In-law problems?
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rojakz:
From what i understand from my DS1's sch, there are almost 5 bus operators running diff route. In order to get the correct bus operator, we will need to check with the office and the office will ask the bus operator to contact us. Mayb you can call up the office again and check is there any bus operator that is operating your area.Coolkidsrock2:
Rojakz, perhaps you can speak to the school or the bus operator with regard to the school route to your house. Sometimes, the bus operator can do it for an extra charge and you can then decide it it is worth it. It happened to me some years back - DD only student needing school transport for the location. Some schools have a very strong admin/infrastructure framework.
we actually spoke to the bus operator abt it during the p1 orientation but they sounded so cocky cos they were saying that there was a previous case where 5 students lived in the same area but the bus didn't go the route. the guy told me that all the 5 parents spoke to the principle for help but also no use. never go means never go. that's why now I have headache. thought I dont mind paying extra as long as they can send... -
SAHM Chew:
I have the same problem too. but not just PIL but also my parents...how do we ever get the problem across to them? SIGH.
My PIL gives sweets, chocolates and ice cream behind my back too.... Even after i have told them not to give it so often as the kids get sick easily. So since they cannot give in front of us, they just do behind my back :mad:. When the kids get sick, they did not even offered to look after the kids, n i hv to look after 3 sick boys. -
janet_lee88:
ya old ones tend to sayang the young ones...we the middle aged ones cant do much but be bad guy..SAHM Chew,
The old ones always want to play the good guys...so that grand kids like them and be angels in front of their children. But when their grand kids fall sick or kids have to go for operation or need their help after giving birth for eg, these 'angels' either go MIA or come up with excuses like don't know how to go to children's place, or where hospitals are.
Sick of their nonsense.
i already told my parents that if they continue to be like this angelic, then i will always be the devil...then my kids will hate me...then how? lol -
SBKS:
The old ones always thought that since they raised their kids, they know better than us. But they have forgetten that they are the grandparents n not the parents. My dad know my temper n will ask my permission before offering. N my kids do not see my dad often. But my PIL will offered treats to my kids daily, especially, if i asked them to look after for a while. Since my kids are bigger now, i do not ask my PIL to look after them. Not even for 5 mins, as i know, within these 5 mins, anything can happen.
ya old ones tend to sayang the young ones...we the middle aged ones cant do much but be bad guy..janet_lee88:
SAHM Chew,
The old ones always want to play the good guys...so that grand kids like them and be angels in front of their children. But when their grand kids fall sick or kids have to go for operation or need their help after giving birth for eg, these 'angels' either go MIA or come up with excuses like don't know how to go to children's place, or where hospitals are.
Sick of their nonsense.
i already told my parents that if they continue to be like this angelic, then i will always be the devil...then my kids will hate me...then how? lol -
We had a rule with the kids that they will always have to call us if PILs, the maids or any other relatives were taking them out. But my PILs were not happy and refused to let them call us before going out (outings that we are unaware of). Even cover up when maids or other relatives take them out. I’ve caught the maids simply taking the keys and leaving my house with my kid without even telling me to go to the supermarket!!! When we express our unhappiness over this issue, PILs argued that they are the elders so why must they follow our "rules". They say can means can, no need to call means no need to call.
So my ex-maids used to answer us "You go ask your PILs lah!" -
I really have great dislike towards my PILs. They have never failed to make me feel like an outsider. Always never failing to remind me that this is "their" family and I’m an invader.
Anyway I’ve always told DH that they are his parents and I will never stop him from visiting or taking care of them. But don’t ever expect much out of me. DH has never been on very good terms with them. I used to try to bridge the gaps but after being blamed and accused of this and that, forget it liao. None of my business! -
fifiyeo:
Same here...we can shake hands.I really have great dislike towards my PILs. They have never failed to make me feel like an outsider. Always never failing to remind me that this is \"their\" family and I'm an invader.
Anyway I've always told DH that they are his parents and I will never stop him from visiting or taking care of them. But don't ever expect much out of me. DH has never been on very good terms with them. I used to try to bridge the gaps but after being blamed and accused of this and that, forget it liao. None of my business!
Got shit, 他们很亲. Otherwise, we are outsiders.
I told hubby he is free to visit them but don't expect me to do the same. I can't and I do not believe in being a hypocrite. -
SAHM Chew:
The old ones always thought that since they raised their kids, they know better than us. But they have forgetten that they are the grandparents n not the parents. My dad know my temper n will ask my permission before offering. N my kids do not see my dad often. But my PIL will offered treats to my kids daily, especially, if i asked them to look after for a while. Since my kids are bigger now, i do not ask my PIL to look after them. Not even for 5 mins, as i know, within these 5 mins, anything can happen.[/quote]how old is ur kids now? mine is just 2 and 4. they are at a age of falling sick and building immune system. so i have problems with them eating tidbits or fried stuff. and plus they are frequently sick.
ya old ones tend to sayang the young ones...we the middle aged ones cant do much but be bad guy..SBKS:
[quote=\"janet_lee88\"]SAHM Chew,
The old ones always want to play the good guys...so that grand kids like them and be angels in front of their children. But when their grand kids fall sick or kids have to go for operation or need their help after giving birth for eg, these 'angels' either go MIA or come up with excuses like don't know how to go to children's place, or where hospitals are.
Sick of their nonsense.
i already told my parents that if they continue to be like this angelic, then i will always be the devil...then my kids will hate me...then how? lol
but if they are older like primary schools, and not sick, i dun mind letting them eat but not too much. everything in moderation. -
mine are 7+ and 12. the food in their place is not handled properly like leftovers are not put in fridge but placed on the table from breakfast till late afternoon...that can cause food poisoning. i hate it when she thinks my kids are so precious and cannot eat the food. she is plain ridiculous :mad:
so i told my kids NOT to eat anything in their house. -
SBKS:
My kids are 9,6 and 4. The incidents of PIL giving them tidits, chocolates, sweets, ice cream when my eldest is between 2-4. Terrible time i have when he was hospitalised, and i need to bring my 2nd boy to stay in the hospital as well as i am breastfeeding him. 1kid is sick, n in the end, 2 kids n me staying in the hospital for 5 days. Nobody can help me that time as DS1 only want me, n DS2 need my milk. After that, i told DH that only me, The mother is allow to give them any tidits as i can contol the amt they eat n force them to drink water. PIL will just shove the whole packet to them, n let them eat. N will not ask them to drink water. Even now, i will still control the amt of tidits my kids can eat. But my PIL, will always give them secretly.... :scared:
how old is ur kids now? mine is just 2 and 4. they are at a age of falling sick and building immune system. so i have problems with them eating tidbits or fried stuff. and plus they are frequently sick.
but if they are older like primary schools, and not sick, i dun mind letting them eat but not too much. everything in moderation.
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