In-law problems?

[ningning]

fifiyeo:

Congrads Ningning that you are out of the family business and running your own now. Good Luck!


Luckily, I've never had to set foot into their business only DH. It's good to have something of your own. Yes, when I was running our own business, ILs were all set to see us fail. Specifically told me in the face more than once that I had better know what I was doing and settle my own problems! Too bad it had done well enough for me to semi-retire and manage the kids. I guess its my independence that also made them pull their handbrakes whenever they know they have gone too far. Threats don't shake me.

Take things one step at a time. Things will always brigthen up. :please:
Don't be too hard on yourself.

Thanks fifi, I will. :rahrah:

[singmathstutor]

ningning:

singmathstutor:

Dear Ningning, agree that a family doing a family biz may be complicated. Perhaps, everyone not only wants to meddle things in the office but at home as well. I'm someone with that kind of experience, although not any more. I always tried to shield my wife from all the squabbles and unnecessary attention. But frankly, it's not easy. I can understand your hubby's difficult position.


However, I'm glad to know that your hubby sticks by you and listens to you regarding issues pertaining to that. That to me, it very crucial. :rahrah:

i cried when i read what you had posted. I cried is becoz your words really touch my inner feeling. Its a simple and short reply. But it really summarized how me and my Dh felt all these while.
I am really glad that kiasuparents have this corner for me to let out my grievances and have ppl to understand how i feel. It makes me warm. Thank you all here. :thankyou:

Hi Ningning, I believe this forum is not just about sharing information and resources, but experiences as well, albeit good or bad....
We are all parents, most of the stuff we go through are agar agar similar. Some of us will go through some other similar experiences. So don't worry.....you are not alone...

[singmathstutor]

Please allow me to add on…I’ve also had my share with all the violence in the household…squabbles, hatred, fights, knives, police and so on…Sometimes I think to myself, why are some of these people all this? My answer is that they feel a great sense of insecurity, a lack of self-belief and a need for others to be submissive to them. They don’t know what is real happiness and bliss.

So what’s best for us to do is to shun them (if possible) and be self-independent. We don’t need these people in our lives. We have our own family with a darling spouse and lovely kids. If we don’t stand up ourselves, what’s going to happen to our children?? Do we want them to experience all these?
I always tell my kids, do what they think is right and logical. Do not look for unnecessary trouble. And if they encounter people who give them trouble, just shun them, don’t hate them. They must have their "reasons" for doing those nasty things. Self-imbalance or inferiority or gaining attention or whatever it may be.
It’s nice to hear some "after the storm" enactments…There are always some positives to take-away, even from a terrible ordeal. I’ve had mine…Look at these positives, you will definitely feel better!

[janet88]

There are selfish, self-centered and troublesome in-laws, be it the parents, siblings or their spouses. It’s best to stay arms length from them…bcos they are troublemakers. Don’t allow them to ruin your happiness bcos it is not worth it.

[racoon12]

Din log in to read the posting for few months due to FY closing and audit. How is everyone?

10 more days to CNY, a period where I am longed to disappear to unhabitat island to spend it rather than facing the troublemaker...

[racoon12]

Ning Ning,

Congratulation on your new business... it is good to hear that you are independent on your own rather than working for your IL...

[Kompressor]

My mother in law stays with us and also SLEEPS WITH US IN THE SAME ROOM!


Told my DW I was not too comfortable with her sleeping in the same room however she feels its nothing wrong.

I mean I just dont feel comfortable sleeping with someone else, kids ok, but not MIL rite?

Perhaps any gals out there can tell me how they feel? Its it ok? As in am I being unreasonable?

[auntieM]

Kompressor:

My mother in law stays with us and also SLEEPS WITH US IN THE SAME ROOM!


Told my DW I was not too comfortable with her sleeping in the same room however she feels its nothing wrong.

I mean I just dont feel comfortable sleeping with someone else, kids ok, but not MIL rite?

Perhaps any gals out there can tell me how they feel? Its it ok? As in am I being unreasonable?

:yikes: no kidding? Whatever reason DW or MIL has..
How can you tahan?

[funkymonkey]

Kompressor:

My mother in law stays with us and also SLEEPS WITH US IN THE SAME ROOM!


Told my DW I was not too comfortable with her sleeping in the same room however she feels its nothing wrong.

I mean I just dont feel comfortable sleeping with someone else, kids ok, but not MIL rite?

Perhaps any gals out there can tell me how they feel? Its it ok? As in am I being unreasonable?

:yikes: :yikes: :yikes:
OMG..and i thought we had it bad with sleeping with our 3 kids..poor u.....i think you are NOT being unreasonable...we all need couple time right???

[Kompressor]

auntieM:

Kompressor:

My mother in law stays with us and also SLEEPS WITH US IN THE SAME ROOM!


Told my DW I was not too comfortable with her sleeping in the same room however she feels its nothing wrong.

I mean I just dont feel comfortable sleeping with someone else, kids ok, but not MIL rite?

Perhaps any gals out there can tell me how they feel? Its it ok? As in am I being unreasonable?

:yikes: no kidding? Whatever reason DW or MIL has..
How can you tahan?

DW wants her mum to stay over, what can I say rite?