In-law problems?

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

u got it dear!


same for disciplinary. never discipline kids one. so that no one will reject her.

NEVER will she do anything which will make her look like a MONSTER to the grandchildren. So if stay together, she will always defend the kids and mummy will not be able to discipline them. I have an agreement with hubby - when I discipline kids, we have to stand together.

[24hr-mum]

u r damn right.

unfortunately my hubby is alwaz overseas or wkg late.
not there to witness.

i had to discipline my kids in my rm last time. no use doing it in front cos it will only make my kids go to her arms more.
kids are smart. know who is their 靠山

[janet88]

24hr-mum:

u r damn right.

unfortunately my hubby is alwaz overseas or wkg late.
not there to witness.

i had to discipline my kids in my rm last time. no use doing it in front cos it will only make my kids go to her arms more.
kids are smart. know who is their 靠山

Fortunately I don't stay with her...otherwise my kids will be spoilt brats...unable to tell good from bad, right from wrong, difference between clean and dirty. She thinks she is doing the right thing all the time...when actually she is not.

Since her dear daughter wants her children to be close to grandparents, the both of them better go to US and spoil their grandchildren all they want....better still if stay for good, which is not impossible bcos she will have to cook every meal.

[tracytmks]

last time she use to keep i told her keep one or two is fine so we threw the rest away cause wen my gal is abt one plus she take go n play. now my mil will keep it srcretly in her wardrobe so tt i will not know hahaha. dont understand y old ppl like to keep things while me is the lesser things the better :?

[24hr-mum]

my biggest worry is if the mil recycled a detergent container and put food or some misleading item in it and never label!

[janet88]

I told hubby I’m very pissed with his family…his brother has a child one year older than mine…but forget about asking any info related to school bcos it’s as good as not asking :x wife is worse…cannot understand why, since the kids are not of same age. No competition right ?

[janet88]

LKVM:

janet_lee88:

I told hubby I'm very pissed with his family...his brother has a child one year older than mine...but forget about asking any info related to school bcos it's as good as not asking :x wife is worse...cannot understand why, since the kids are not of same age. No competition right ?

Maybe dont want ur child to be in the same school as him

Aiyoh, his brother's kid is a girl and has affiliated sec school unlike my son. Put it simply...selfish lah.

[cherrygal]

If your dh’s brother isn’t close to your dh, then why should he answer questions about the kids?


I wouldn’t bother to talk to him at all in this case… I also don’t want him to know too much about my kids…

Even if not the same year or gender, there is still indirect competition like who’s seen to be smarter by the grandparents. I know because my relatives are like that. Each year, my auntie would ask all the relatives how their children did for the exams… Another aunt always refused to answer her probing questions by ignoring her. Selfish? Maybe… but I think she’s not talking as she doesn’t want comparisons. Could also be due to inferiority complex.

[LOLMum]

i think another reason why they didnt want to share information is they didnt want to be held accountable for anything bad that happened. for example should they say school A is great and the relative put her kid there based on what they said and things are not the way it turned out, guess who might get the blame for giving wrong information.

[janet88]

cherrygal:

If your dh's brother isn't close to your dh, then why should he answer questions about the kids?


I wouldn't bother to talk to him at all in this case... I also don't want him to know too much about my kids...

Even if not the same year or gender, there is still indirect competition like who's seen to be smarter by the grandparents. I know because my relatives are like that. Each year, my auntie would ask all the relatives how their children did for the exams...

Same here...from young, this particular auntie will be comparing results between myself and her daughter, then later will be comparing boyfriends. Irritating !!! Fortunately now can't compare the kids bcos cousin's son is very much younger than mine.

As for hubby's brother, I was so put off by his snobbishness...possibly learnt from his wife. Asked my hubby, 'Your son's school got 100% passess for PSLE or not ? My daughter's school has it. Daughter is part of school choir. She is even busier than me now with involvement in so many school teams'. Damn chessed off by him...he wasn't like this when I first know him. Sickening.