In-law problems?

[mummy of 2]

Yup mine speaks Cantonese which isn’t my dialect. I also believe in karma. Trying to stop my kids from too much contact with sil and niece.

[mummy of 2]

If it’s purely an issue that has no repercussion on me I’m happy to let things be.

[just888]

mummy of 2:

Yup mine speaks Cantonese which isn't my dialect. I also believe in karma. Trying to stop my kids from too much contact with sil and niece.

Hi-5! mine in-laws are also cantonese. I only understand hokkien and teochew. Me no need to stop my son for mixing as they auto never appear in front of us for a long long time. I doubt the cousins even knew each other by face if meet on the road.

[mummy of 2]

How I wish no need to see them also. They come every week

[LOLMum]

just888:

Does anyone in-laws communicate with hubby in a dialect or language that you do not understand when u are around? Sounded as if they are comment about u yet do not want u to know like that.

my mil and sil do communicate in dialect which i dont understand and sometimes with dh too. however dh only understand it but cant speak it.

i am fine with it cos what i dont understand dont bother me. also my mum only knew hakka and a bit of mandarin and cantonese so we in the family also only spoke to her in hakka in front of dh.

[auntieM]

Haha... ...I am Hakka too LOLMum.. ..

MIL will rattle of in her dialect when the issue not meant for my ears..
Makan sessions when and when, more gambling debts to be cleared, DH to attend never ending gatherings... :faint:
DH quite bochap nowadays..

[LOLMum]

LOLMum:

my mil and sil do communicate in dialect which i dont understand and sometimes with dh too. however dh only understand it but cant speak it.

i am fine with it cos what i dont understand dont bother me. also my mum only knew hakka and a bit of mandarin and cantonese so we in the family also only spoke to her in hakka in front of dh.

oop,s forgot to say that just like my mum, my mil only speak to her kids in her dialect. when kids got married, no choice but to speak cantonese cos' sils and dils dont understand the dialect. so no deliberate effort to sideline any1 of us.

[LOLMum]

auntieM:

Haha... ...I am Hakka too LOLMum.. ..

:snuggles: it is a dying dialect.

[ningning]

just888:

I stayed with my in-laws after marriage for 2 years before we got our own place. Despite having our own place, we didn't shift our things out and still go back and stay with them on and off throughout the years so as not to give up our bedroom to my SIL. Sometimes whole weekdays if not weekends to prevent my in-laws being bullied by my SIL's family. I do not have in-laws problem as they still treat me rather nice. My problem is only with my selfish SIL.


My SIL had been eyeing my hubby's bedroom since we got our own place. She want to come back and stay with my in-laws too but then keep complaining her current room too small for her family (2A3C). Both she and her hubby loves to tax on my in-laws to help them. Even now not staying together, she wants my MIL in the evening to go over her place and help her with her 3 kids when they are all back at home then ask my FIL/hubby would go and fetch MIL after 10pm home when their kids are asleep. I ever ask my MIL, how come SIL does not let her sleep over instead? They did not even provide a mattress in their mansionette for my MIL! *faint*.

oh you and your hubby were kind enough then, to fetch your MIL home from your SIL place after 10pm. For me, i will tell my DH to be busy and let them bring your MIL back home instead since she so selfish.

[ningning]

It seems that very often marriage does come with a package. What of kind of package we get, its our karma.


I always tell my friends, i have " two" MILS one senior and one junior. The junior one is my single and availble SIL. Whatever things, my PILS say and do is all her callings. Even my DH who is eldest son have got to give in to her. If not my MIL will cry and yell that her DD is being bullied though the truth is that she at wrong first or over very very minor issues. OMG. she next year forty year old liao, still so naive. Think she will grow old and die like this. What to do , she is their "pearl". When i newly wed then , i was stupid enough to tell her where i shop and show her how to make up when she asked me so. But a few occasions when i casually asked her where she buy her pieces from, she refused to tell me. Then i realised that she wanted me to share with her shopping info but not the otherway. She also kept all her branded handbag and fancy shoes from my sight when we visited my PILs. Coz, she didnt want me to know that she followed very closely what bag i carry and shoes. So naive. Hate me yet "copy" me.

Lucky, my youngest SIL who is married is busy with her two kids thus got no time to bother all these family politics. I seldom talk to her, coz she is the "bochap" type. I like that. Thank god, at least still got one good "karma".