In-law problems?

[buds]

shine_fs:

As we are all third parties....normally we 劝和不劝离。。。

for you too....

You've all been great third parties. Not just the rallying support.
But i truly appreciate the different thoughts everyone has helped
me see. Different views and considerations that i may have jolly well
missed out on. Though i may not have that many \"true\" frenz in reality,
i'm glad i have all of you here as my eyes, my head and frenz in spirit (not
the scary kind of course) :lol: Thanks all for the words of wisdom... the
alternative suggestions... the kind words of support... and definitely all
the prayers. God bless you all kind peeps that i have here as my cyber
friends. :celebrate:

[buds]

minnie2004:

Hi buds,


It is obvious from your posts that you and your hubs love each other very much. Hope everything will work out fine for you guys.

We do! At least i honestly believed we did until too many evil forces
decided to cave in... too many troubles... ended up in too many
weaknesses to fight the too many temptations... and added to
the too many existing issues which were swept under the rug..

I have been honest in our relationship all the while and naturally
all i hoped for in return is also his honesty... on top of loyalty, of
course.

minnie2004:

Love will conquer all - including all the evIL forces. :nunchuk:

Love can also hurt minnie2004... it sure can hurt.

minnie2004:

I fully support your decision to move out, which should have been done 10 years ago. It's worth it even if it means you have to go back to work again.

Well said.. and yes it wud definitely be worth it. And i won't mind having
the social life back on track in my life... Only hope no employers find me
too old for the job. :lol:

minnie2004:

btw, my little boy couldn't take his eyes off your avatar as I was going thru this thread. he kept saying \"banana - peel - wah!\" again and again. It's so funny! :lol:

So cute lah he. :lol:

[buds]

Busymom:

My DS is a fan too! And that was from the avatar-days and till today, if he sees that I am here, he would say that he wants to see the BANANA!

Another cute one... Eh how come another boy fan. :?

No DDs like banana arh? :lol:

Busymom:

buds dear,

All of us would be for you and your family that things would work out. Have faith in yourself and buds_hub. We will kick his a** if need be, ok?

Dear Busymom, despite being forever the busy you i appreciate you
coming here dropping me this note. :hugs: Gawd, you won't know how
many times i had wanted to KICK the life out of whatever is hanging boi!

Well, i didn't.

See.. i very soft.

Busymom:

Take care for now. :hugs:

Thanks dearie..

[Andaiz]

buds:

No DDs like banana arh? :lol:..

Hehe, my DD2 loves the avatar...but she associates it with the edible version...and the peeling/zippy up bits gets to her

Busymom:

buds dear,

All of us would be for you and your family that things would work out. Have faith in yourself and buds_hub. We will kick his a** if need be, ok?

Actually have been notising that he's conspicuously quiet leh!

[buds]

hquek:

buds:

In short, whatever shortcomings that were said of me i rose up to it and proved i was woman enough to see things through. Whatever ppl said tt i was this and i was that... i reflected and fine tuned when i found that it indeed cud make things better. So instead of going head-on with battle, i worked my kinks out one way or another. Neither did i shy away from it and go into denial...

You very power!! I shall continue to look up to you....very up.

Bu gan tang.. :oops:

hquek:

[Glad to see that your tone is much more positive.

I try to be as much as i can. In fact, i have to ya noe.. i got 2 impressionable
young minds watching my every move... watching my every step... :politebleah:

hquek:

[I'm sure your dream house is calling out for you - focus, focus.

Yes. Actually, we already agreed on that one, until he backed out at the
last hour... all of us at the table were shocked :shock:.. but hey.. mebbe God
wants to lead us to a better wan aye.. if it's meant to be it's meant to be
lar.

But that house was beautiful, affordable, within close proximity of school
and a lot of the signs were pointing to THAT house. But like i said, if it was
meant to be, it WILL be.. :celebrate:

Yes, yes, hquek... focus... focus... :rotflmao:

Dun be tempted... :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

Don't succumb... Doooooonnn't.... :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:

[buds]

autumnbronze:

Shd be Martin LUTHER king Jr,


and not

Martin Junior King Jr *slaps forehead*

Gonna edit now ....

In my haste to answer the post, i didn't even catch
whose words it was. *slap forehead too* but hey
it's the words that count, aye.

[buds]

jedamum:

buds,

do press on and take care.

my husband is decisive and we managed to get our dream flat on the second day of house hunting. although the price is already high, we are a week earlier before prices peak again for that location. so you gonna have fate with your house before you can become one with it.

I agree. It must be a decision made in unison. Not just one party.
So must become one with it. Prices are peaking again as we
speak and he better be decisive soon or else everything else
wud be unaffordable. Yup. Still pressing on.. When i
press he must move, or else.... still lidat lor.

jedamum:

my husband is decisive once the legal documents are cleared :|-during that initial time when we need to process paper work (especially the part on getting hold of the title deed from the MIL ), he is no where in sight, except to help me hand-deliver the documents to HDB, he did not want to get tangled in our (MIL-Me) exchanges.

all the best to you.

Your DH is charmingly diplomatic and he sure knows how to taichi :nunchuk:
his way out of the worm hole! Kudos! And i am SO HAPPY for
you, jedamum. Your light is finally approaching the end of ur
tunnel. :celebrate: Few more months to go nia..

[buds]

Funz:

Well, Buds, a bit of a consolation. Both my financial advisors and property agents told me now is not the time to buy. If can wait, wait till about 3rd Q this year.

Well that's how the market goes..

Sell high, buy high. His stress is not only the buying but also the selling
of this current hole. :roll: But then again, if one only thinks of the moolah
then issues at hand will never be solved once and for all. We'd just be
revisiting the issues over and over and over again.. sigh.. tired noe.

Can wait is can wait lar. But who knows what else will come our way boi.
That's the only thing.. Now that he's ONZ, better just jia you lor hor.

Funz:

Yah, I know your situation is not a money or investment matter. But just giving you a bit of a positive view. Hope it can give you that little bit of a boost to tahan a bit more.

I AM tahan-ing... still.

Investment wise THAT house we saw i knew will double up in the next
5 to 7 years. I'm positive of it. But hey.. that's water under the bridge
now, aye.

Thanks for the consolation. :hugs:

[Andaiz]

buds:

Can wait is can wait lar. But who knows what else will come our way boi.

That's the only thing.. Now that he's ONZ, better just jia you lor hor.

Yes, STRIKE while the iron is hot! Or may lose steam or get sidetracked...if ya know what I mean.

buds, dear, you're doing well....keep at it and be your usual upbeat, tenacious self! :celebrate:

[buds]

To tenacity! :celebrate: