she still can go SIM University, Singapore Polytechnic or even ITE to study, the freedom is there but only not under any special tertiary institutions.[/quote]
Many love their HDB abodes but would move to stay in a GCB if given the choice. That to me, is not considered “freedom of choice” because many cannot afford to live in GCB in the first place and learn to love their HDB. -
00skyblue00\" post_id=\"2124009\" time=\"1701233083\" user_id=\"143605:
I have a few friends/relatives with ONLY one child. Most can’t have more kids due to medical reasons. The love for their only child is beyond what I can describe.
Recently, I was told, a girl had 1-1 private tuition from P1 to P6 as parents cannot teach and wanted to provide best things for only child. Kid got AL10 and was disappointed to missed RV COP. Was told they will continue this tuition approach in sec school. Many kids have 2 to 2 subjects tuition, more in upp sec.
I shall take my leave from this topic from here. Thanks for the discussion.
Many parents believe that the biggest gift they can give to their children is the best education they can provide. What your friend does to her child is out of love, definitely not out to torture her. You think your friend will provide tuition for a stranger’s kid? Who minds having more money on hand?
For me I won’t send my kids for tuition for all the subjects at TLL or 1-1 because I have more than one kid and admittedly, I am a Scrooge. -
Imp75\" post_id=\"2124013\" time=\"1701233787\" user_id=\"2358:
If I recall correctly, you once shared how you quit a high flying job for a few years to groom your kids. Isn’t it another form of investment in them? I would suppose the lost income for that few years should count towards your investment in them
At the end of day, parents should know what works for the kids and what they want kids to achieve out of the education process. Having said that, of cos many succumbed to peer pressure and started loading kids with tuition . Wise or not, difficult for outsiders to judge but watch out for mental health issues. For me, haha, not gonna spend so much on my kids cos don’t see need (I hv better needs to save for my retirement). I think my kids can figure out la or if not, the local education system should be able to absorb them for further education. -
lee_yl\" post_id=\"2124024\" time=\"1701240893\" user_id=\"17023:
Yes indeed that was true. But the “happiness” and “time spent” with them can’t really be quantified……so in this case, quantitatively it was a “bad” investment decision haha cos my opportunity cost was so much more. But holistically I think money loss can’t measure up to the “joys” accompanying them in their various milestones.
If I recall correctly, you once shared how you quit a high flying job for a few years to groom your kids. Isn’t it another form of investment in them? I would suppose the lost income for that few years should count towards your investment in them
Indeed it was a very difficult decision to stop work cos it was a “bad” investment decision. Nevertheless it was impt bc I was ranting at them every night after work (stressed and tired) . I did beat myself up after being SAHM by setting ownself KPIs (self-tortured haha) whereby if I don’t hit, I’ll return to work. I know a bit Seow right (my hubs said so) but I guess that’s the Singaporean spirit? We were brought up this way to survive isn’t it?
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