In-law problems?
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auntieM:
Hi racoon12,
Quite a few MILs mentioned in this thread are Oscar winning actresses.. ..
Just have to stay sane handling them.. ...
Ha ha ha... mine also a potential oscar winning actress (plus a Teochew too). She used to cry and act pitiful in front of my DH or cry over the phone. But when called me up at my office, her voice was full of \"power\". That was many many years ago when we were married for 3, 4 years. Now, she doesn't play this \"trick\" cos my DH has finally \"realised\" what his dear mother is capable of. What she likes to do now is put words in my mouth. I was shocked the first time she did that. She blantantly said that I was the one who said this and that when she was the one who wanted to do it. I don't even want to talk to her anymore. -
If that dialect group association is true, I say gd luck to my future DIL. I’m teochew n peranakan. So you get wayang plus overbearing.
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I don’t think it’s fair to say that Teochew mils are wayang and overbearing. It depends on the personality of the mil, NOT the DIALECT GROUP.
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Chenonceau:
If you are collecting evidence, you might as well do it properly. Collect over 12 months and then surprise her... Kekekekekekeke! :evil:[/quote]If I want to collect evidence, it's to show my hubby how 2-faced his mother is. Mine here is Hakka but behaves like she is Cantonese. She even looks down her sister's children...it's obvious she is not a nice person.
When it's just she and I in the kitchen, her horns will appear and irritating stuff will come out from her mouth. However, when hubby walks into the kitchen, she becomes an 'angel'...behaves like so innocent and harmless. :slapshead:janet_lee88:
[quote=\"Angelight\"]My MIL is also another 'great' actress. She will pretend to be nice and concerned to me in front of relatives or our mutual church friends, but when it's just me and her, she just ignores me and treats me as transparent.
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Why some MIL so mean? Could it be they got nothing better to do? Like no hobby, so making things difficult for DIL and want to be involved in everything becomes her hobby? if ILs got own programs, will they still find time to be so concern about their DIL? Just wondering..... :?
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sall:
I don't think it's fair to say that Teochew mils are wayang and overbearing. It depends on the personality of the mil, NOT the DIALECT GROUP.
No lah... Funz was poking fun at herself only. :rotflmao:
Right Funz?
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Flowermonaster:
Why some MIL so mean? Could it be they got nothing better to do? Like no hobby, so making things difficult for DIL and want to be involved in everything becomes her hobby? if ILs got own programs, will they still find time to be so concern about their DIL? Just wondering..... :?
it is like a circle (no beginning no ending). many people (past, current and future) do not know how to be parents. most (especially our grandparents and parents) follow the examples of their parents and the families they married into. to them especially the women, \"oh i was treated in this manner, so this should be the way i handle my kids/sil/dil\" (kinda like tradition :siao: ).
the family values and how a family is raised play a part in how the kids want his own future family to be like. that is also why so many highly educated parents still put the value of a boy above a girl cos' that's their family value for many generations.
besides, there were limited parenting books, internet access etc available in spore some 20 years ago especially for the average joe.
honestly, if i have to handle difficult family members, i dont know what kind of person i would be now. just like a village girl living in a city for a few years, how much of that \"purity\" would she be able to retain. -
LOLMum:
Could it be human nature? My friend told me his nephew, who is in Army now, was being purposely \"punished\" by his corporal (don't know if that's what they called). He said next time he will do the same to those newly enrol army boys. :yikes:
it is like a circle (no beginning no ending). many people (past, current and future) do not know how to be parents. most (especially our grandparents and parents) follow the examples of their parents and the families they married into. to them especially the women, \"oh i was treated in this manner, so this should be the way i handle my kids/sil/dil\" (kinda like tradition :siao: ).
It could be the same as MIL's mentality! :siao: -
haha, maybe is an eye for an eye mentality. :rotflmao:
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Dear Mummies,
I would like to apologise for stepping into the dialect group when i venting my anger. So sorry…
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