not on talking terms with hubby

[kiddo]

tracytmks:

i had tried to savalage this marriage by showinh him my concern

Tracy, focus on a few things , try not to rush too many thing
in a day, easy for me to say but will help you to cope a little
better, as a mum to have to juggle so much in a day with a
uncaring hubby is very tough. :ugogirl:

jia yu , jia yu :hi5:

[dolphinsiah]

tracytmks:

i had tried to savalage this marriage by showinh him my concern endup he said i nvr thinks of others his mil oso bot happy wif me. said i selfish all this while i hv sacrifice all my times to the kids at hm nobody knows or see it. he said his mum wan go the other bro hse n stay cause i was bad to her. he also must understand i m working everday rush hm like mad women do some chores then go bring my younder son is like mad women u know. somemore nite time got to wakeup sometimes the elder want will asked for milk n is very tiring not enough sleep. sometimes need mil to help look after coz i need to wash my clothes or keep. oso to teach my gal writing is this wrong? she isnot volunteer or spontaneous to help me of coz i will lose my temper looking at all the pressure i went thru. he still can comment only u tired others not. my gal is five this yr daytime mil no need do so much hsework she can rest tt shd benough. i work come hm fetch son play n look after them, i where got rest tell me who is more tired. he somemore say wan freedom ask me dont interfere. how i know wat he do outside who he goes out wif if i dont ask. he want go company event friends wedding i let him go as ling is in spore i dont mind. father of 2 shd b mature to think rite still wan enjoy n play. menvr think of others who come n think of me then i m going crazy. he outside got affair doesnt wan to admit. hv not ask him abt the osea calls

Tracy, reading your situation...reminds of myself...how spouse treated me when he was around... :skeptical:
Now he has RIP....
Maybe both of our spouse found us ....too independent.... :scratchhead:
Unlike some women...who let their husbands make most of the decision....
Men like to protect helpless women.... :imanangel:
Too bad ....I cannot behave like a 'xiao niu ren'.... :roll:
When he was around ...he always think he is still a young man...
Golfing...always dressed in Branded clothes....
Me like \"Xiao Chao Mo\"(crazy woman) :frustrated: ...rushing here and there....for the kids and work....

When he became ill....I stand by him through out his treatments....
Now he has RIP....I still like a crazy woman... :frustrated:
now I have more roles to fulfill ....
Cause kids still young.... :grphug:
But no choice ....I think my life is destinate not to have a Knight to look after me.... :stupid:

Grew up without a Dad ...now without a spouse to grow old with.... :scared:

But I have no choice....I am now my kids Protector...I cannot collapse... :razz:

So Tracy...for the sake of our kids ...we must be Strong..... :ugogirl:

[schweppes]

dolphinsiah:

Grew up without a Dad ...now without a spouse to grow old with.... :scared:

But I have no choice....I am now my kids Protector...I cannot collapse... :razz:

...for the sake of our kids ...we must be Strong..... :ugogirl:

Hi Dolphinsiah, I'm sorry for your loss. From your posts, I can't help but feel that you are a woman of strength. :salute: I wish you and your kids the very best and happiness in life. :udawoman:

[dolphinsiah]

schweppes:

dolphinsiah:

Grew up without a Dad ...now without a spouse to grow old with.... :scared:

But I have no choice....I am now my kids Protector...I cannot collapse... :razz:

...for the sake of our kids ...we must be Strong..... :ugogirl:

Hi Dolphinsiah, I'm sorry for your loss. From your posts, I can't help but feel that you are a woman of strength. :salute: I wish you and your kids the very best and happiness in life. :udawoman:

I hope to see light when my kids become independent....
And may all couples treasure each other ......and have a great marriage.... :love:
Don't take everything for grant..... :nunchuk:
Nobody owes us anything... :rant:
We are responsible for what we do.... :salute:

We bring the kids to this world ...we must protect and groom them to be Society Contributors not Destroyers..... :hi5:

For our next generation , we must be strong..... :please:

[Blue Pearl]

Salute You dolphinsiah

[libran269]

dolphinsiah:

schweppes:

[quote=\"dolphinsiah\"]
Grew up without a Dad ...now without a spouse to grow old with.... :scared:

But I have no choice....I am now my kids Protector...I cannot collapse... :razz:

...for the sake of our kids ...we must be Strong..... :ugogirl:

Hi Dolphinsiah, I'm sorry for your loss. From your posts, I can't help but feel that you are a woman of strength. :salute: I wish you and your kids the very best and happiness in life. :udawoman:

I hope to see light when my kids become independent....
And may all couples treasure each other ......and have a great marriage.... :love:
Don't take everything for grant..... :nunchuk:
Nobody owes us anything... :rant:
We are responsible for what we do.... :salute:

We bring the kids to this world ...we must protect and groom them to be Society Contributors not Destroyers..... :hi5:

For our next generation , we must be strong..... :please:[/quote]I joing the group of saluting dolphinsiah :salute:

[libran269]

dolphinsiah:

schweppes:

[quote=\"dolphinsiah\"]
Grew up without a Dad ...now without a spouse to grow old with.... :scared:

But I have no choice....I am now my kids Protector...I cannot collapse... :razz:

...for the sake of our kids ...we must be Strong..... :ugogirl:

Hi Dolphinsiah, I'm sorry for your loss. From your posts, I can't help but feel that you are a woman of strength. :salute: I wish you and your kids the very best and happiness in life. :udawoman:

I hope to see light when my kids become independent....
And may all couples treasure each other ......and have a great marriage.... :love:
Don't take everything for grant..... :nunchuk:
Nobody owes us anything... :rant:
We are responsible for what we do.... :salute:

We bring the kids to this world ...we must protect and groom them to be Society Contributors not Destroyers..... :hi5:

For our next generation , we must be strong..... :please:[/quote]I joing the group of saluting dolphinsiah :salute:

[ciaobella]

tracytmks & dolphinsiah, thank you for opening out this forum.

you made me feel so much better after hearing your stories.
I always thought why I have to go thru all "these" and why other families are so fortunate and happy…but now I realise when both your situations were much worse and yet you are still so "STRONG"

I always "blame" my mum (RIP) & grandma (RIP) for not helping or 保佑我.

why woman has to be the one that always 默默忍受 for the sake of the family ?
why man is selfish ?

[Mawar]

ciaobella:

tracytmks & dolphinsiah, thank you for opening out this forum.

you made me feel so much better after hearing your stories.
I always thought why I have to go thru all \"these\" and why other families are so fortunate and happy.....but now I realise when both your situations were much worse and yet you are still so \"STRONG\"

I always \"blame\" my mum (RIP) & grandma (RIP) for not helping or 保佑我.

why woman has to be the one that always 默默忍受 for the sake of the family ?
why man is selfish ?

Some men, not all, are selfish because women allowed, condoned and conditioned them to be so. From young I see my grandma offering choice pieces of food to the menfolk. I see it in my own mother and aunties even though they say boys or girls are equal. There are double standards in traditional families.

[starlight1968sg]

If "not on talking terms" means having a cold war, then I think it is quite common for married couples.