In-law problems?

[cherrygal]

I think our own personalities will decide whether we get bullied by our in-laws and husbands or not. If we are the quiet type who is afraid of speaking up, those MCPs and dragon MILs will get their way.


I will definitely teach my daughter to stand up for herself and never be cornered into situations like what some of the KSP sistas have suffered. My mom always coached me from her own experience so I have learnt to be tough.

I also told my DH before, I will be polite and friendly to everyone but if ILs wanna be unfriendly, I will also be unfriendly. Don’t expect me to be submissive. My BIL is super rude, doesn’t even say hello to his own parents or people at MIL’s house. My son and I greeted him last time but he chose to ignore my son and me. My MIL even told my son to always greet BIL. I told DS he can stop greeting him if pple dun return the greeting.

If DH wanna be mama’s boy, then he should live with his mama and not get married.

Topics such as these (living with who’s parents, childcare arrangements, how to handle such bullying situations etc) should be discussed even before marriage, recorded in black and white and signed.

[duriz]

hapydino:

my MIL wanted a name that sounds Bright and Shiny which is GOOD is her opinion..


she suggested 亮晶 or did she mean 亮金??

me, DH, DH's sister all go HUH???

piangz :faint:

[duriz]

RRMummy:

An ex-colleague of mine used to tell us youngsters long ago, \"When you choose your husband/wife, make sure that they are either orphans or their mom has already passed away!!\"


Sounds nasty eh...but at that time, he was happily married for 40 over years to his childhood sweetheart.. and they were so very loving.. so go figure..

Sound advice.

[duriz]

cherrygal:

Topics such as these (living with who's parents, childcare arrangements, how to handle such bullying situations etc) should be discussed even before marriage, recorded in black and white and signed.

Like a Singaporean-style pre-nup :celebrate:

[janet88]

cherrygal:

I think our own personalities will decide whether we get bullied by our in-laws and husbands or not. If we are the quiet type who is afraid of speaking up, those MCPs and dragon MILs will get their way.


I will definitely teach my daughter to stand up for herself.

If DH wanna be mama's boy, then he should live with his mama and not get married.

My mum told me to be polite to the old lady, so fine, I'll do it. But in doing so, she climbs on top of my head thinking I can be 'swallowed'.
I told hubby that when daughter grows up, I want her to be strong and know what kind of man she is going to marry. Please open 2 eyes and observe.

[auntieM]

duriz:

hapydino:

my MIL wanted a name that sounds Bright and Shiny which is GOOD is her opinion..


she suggested 亮晶 or did she mean 亮金??

me, DH, DH's sister all go HUH???

piangz :faint:

Can say..'orbit cha cha' or not?
The main issue here with the name given here is 'given by MIL'..
Not important how bad it sounds.. with my MIL also same same..
Heng DH didn't let her have it her way..

[cherrygal]

duriz:

RRMummy:

An ex-colleague of mine used to tell us youngsters long ago, \"When you choose your husband/wife, make sure that they are either orphans or their mom has already passed away!!\"


Sounds nasty eh...but at that time, he was happily married for 40 over years to his childhood sweetheart.. and they were so very loving.. so go figure..

Sound advice.

Yah, heard that before. Also, better to marry those with no sisters coz MIL will be very close to their own daughters and if those daughters speak bad about you, the MIL will also not like you. That happened to my mom.

[duriz]

janet_lee88:

I told hubby that when daughter grows up, I want her to be strong and know what kind of man she is going to marry. Please open 2 eyes and observe.

That's what my Daddy told me when I met DH.
He said:\"Keep your eyes open and your legs closed\".

[janet88]

duriz:

hapydino:

my MIL wanted a name that sounds Bright and Shiny which is GOOD is her opinion..


she suggested 亮晶 or did she mean 亮金??

me, DH, DH's sister all go HUH???

piangz :faint:

What 亮晶晶 ah ? My SIL is not Cantonese, and she approached a feng shui master to choose her daughter's name. I have her to thank for, in not agreeing to the obiang traditional middle names.

[auntieM]

janet_lee88,

MILs really went to the same 'school'!
Mind went a step further and complain to my mother that 'your daughter won't let me ride(swallow).. :shock:
:faint:

That was a decade ago.. nowadays she kept telling me about 'forgive and forget'...yah yah