In-law problems?
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coolit:
I am worried that one day if my FIL is no longer around, my MIL will demand to stay with one of her children and she will probably choose my hubby as he is her favourite. Then, I also cannot object as it will seem mean to ask her to stay on her own.
Yup! Scary! I am still scared even though we have invited BOTH old folks to stay with us. Normal to feel scared I think. Men go to war feeling scared too, but they still go because like you, they know that they cannot say no.
And nah... everyone shortens my name. -
Chenonceau:
Problems will arise when either of his parents go...if his father goes first, then she may go back to Malaysia...but if she goes first, there will be a BIG problem as his father is harder to handle. Hubby is favourite son because they have one common topic - soccer.coolit:
I am worried that one day if my FIL is no longer around, my MIL will demand to stay with one of her children and she will probably choose my hubby as he is her favourite. Then, I also cannot object as it will seem mean to ask her to stay on her own.
Yup! Scary! I am still scared even though we have invited BOTH old folks to stay with us. -
janet_lee88:
Problems will arise when either of his parents go...if his father goes first, then she may go back to Malaysia...but if she goes first, there will be a BIG problem as his father is harder to handle. Hubby is favourite son because they have one common topic - soccer.[/quote]One of my gf was having such difficult plight when her FIL passed away. She has no choice but to stay together with her MIL as her hb was the only child. This was where her nightmare began....Chenonceau:
[quote=\"coolit\"]I am worried that one day if my FIL is no longer around, my MIL will demand to stay with one of her children and she will probably choose my hubby as he is her favourite. Then, I also cannot object as it will seem mean to ask her to stay on her own.
Yup! Scary! I am still scared even though we have invited BOTH old folks to stay with us.
Her MIL is the stereotype of a traditional woman. My gf had hard time after work where she has to do all housework including cooking all by herself. Her MIL even expected her to return home to cook dinner before 7pm so that her son could hv dinner when he is back fr work.
During her payday, my gf will normally pamper herself by buying clothes or shoes. Her MIL will accuse my gf of spending her son's money and made a big fuss about it. My gf tried to defend herself but her retort made her MIL more angry. In the end, this mere trifle bought a huge quarrel between my gf and her hb.
By hearing such scary stories and don't want to lead the same miserable life as my gf, I hv decided not to stay with my IL even this will make me landed in hell. Fortunately, my IL is staying with my BIL. -
Chenonceau:
I know it is the right thing to do but I feel bad to say but I dread that day. But likecoolit:
I am worried that one day if my FIL is no longer around, my MIL will demand to stay with one of her children and she will probably choose my hubby as he is her favourite. Then, I also cannot object as it will seem mean to ask her to stay on her own.
Yup! Scary! I am still scared even though we have invited BOTH old folks to stay with us. Normal to feel scared I think. Men go to war feeling scared too, but they still go because like you, they know that they cannot say no.
And nah... everyone shortens my name.
you say, it is about having to the courage to do the right thing. Courage not
being the absence of fear but doing the right thing in spite of the fear-forgot
where I heard this but it sounds good and makes sense haha.
Anyway, I hope I can muster enough courage and really love her lah if that happens.
This is off topic, but just curious what does your name mean?
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ectanz:
When there are more siblings to share the load of looking after ILs, it helps a lot.
One of my gf was having such difficult plight when her FIL passed away. She has no choice but to stay together with her MIL as her hb was the only child. This was where her nightmare began....janet_lee88:
Problems will arise when either of his parents go...if his father goes first, then she may go back to Malaysia...but if she goes first, there will be a BIG problem as his father is harder to handle. Hubby is favourite son because they have one common topic - soccer.
Her MIL is the stereotype of a traditional woman. My gf had hard time after work where she has to do all housework including cooking all by herself. Her MIL even expected her to return home to cook dinner before 7pm so that her son could hv dinner when he is back fr work.
During her payday, my gf will normally pamper herself by buying clothes or shoes. Her MIL will accuse my gf of spending her son's money and made a big fuss about it. My gf tried to defend herself but her retort made her MIL more angry. In the end, this mere trifle bought a huge quarrel between my gf and her hb.
By hearing such scary stories and don't want to lead the same miserable life as my gf, I hv decided not to stay with my IL even this will make me landed in hell. Fortunately, my IL is staying with my BIL.
Your story makes me shudder, thankfully my hubby does not quarrel with me
over his mum. That is one thing I can be grateful for. -
Coolit ... check this out for the meaning of my nick. In my opinion, it is the most beautiful castle in the world brimming with stories of great love, great intrigue and spy seductions... http://petunialee.blogspot.com/2010/01/chateau-de-chenonceau.html
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Chenonceau:
Coolit ... check this out for the meaning of my nick. In my opinion, it is the most beautiful castle in the world brimming with stories of great love, great intrigue and spy seductions... http://petunialee.blogspot.com/2010/01/chateau-de-chenonceau.html
Oh beautiful castle and built by a woman too! Is that your blog? -
coolit:
Yup! Dat's ma blog!Chenonceau:
Coolit ... check this out for the meaning of my nick. In my opinion, it is the most beautiful castle in the world brimming with stories of great love, great intrigue and spy seductions... http://petunialee.blogspot.com/2010/01/chateau-de-chenonceau.html
Oh beautiful castle and built by a woman too! Is that your blog? -
Even though hubby has other siblings, the old ones have preferences who they want to stay with. The mother likes this son, while the father may prefer another kid.
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Chenonceau:
Have not really read through but saw some of your posts on food. Yum:)
Yup! Dat's ma blog!
So you were stationed in France for a while? Sorry I think I am off topic liao.
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