Me Time!
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It’s fine when a kid is willing and happy to go for tuitions and the parents can afford. The issues is
when a kid doesn’t want to go tuitions but the parents force him/her to go. Why not to let the kid have a say? -
In Singapore context, kids usually tend to attend tuition, in … Chinese and Maths.
No need to attend tuition in ALL PSLE subjects, but
(Chinese + Maths) often are the two most popular ones in demand, for tuition. -
For my kids, it was a need-to basis in pri Sch as this mother cannot teach Chinese (yes my CL sucks) and I needed to push my younger ones to a different level based on this “weakest” subject. Not a bad investment I must say cos I started them late and it was $200/mth for combined CL/HCL (4 components) and I recouped them back when they were awarded ESIS for 6y.
Come sec Sch and jc now, no tuition cos probs do not make any difference and no national exams. Don’t think will do anything different for J2 unless they ask for last minute help (eg GP) which to me, is probably a small cost considering the duration. -
00skyblue00\" post_id=\"2123969\" time=\"1701209062\" user_id=\"143605:
My cousin gives her kids full freedom to do what they enjoy after a long day in school. The boy usually plays Lego and the girl watches YouTube, do art and craft, just that they do not attend any tuition. That doesn’t mean a lack of parenting as the kids are taught good manners and my cousin also spends quality time bonding with them.
Full childhood does not mean no parenting. Parenting is for ensuring the child learning the basic discipline, know right from wrong, social norm and good character building.
So full childhood does not mearn only whole day toys and youtube.
Yes, I have a few around me. Not applicable to your children though.
One relative decided from day 1, gave 3 children freedom to become who they want to be and within own means. To me is good enough in Sg terms to be full childhood but with parenting ways.
All three did poly. Eg. youngest did private uni in sg (overseas based), then internship at SGH and alr got job offer by SGH before graduation (only last year). No, it was not nursing or healthcare, but she did business planning/mangement related to healthcare. All three grad from pri uni and are working and one even has own family. Was told the extra fees are comparable to what parents nowadays are paying for tuition. the youngest even grad earlier than her batch from A level route to local uni.
Another case, parent was from poly to pri uni. hence from day 1 already decided no need to chase the paper like others. Alr planned for her 3 kids to do pri uni after poly. But one managed to do better and doing A level in JC. The youngest still in sec, can choose either.
Just sharing. PArents can do the math and calculate how much they have spent and going to spend on tuition for the child's whole journey. I do not object if child go tuition for the right reasons. For example, sch teacher keep changing or assigned temp teacher is lousy, child asked for tuition/help. By all means, as parents if we can, provide and support as much as we think we should, there is no sin in seeking help/tuition. We just have to ensure that child will not become impaired if over-reliant on tuition. because tuition providers are mostly not trained in pedagogy and child psychology. Children may be learning the wrong ways of learning and still arrive at the correct answers.
PEace
The kids receive Good Progress Award. In fact, from what I see, mother and child relationship is very strong. No one in the family gets upset over poor academic results.
So your definition of full childhood is the freedom to choose what they want to be be, can be a nurse or an engineer, by their own means. What if the child’s dream is to be a doctor? Then how? For kids who wants to get into coveted courses, the competition is cut throat. It is the same for popular Poly courses. The only recourse is to start the academic preparations early
Regarding freedom to choose, what the child just wants to go SMU to do a Business Degree, nothing too outlandish but if the results are not there, the child will be deprived of the “freedom to choose”. -
phtthp\" post_id=\"2123973\" time=\"1701216479\" user_id=\"35251:
True. 9 in 10 Pri school kids I know had shared that they would quit Chinese tuition if their parents allow! Lol
In Singapore context, kids usually tend to attend tuition, in .... Chinese and Maths.
No need to attend tuition in ALL PSLE subjects, but
(Chinese + Maths) often are the two most popular ones in demand, for tuition. -
Imp75\" post_id=\"2123979\" time=\"1701219032\" user_id=\"2358:
I reckon I spent the most tuition fees was when they were in Pri School. When I managed to get them into IP, I quit all tuition.
For my kids, it was a need-to basis in pri Sch as this mother cannot teach Chinese (yes my CL sucks) and I needed to push my younger ones to a different level based on this “weakest” subject. Not a bad investment I must say cos I started them late and it was $200/mth for combined CL/HCL (4 components) and I recouped them back when they were awarded ESIS for 6y.
Come sec Sch and jc now, no tuition cos probs do not make any difference and no national exams. Don’t think will do anything different for J2 unless they ask for last minute help (eg GP) which to me, is probably a small cost considering the duration.
Thereafter, which subject jialak, then start tuition for that subject. Of cos JC2 is different again, as long as my 18yo willing to attend, then just go cos A level is a major exam!
Talking about good/bad investment: When I look back, it’s not because I don’t want to send my kids to Eng/Math/Sc quality tuition at TLL. But it’s because TLL fees are very expensive. If FOC for my kids, I will probably send! -
lee_yl\" post_id=\"2123997\" time=\"1701228069\" user_id=\"17023:
If the Child is interested to study Business Administration, he/she still can go SIM University, Singapore Polytechnic or even ITE to study, the freedom is there but only not under any special tertiary institutions.
Regarding freedom to choose, what the child just wants to go SMU to do a Business Degree, nothing too outlandish but if the results are not there, the child will be deprived of the “freedom to choose”. -
lee_yl\" post_id=\"2123997\" time=\"1701228069\" user_id=\"17023:
Letting them childhood does not mean can dont do homework. Still do work and study. Only diff is parents do not follow everyone to sign kids up for tuition. One elder boy actually went local uni after poly. The kids will do what they know is good for them and learnt their ways if parents let them. I dont see the outcome being different now that they turn adults. But when they were young, before I had mine, I was wondering too, if this is alright as their results were enough to be in express but nearer 200 mark. The family is close and now I see why; they have more time together as family doing family things. kids are helping each other too. All three had a full education and decent jobs.
My cousin gives her kids full freedom to do what they enjoy after a long day in school. The boy usually plays Lego and the girl watches YouTube, do art and craft, just that they do not attend any tuition. That doesn’t mean a lack of parenting as the kids are taught good manners and my cousin also spends quality time bonding with them.
The kids receive Good Progress Award. In fact, from what I see, mother and child relationship is very strong. No one in the family gets upset over poor academic results.
So your definition of full childhood is the freedom to choose what they want to be be, can be a nurse or an engineer, by their own means. What if the child’s dream is to be a doctor? Then how? For kids who wants to get into coveted courses, the competition is cut throat. It is the same for popular Poly courses. The only recourse is to start the academic preparations early
Regarding freedom to choose, what the child just wants to go SMU to do a Business Degree, nothing too outlandish but if the results are not there, the child will be deprived of the “freedom to choose”.
Recently, I was told, a girl had 1-1 private tuition from P1 to P6 as parents cannot teach and wanted to provide best things for only child. Kid got AL10 and was disappointed to missed RV COP. Was told they will continue this tuition approach in sec school. Many kids have 2 to 2 subjects tuition, more in upp sec.
I shall take my leave from this topic from here. Thanks for the discussion. -
At the end of day, parents should know what works for the kids and what they want kids to achieve out of the education process. Having said that, of cos many succumbed to peer pressure and started loading kids with tuition . Wise or not, difficult for outsiders to judge but watch out for mental health issues. For me, haha, not gonna spend so much on my kids cos don’t see need (I hv better needs to save for my retirement). I think my kids can figure out la or if not, the local education system should be able to absorb them for further education.
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