In-law problems?

[popireis]

Haha my MIL loves kids to be FAT. The reason she force feeds my kids was bcos she wanted them to be FAT. Luckily they had my genes and are HEALTHY without being FAT.


Hwr, she blamed me for NOT knowing how to take care of kids and why they were lean. She must had this mentality that I am ill-treating my own kids and not feeding them enough ha! She used to criticize my cooking and said it must be becos of my lousy cooking that my kids didn’t like to eat, not nutritious blah blah blah.

Funny thing is, her own children were skinny when they were young…

[SAHM Chew]

KSmom8:

Fortunately, MIL never offered to look after my kids. On the occasions that she saw me feeding DS2 and urging him to chew and swallow faster, she'll say that he is not hungry, don't feed. No wonder DH was really skinny and unhealthy looking when young.


My mum will feed patiently when DS2 was much younger. However, as she grows older, I noticed she gets more impatient.

What I really dislike about MIL is that she is fond of over-riding my instructions. I tell DS2 that he must finish his food then he can play. She'll tell him, since you are not hungry, forget about the food.

My mil likes to override my instructions too.

[straffan23]

My MIL likes to be the \"good guy\" with my children. So she will not try to teach or correct my children at all - things like keeping the toys after playing, returning the books to the shelves, good eating habits, etc etc ... In fact she will play along - take out my yoga mat from the storeroom because \"DS said wanna play\", take the forbidden toys from above the cupboard because \"DD said wanna play\"... etc etc. Worse part is that the flat would be tossed upside down and then she would go home.


My children also know that they can commit murder with MIL around, so they would scream and shout at MIL. MIL would just laugh :siao: :siao: - - I used to scold the DD when she does that cos it's rude... but once my daughter said \"Mama is the bad guy, always scold us. Even when I shout at Amah, she just laugh what...\" :yikes: From then on I never scold my children because/in front of her. Without her around they are always well behaved. :xedfingers:

[popireis]

I've heard stories of MIL trying to be good guy and making the mother looks bad on purpose. My friend's MIL told her DS that mummy doesn't love him so go and stay at ah ma house better cos ah ma loves him :slapshead:


Mine, when DSs were young, would always ask them: \"who is better, nai nai better or mama better?\", \"who cooks better...?\" etc

Worse was once (or twice, can't rmb), she even compared me to my maid.
She asked DSs who they liked better, the maid or me, who takes better care of them, whose cooking they prefer, who does the housework better etc... :siao:

In my heart I was thinking, so what now, u prefer to have a maid as your DIL? Ask all your sons to marry maids instead....

[janet88]

i once heard a grandmother ask the grandson if her cooking or 婆婆 is better...that is ridiculous :mad: she is asking the grandson to make a comparison and it isn't fair...why don't she ask the grandson who he loves more - mother or father?

[TheAnswer]

Try not to ask your kids to compare. There is no point comparing.

[popireis]

janet_lee88:

i once heard a grandmother ask the grandson if her cooking or 婆婆 is better...that is ridiculous :mad: she is asking the grandson to make a comparison and it isn't fair...why don't she ask the grandson who he loves more - mother or father?

I've heard all the above from MIL!

Nai Nai or Po Po who loves them more...
Who u like more - pa pa or ma ma...

Its all ridiculous.

My DSs very impatient when she kept asking, so every qns jus answer, ALL oso good, ALL oso nice hahaha...
Then she stopped LOL.

[janet88]

popireis:

janet_lee88:

i once heard a grandmother ask the grandson if her cooking or 婆婆 is better...that is ridiculous :mad: she is asking the grandson to make a comparison and it isn't fair...why don't she ask the grandson who he loves more - mother or father?

I've heard all the above from MIL!

Nai Nai or Po Po who loves them more...
Who u like more - pa pa or ma ma...

if mine here ever asks son who he loves more, she will be in for a BIG disappointment.

[KSmom8]

straffan23:

My MIL likes to be the \"good guy\" with my children. So she will not try to teach or correct my children at all - things like keeping the toys after playing, returning the books to the shelves, good eating habits, etc etc ... In fact she will play along - take out my yoga mat from the storeroom because \"DS said wanna play\", take the forbidden toys from above the cupboard because \"DD said wanna play\"... etc etc. Worse part is that the flat would be tossed upside down and then she would go home.


My children also know that they can commit murder with MIL around, so they would scream and shout at MIL. MIL would just laugh :siao: :siao: - - I used to scold the DD when she does that cos it's rude... but once my daughter said \"Mama is the bad guy, always scold us. Even when I shout at Amah, she just laugh what...\" :yikes: From then on I never scold my children because/in front of her. Without her around they are always well behaved. :xedfingers:

Grandparents tend to spoil the grandkids. My kids will become naughtier after my mum looks after them - yes, they get their way with grandma at home. Thankfully, my MIL does not look after or play with them, I think she only interested in bragging rights. Anyway, easier to speak to my mum ( than MIL ) when all this \"spoiling\" gets out of hand.

[janet88]

mine here also the same…only wants bragging rights that she is grandmother to xx number of grandchildren…blah blah but just for show…my parents give way but not to the extent of spoiling.