In-law problems?

[pinky]

friendship:

during courtship really must assess the other half's parents and family background. Love isn't suppose to be blind. Must be obeservant when the first time boyfriend brings to see his family.

true and maybe his family may put up an act to mislead you.. :evil:

[janet88]

fifiyeo:

:siao: Sometimes it's scary when ILs sudden turn \"angels\"!? Makes you wonder...

This I totally agree. From having horns to being an angel ? :nailbite: don't give me that...I will not fall for it.

If the boyfriend and his family put up a show, it is very hard to continue to act. Hang around for 2-3 hours, their true colours will show. If still acting, then visit them again. How long can they act ?

B4 I got married, the old one told me must be genuine...I still remember telling her I don't believe in acting. I am what I am. I dont have to act.

[LOLMum]

janet_lee88:

fifiyeo:

:siao: Sometimes it's scary when ILs sudden turn \"angels\"!? Makes you wonder...

This I totally agree. From having horns to being an angel ? :nailbite: don't give me that...I will not fall for it.

If the boyfriend and his family put up a show, it is very hard to continue to act. Hang around for 2-3 hours, their true colours will show. If still acting, then visit them again. How long can they act ?

B4 I got married, the old one told me must be genuine...I still remember telling her I don't believe in acting. I am what I am. I dont have to act.

your mil very good leh. gave your warning before marriage. after marriage show you her true colours...... :rotflmao:

[janet88]

To begin with, I don't talk much with her. So she thinks I am acting angel.

It is sickening when she begins every sentence with 'You listen to me...'
So might as well I clam up rather than having to listen to that crap :mad:
I got fed up and told hubby it's irritating.

My SIL tells her point blank and gives her no chance to talk...looks like young bullying old, but old one needs such aggressive treatment. I can't do the same thing.

[janet88]

auntieM:

fifiyeo:

:siao: Sometimes it's scary when ILs sudden turn \"angels\"!? Makes you wonder...

My MIL also going thru this 'angel' phase de.. ...Nowadays she is full of those: \"must forgive and forget\" and \"I am so happy to see you\" pattern.. ..I am getting the chills too.. :scratchhead:

Yup, she did say 'must forgive and forget' too.
She always says 'come up more often ah'...no way and no thanks. I get the creepy feeling when she comes near. Don't like it bcos it's so fake.

[fifiyeo]

"Must forgive and forget" is what they say. Sounds familiar.


When there another big quarrel…hoho, all the "ancient historical" issues come rolling out!!

[janet88]

fifiyeo:

\"Must forgive and forget\" is what they say. Sounds familiar.


When there another big quarrel...hoho, all the \"ancient historical\" issues come rolling out!!

Oh yeah, forget...indeed !!! The word is NEVER in her vocabulary.
Like u mentioned, when there is a big fight, she will go back in time to remind you all the stuff happened. Forgive and forget, pure crap...all the Qing dynasty, Ming/Tang dynasty stories all appear. Then when all fails, she will use her triumph card - CRY.

[racoon12]

Oh yeah.... Nt only ming & tang dynasty. It can even goes back to pre-historic time. Even we ourselves forgot abt that incident. Bt when my mil use the ace card her children all will gv in to her...

[racoon12]

Mine only ask me to forget abt her wrongdoings but never the other way round. Since she practise 1way traffic i also follow the same thing.

[janet88]

racoon12:

Mine only ask me to forget abt her wrongdoings but never the other way round. Since she practise 1way traffic i also follow the same thing.

Forgive and forget is to tell the daughter-in-law to forgive what the OLD one has done and forget it. She always has double standard.