In-law problems?

[vinegar]

SAHM Chew:

But my kids have already taken 1 hr and have not finish. And still tell them to eat slowly??? :gloomy:

My mil also do not take 1 hr to eat....

But I believed about the generation gap. No wonder we could not get along.

My ds oso takes 1hour to finish. So I've no choice to make porridge everyday so easier for him to eat faster.Scold or nag or encourage him also no use.

My MIL oredi extremely unhappy when i told my DH to eat faster.She said later he suffers from indigestion.If i do that for my DS,she'll :spank: me

[janet88]

30 min to eat is already very slow. 1 hour…菜都凉了.

that’s why cannot get along. in-laws always want to be good guys…everything slow slow.

[vinegar]

Sometx,i very naughty. I asked my DH,why ur mouth so big but eat so slow??

[popireis]

My IL is the other extreme lei. When DSs were younger (from the day they start taking solids), for a period of time we were staying with my ILs. Usually by the time I reached home after work, they were having dinner. Many times, my MIL was \"force-feeding\" DSs to eat. The scoop of food on the spoon was so huge that even I doubt I could take it in one mouth. She would push the full spoonful of food into DSs mouths very roughly, sometimes hurting them with the metal/plastic spoon. Many times, DSs would choke on the mouthful of food. Before they could swallow the food in their mouth, she would try to push in another spoon. :siao:


Needless to say, I was :mad:

[SAHM Chew]

popireis:

My IL is the other extreme lei. When DSs were younger (from the day they start taking solids), for a period of time we were staying with my ILs. Usually by the time I reached home after work, they were having dinner. Many times, my MIL was \"force-feeding\" DSs to eat. The scoop of food on the spoon was so huge that even I doubt I could take it in one mouth. She would push the full spoonful of food into DSs mouths very roughly, sometimes hurting them with the metal/plastic spoon. Many times, DSs would choke on the mouthful of food. Before they could swallow the food in their mouth, she would try to push in another spoon. :siao:


Needless to say, I was :mad:

My mil is the opposite. When my DS1 was 6 months and above, and due to my work at that time, I am not able to feed him solid food all the time. Therefore, I require my mil's help when I occassionally need to work at dinner time. Then I realised that mil would just feed one or two half spoon full and stopped feeding. When I asked her why, she will just commented that he doesn't want to eat and will drink milk later. Even up to 2 yrs old, still the same issue.
My ds2 do not have this issue as I send him to infant care at 5 months old and did not need mil's help.
My ds3, as I am cutting down expenses, I delay sending him to infant care, so required my mil to bottle feed him. And every time, if I am not around, my ds3 never drink more than 1/4 of breastmilk for 5 hours. When I asked her why, she will commented that he does not want to drink and simply stopped feeding. My ds3 will be so hungry after missing milk for 5 hrs. And in the end, I sacrifice my work to look after ds3.

[KSmom8]

Fortunately, MIL never offered to look after my kids. On the occasions that she saw me feeding DS2 and urging him to chew and swallow faster, she’ll say that he is not hungry, don’t feed. No wonder DH was really skinny and unhealthy looking when young.


My mum will feed patiently when DS2 was much younger. However, as she grows older, I noticed she gets more impatient.

What I really dislike about MIL is that she is fond of over-riding my instructions. I tell DS2 that he must finish his food then he can play. She’ll tell him, since you are not hungry, forget about the food.

[sweetbaby]

I have similar attitude MIL like KSmom8’s MIL, always "over-riding my instructions". Sigh…

[popireis]

Haha my MIL loves kids to be FAT. The reason she force feeds my kids was bcos she wanted them to be FAT. Luckily they had my genes and are HEALTHY without being FAT.


Hwr, she blamed me for NOT knowing how to take care of kids and why they were lean. She must had this mentality that I am ill-treating my own kids and not feeding them enough ha! She used to criticize my cooking and said it must be becos of my lousy cooking that my kids didn’t like to eat, not nutritious blah blah blah.

Funny thing is, her own children were skinny when they were young…

[SAHM Chew]

KSmom8:

Fortunately, MIL never offered to look after my kids. On the occasions that she saw me feeding DS2 and urging him to chew and swallow faster, she'll say that he is not hungry, don't feed. No wonder DH was really skinny and unhealthy looking when young.


My mum will feed patiently when DS2 was much younger. However, as she grows older, I noticed she gets more impatient.

What I really dislike about MIL is that she is fond of over-riding my instructions. I tell DS2 that he must finish his food then he can play. She'll tell him, since you are not hungry, forget about the food.

My mil likes to override my instructions too.

[straffan23]

My MIL likes to be the \"good guy\" with my children. So she will not try to teach or correct my children at all - things like keeping the toys after playing, returning the books to the shelves, good eating habits, etc etc ... In fact she will play along - take out my yoga mat from the storeroom because \"DS said wanna play\", take the forbidden toys from above the cupboard because \"DD said wanna play\"... etc etc. Worse part is that the flat would be tossed upside down and then she would go home.


My children also know that they can commit murder with MIL around, so they would scream and shout at MIL. MIL would just laugh :siao: :siao: - - I used to scold the DD when she does that cos it's rude... but once my daughter said \"Mama is the bad guy, always scold us. Even when I shout at Amah, she just laugh what...\" :yikes: From then on I never scold my children because/in front of her. Without her around they are always well behaved. :xedfingers: