In-law problems?
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SAHM Chew:
Why don't you get your in-laws some Tupperware or food savers and demo to them to store leftovers in these boxes and put them in fridge? Old people are sometimes like kids, they get the point when given proper demo on how you want things done. Also try abstaining from cooking or buying more food than you can consume, then no worries over eating food that is contaminated due to improper storage.
Janet, i can never get the pt across to my mil that food need to be kept in fridge if it is not consumed immediately. I am fine if she is eating it as she has been doing it all her life. But dont feed that to my kids. I will be the one suffering with my kids if they are sick..... Not her....janet_lee88:
food kept at room temperature breeds bacteria...that's how food contamination comes about...hubby buys breakfast for his parents every sun, left overs are left on the table until lunch or dinner :faint:
fridge is empty, don't even have egg inside. reason for leaving on the table - lazy to heat up.
sil went up one sunday...left to buy something for them...when she u-turned to pass to them, they were shocked bcos she was puffing away like chimney and the other one was drinking. 2 of them stinge on food - $3 for economy rice, shared by both...not bcos no money, but to spend the money on cigarettes and stout. hubby, the favourite son, told his mother to cut down on smoking, she retorted, 'might as well i jump down'.
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mommylow:
Some may simply ignore. MIL has stayed with us for last 4 years. There are many many things they are very stubborn. MIL would leave her fried stuff uncovered overnight. Next day just warm up to eat. Since I can't change her behaviour, I have instead instructed my kids to not accept those food. MIL not happy but she can't force them to eat (not when they are older now). There are many many others things that we clash, I'm too tired to type about it liao. Just let her be & I find other ways to avoid/fix. :sick:
Why don't you get your in-laws some Tupperware or food savers and demo to them to store leftovers in these boxes and put them in fridge? Old people are sometimes like kids, they get the point when given proper demo on how you want things done. Also try abstaining from cooking or buying more food than you can consume, then no worries over eating food that is contaminated due to improper storage. -
mommylow:
Mommylow,
Why don't you get your in-laws some Tupperware or food savers and demo to them to store leftovers in these boxes and put them in fridge? Old people are sometimes like kids, they get the point when given proper demo on how you want things done. Also try abstaining from cooking or buying more food than you can consume, then no worries over eating food that is contaminated due to improper storage.
My mil has tons of tupperware, but she is not using. Not that she do not know, but rather, is her habit. She had been buying food at 12pm for the past 20 -30 yrs n had kept them in this way on the dinning table, eating them at night for dinner. My hb n sil also eat the same food, so they think i am crazy, to get so upset abt food that is kept for more than 4 hrs at room temperature. But the issues are, i have food posioning fm eating the food.
Strangely enough, my mil like to buy more than what she can consume, then kept in fridge one day later, n throw them out after mths n mths in fridge.now, i swear never to eat the food that she bought -
At least your kids know n do not accept the food. My kids, not matter how i instructed them not to accept the food, they never follow, n since i am staying with in laws, they always gives the food to the kids secretly.
BeContented:
Some may simply ignore. MIL has stayed with us for last 4 years. There are many many things they are very stubborn. MIL would leave her fried stuff uncovered overnight. Next day just warm up to eat. Since I can't change her behaviour, I have instead instructed my kids to not accept those food. MIL not happy but she can't force them to eat (not when they are older now). There are many many others things that we clash, I'm too tired to type about it liao. Just let her be & I find other ways to avoid/fix. :sick:mommylow:
Why don't you get your in-laws some Tupperware or food savers and demo to them to store leftovers in these boxes and put them in fridge? Old people are sometimes like kids, they get the point when given proper demo on how you want things done. Also try abstaining from cooking or buying more food than you can consume, then no worries over eating food that is contaminated due to improper storage.
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SAHM Chew:
How old r your kids? I was lucky cos MIL came over when kids already ~7yo. And I told the kids truthfully why I do not want them to eat certain food, so sometimes they will ask me for permission or ask MIL when the food was bought.At least your kids know n do not accept the food. My kids, not matter how i instructed them not to accept the food, they never follow, n since i am staying with in laws, they always gives the food to the kids secretly.
If kids r young, a lot harder. Like during the china milk scare (that time, I was still working & kids taken care by MIL). Despite repeated warnings, MIL still buy & even take from others who din want their sweets to give my kids. My kids happily ate & told me. I really fumed & got DH into the pic - in front of her, we threw all the china-manufactured sweets (with milk content) in her house. We told her - from then we'll see one throw one. If she does not want to waste $, stop. She got the picture. -
SAHM Chew:
i think many mils are the same... mine same as yours... they nv listen, or listen but dun do it.. anyway, i gave up hope about talking sense into them long time ago... i'm just living with it with little significance...
Mommylow,mommylow:
Why don't you get your in-laws some Tupperware or food savers and demo to them to store leftovers in these boxes and put them in fridge? Old people are sometimes like kids, they get the point when given proper demo on how you want things done. Also try abstaining from cooking or buying more food than you can consume, then no worries over eating food that is contaminated due to improper storage.
My mil has tons of tupperware, but she is not using. Not that she do not know, but rather, is her habit. She had been buying food at 12pm for the past 20 -30 yrs n had kept them in this way on the dinning table, eating them at night for dinner. My hb n sil also eat the same food, so they think i am crazy, to get so upset abt food that is kept for more than 4 hrs at room temperature. But the issues are, i have food posioning fm eating the food.
Strangely enough, my mil like to buy more than what she can consume, then kept in fridge one day later, n throw them out after mths n mths in fridge.now, i swear never to eat the food that she bought -
My kids are 9,6,4. The 9 n 4 yrs old are still accepting food as they do not know how to say no. Despite me telling them not to eat in front of mil, n i told mil not to give them food that are kept for so long... She still don get my msg :sick: i explain to the kids before, but they will still forget... I think the kids need to experience the food poisoning before they know... :roll:
BeContented:
How old r your kids? I was lucky cos MIL came over when kids already ~7yo. And I told the kids truthfully why I do not want them to eat certain food, so sometimes they will ask me for permission or ask MIL when the food was bought.SAHM Chew:
At least your kids know n do not accept the food. My kids, not matter how i instructed them not to accept the food, they never follow, n since i am staying with in laws, they always gives the food to the kids secretly.
If kids r young, a lot harder. Like during the china milk scare (that time, I was still working & kids taken care by MIL). Despite repeated warnings, MIL still buy & even take from others who din want their sweets to give my kids. My kids happily ate & told me. I really fumed & got DH into the pic - in front of her, we threw all the china-manufactured sweets (with milk content) in her house. We told her - from then we'll see one throw one. If she does not want to waste $, stop. She got the picture. -
I gave up telling her, but get piss off when she start offering food that r not keep properly to my kids :mad:
verykiasumummy:
i think many mils are the same... mine same as yours... they nv listen, or listen but dun do it.. anyway, i gave up hope about talking sense into them long time ago... i'm just living with it with little significance...[/quote]
Mommylow,SAHM Chew:
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Why don't you get your in-laws some Tupperware or food savers and demo to them to store leftovers in these boxes and put them in fridge? Old people are sometimes like kids, they get the point when given proper demo on how you want things done. Also try abstaining from cooking or buying more food than you can consume, then no worries over eating food that is contaminated due to improper storage.
My mil has tons of tupperware, but she is not using. Not that she do not know, but rather, is her habit. She had been buying food at 12pm for the past 20 -30 yrs n had kept them in this way on the dinning table, eating them at night for dinner. My hb n sil also eat the same food, so they think i am crazy, to get so upset abt food that is kept for more than 4 hrs at room temperature. But the issues are, i have food posioning fm eating the food.
Strangely enough, my mil like to buy more than what she can consume, then kept in fridge one day later, n throw them out after mths n mths in fridge.now, i swear never to eat the food that she bought -
If her kids grew up eating the food and are fine, that’s bcos they are used to it…besides, it’s a known fact that food not consumed have to be kept in the fridge. The prob is not that fridge is full…but due to her laziness to heat up. What’s the point of having nice containers? Hubby told me she washed all the styrofoam boxes after eating economy rice…if she doesn’t get food poisoning, nothing can get into her head.
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no point changing in laws… they are already old and nothing u do will change their minds… i would rather try to change dh’s mindset… it would be easier…
my mil knows i wun eat if i caught her leaving food on the table without covering them… she used to cook more during lunch and leave the food on the table all the way till dinner…
because of that, i always take a snack or eat with colleague before going back… this will ensure i wun hv to depend on the food "quality" that is made for the dinner…
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