In-law problems?

[vinegar]

buds:

Wah ScaredyMum, sharp leh... eh, you not scared here arh?


I never once rebuked my ILs in that manner or used such words before. Not even when they were mean beyond words.

buds,
i oso nvr ever rebuke my ILs.

When i said this to her,it was in a joking manner.The tone was gentle one...something like,\"yes,yes,u r right! He has really bad taste.He(dh) oso admits he has bad taste,coz he says he carries his father,i mean ur husband's genes mah!\"

[janet88]

Since I cannot rebuke…I stay miles away and have little contact.

Especially now, when she likes to curse…what I don’t hear, I won’t know.
Why make myself unhappy bcos of her? Everyday is precious.

[vinegar]

janet_lee88:

Since I cannot rebuke...I stay miles away and have little contact.

Especially now, when she likes to curse...what I don't hear, I won't know.
Why make myself unhappy bcos of her? Everyday is precious.

at least ur MIL doesn't call ur dh everyday. My MIL calls everyday.

DH does not hv mind of his own.His life is under control by my MIL. He is a puppet,manipulate by MIL.

we could not do things as couple bcoz of her.DH cannot go parents teacher meeting coz of her.

He is weak,isn't it?

[buds]

vinegar:

i oso nvr ever rebuke my ILs


When i said this to her,it was in a joking manner.The tone was gentle one...something like,\"yes,yes,u r right! He has really bad taste.He(dh) oso admits he has bad taste,coz he says he carries his father,i mean ur husband's genes mah!\"

Your mil is ok with jokes with tinge of mild attack liddat arh?

[vinegar]

buds:

vinegar:

i oso nvr ever rebuke my ILs


When i said this to her,it was in a joking manner.The tone was gentle one...something like,\"yes,yes,u r right! He has really bad taste.He(dh) oso admits he has bad taste,coz he says he carries his father,i mean ur husband's genes mah!\"

Your mil is ok with jokes with tinge of mild attack liddat arh?

nope....i kena complained the next day

[janet88]

if i rebuke her once, the whole world will know…plus the extra ‘salt and vinegar’ she adds in.

[oliveoil]

Imami:

oliveoil:

I'm also staying under the same roof as my mil. And with maid all together, it is no joke. Three women deal with a kitchen is enough to create unhappiness! So when I'm not around she will walk into the kitchen to become the 'queen'. When she is in the kitchen I will 'siam' (go off). And then my poor maid will has to deal with her...


When DH is not around, she will compliant the dishes are not enough and soup is tasteless (\"bo be gao suo\" in hokkien). She will reject the soup we serve her, or sometimes walk up and go and cook another dish of her choice at dinner time. When DH is around, she will say the other way \"can eat, anything will do\".

And she ever said my kids ”没家教“ (no home education) just bcos they never acknowledge her once. Of course it was in front of me and not her son.

Mid last year, my maids went moonlighting one after after and I left with no maid for more than two months. My DS had surgery (long recovering with few weeks of MC leading to PSLE!) and my three kids were in PSLE (i have a triplet). I worked half day in the morning, rush back by noon, do all the chores, cook and attend to my kids for their PSLE preparation & exam. My mil still came and compliant about those maids that had left. I told mil 'I was tired' during these few months and suggested she stop talking abt the same issue and thinking to have her empathy. Her replied was \"你顾孩子辛苦是应该的!\". Her remark really \"piss me off\"...ever since then, I will do anything myself without her help if possible.

:hugs: 都过去了。 objectively, do u think your mil is plain nasty to you or just insensitive?

I always feel it this way - as dil, we should love/treat/serve them as if they are our mothers BUT cannot expect them to be as nice as our own mother.

I understand u are trying to console me she is the type that 对人不对事, and she sees that 她可以'吃'我。So can be nasty to me n yet I cannot reburk.
呀，这件事 都过去了。但以后还不是一样...所谓相见容易相处难。

[ScaredyMum]

buds:

Wah ScaredyMum, sharp leh... eh, you not scared here arh?


I never once rebuked my ILs in that manner or used such words before. Not even when they were mean beyond words.

Haha buds, I oso scared la, scared wait my MIL see this thread??? Lol
But luckily she doesn't read English hee hee hee

Same la, cannot 顶嘴 else they say we 没大没小 ... that will make us 刚刚好 :rahrah:

[vinegar]

ScaredyMum:

buds:

Wah ScaredyMum, sharp leh... eh, you not scared here arh?


I never once rebuked my ILs in that manner or used such words before. Not even when they were mean beyond words.

Haha buds, I oso scared la, scared wait my MIL see this thread??? Lol
But luckily she doesn't read English hee hee hee

Same la, cannot 顶嘴 else they say we 没大没小 ... that will make us 刚刚好 :rahrah:

it is hard not to 顶嘴, so i oso avoid her...

she likes to say things to agitate ppl...even i keep quiet,she'll still keep talking n say sarcastic remarks...

muz die die keep quiet,cannot rebuke,if not, 中计,then later kena arrow

she always tells me she doesn't understand why everyone couldn't talk to her nicely. Her elder DIL always argues wf her,her maid ignores her when she steps into kitchen.hmmm....now i realise why she likes to call my DH so much...he is the only person in the world who doesn't dare to rebuke her :roll:

[vinegar]

my MIL likes to call my DH just to tell him what she did last wkend,where she went,which doctor she visited,what she did…etc…


i don’t do that with my mum,so i find it uncomfortable n "weird" feelings…I find…he has showered so much attn on her,till he neglects our kids,me n himself.

Once i told him i really find he is reali girlish,then he said i jealous. i wonder,how many men out there,do the same as my DH,wf their mothers.

i rather he does this wf his male frds or colleagues.my DH oredi in 40s,kinda weird seeing his mum calls n updates him on these tinny winny things.