Temper Tantrums
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smurf:
If he's not afraid of the cane, then perhaps you need to use the deprivation method or the positive discipline method. The positive way is harder but I try to use it.My boy not afraid of the caning sound... :lol:
In fact, he smile or laugh at the sound... :roll:
Negative: If you don't do your homework, you don't watch TV. (Deprivation)
Positive: You can watch TV after you do the homework. (Reward)
Many times, it's how we say it. We need to learn what pushes our kids' buttons. I find my son acts on it if I use the positive method.
Also, the cane won't instil fear if the parent doesn't look serious when disciplining. I have seen some mothers laugh while waving the cane like a magic wand, trying to discipline. That just makes the kid think it's fun to do the wrong thing. -
Hi smurf,
My son is very stubborn and wants his way most times. But he has met his match in me. I am the only one in the whole family that he’s afraid of. The grandparents spoil him, my DH gives in to avoid trouble… but I don’t let it go. So it’s impt that kids are afraid of someone.
Each time he whines and threatens to cry, I break the momentum by telling him to wash his face. He always obliges and though his mood is still bad, he restrains his tears. Sometimes, he will sit on the floor at home and stamp his foot. I usually dare him to roll on the floor. He will stop. He has never dared to throw tantrums in public so far.
I adopt reverse psychology on him sometimes and it works very well. He asks for sweets, I tell him he is coughing but he threatens to cry if not given. I show him the "give up" face, then tell him you want to eat you eat, coz it’s his health. Why bother? And he hesitates to take the sweet. -
Wow, your boy is quite sensible.
I have tried both ways u mentioned. Maybe he is still young. When I use cane, and when he knows that Im serious, sometimes he will be afraid, but after 5 mins, back to square one. Unless, I cane. When I cane, I cane really hard. And he will stop after that. Prior to that, nothing can stop him from being mischievous. -
:lol: not that he's sensible...he's just very scared of me... I look like a monster when I get angry.
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The point when u said he will hesitate when take a candy and eat, I think he is quite a thinker…
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The point when u said he will hesitate when take a candy and eat, I think he is quite a thinker…
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This is the 'terrible two' stage. The best is ignorance and occasionally use the cane. :spank:
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After reading many posts here, it seems parents have problems with children throwing tantrums, especially in public. During my times, we dun have such problems.
Throwing tantrums in public
My parents will ignore me, walk away and make sure I can’t find them and they themselves cannot find me.
Throwing tantrums at home
Chase the child out of the house, close the doors, no dinner and stay out until next morning.
Follow these 2 methods. Let me know if they don’t work. -
HoSayLiao:
hi,After reading many posts here, it seems parents have problems with children throwing tantrums, especially in public. During my times, we dun have such problems.
Throwing tantrums in public
My parents will ignore me, walk away and make sure I can't find them and they themselves cannot find me.
Throwing tantrums at home
Chase the child out of the house, close the doors, no dinner and stay out until next morning.
Follow these 2 methods. Let me know if they don't work.
do you have children of your own?
if so, have you tried the above methods? your wife or even your parents agreed to such methods of punishment? grandparents use different yardstick in the upbringing of their children and their grandchildren.... -
Hi jedamum
When I was growing up, the 2 methods are commonly used. Trust me, they will work. Every now and then, I would see children of my age locked out of the house. Almost every night, I can hear parents screaming and children cry from the next block, not the next door. I still remember that usually, the Indian father is the harshest caner. Hahaha!! The good old days indeed!!!
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