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terry:
indeed. always tend to forget and talk abt kids but should focus on other topics instead.date nite:
for me and dh we go to the movies once my mum can bbsit ds1 with maid. when #2 arrive, then no mre date nite liao.
once my dh did bring me to Clarke quay one of the new restaurants/cafes. i gotta remind myself NOT to talk abt kids stuff.
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We try to go on a date night once a month, but since DS3 arrived, we also bring him along as he needs to nurse frequently and I never bothered to get him started on bottles.
My mum is fine watching the older two coz they go to bed early and she ends up watching her tv serials till we get home. -
kabalevsky:
kabalevsky,
actually i also havent gone 1-for-1 buffet with Dh. we mainly watch DVDs and snack on all the junk food I don't let my kids eat. once they sleep on Fridays, we do this.jedamum:
lolz. i wanna ask sahms, where you people go for lomantic and not-too-ex night outs. single-income, my dh said to go for buffet (not many has 1-for-1 and also many times the kids sleepover is last minute, so difficult to do advance booking), i also heartpain. :oops:
for us, babysitting at night is really hard to get. mom or mil can only handle 1 or 2 during the day. Like mom won't mind watching bb for me in the day when she can push her to the playground while I run an errand or volunteer at ds1's school. (boys at school)
but at night, there are 3 to babysit and at night they tend to all need me, got used to the bedtime ritual. Somehow they cannot sleep if I am not around. We went for wedding dinner and it turned out to be those long affairs and we reached home at midnight and bb was so cranky but still refused to sleep cos I was not home. My mom was so dead tired. I think she still has that traumatic experience in her memory, won't ever agree to babysitting at night for a long long time to come.
mil can't carry babies cos of operation done some years ago. and she's even older than my mom, very scared of stuff that needs lots of energy.
so like sahmtan, we haven't done date nights for a long long time.
that's why i am trying to be positive and feel the dvds and snacks are quite nice lah...
hope other moms here give you more helpful suggestions.
i only enjoyed my first datenight this year when ds2 is 5yo. for the past 10 yrs, i have been literally home-bounded (save for the late nights doing OT or rare meetup with friends but must go home before midnight). In my 10yrs of motherhood til this yr, the only time i was away from my ds1 at night was when i was giving birth to ds2 and the only time i was away from ds2 was when my dad passed away.
it is very difficult to get babysitting for small kids when in a few yrs time when your kids are bigger, you will get to slow down a bit.:) -
sleepy:
talk about chit chat. what you couples chat about huh? we have nothing to chat about! whahahaha....nothing much except children stuff and maybe bring up some embarassing stuff we used to do when young. we don't discuss shows (he dont watch) or current affairs (i dont watch!)!No date night la. Have tibits or biscuits in front of TV after kids are asleep.
We only 'date' in between kids' enrichment classes eg. drink coffee & chit chat while waiting for their classes to end
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terry:
we dont go movies after marriage cos he said he used to go with me is just to humour me! lolz. i dont watch his genre of shows and vice versa.date nite:
for me and dh we go to the movies once my mum can bbsit ds1 with maid. when #2 arrive, then no mre date nite liao.
once my dh did bring me to Clarke quay one of the new restaurants/cafes. i gotta remind myself NOT to talk abt kids stuff.
we did want to go town area, but he said want to drink so dont wanna drive. then i lazy don't want to take public transport (crowded, far etc), so we went somewhere nearby har or some place that he dont get to drink but i get to drink a bit! lolz. -
kabalevsky:
Hee hee.....actually, I enjoy & look forward to my weekend dates with DH while waiting for kids classes to end. When I had to change one of them to weekday, I was quite sad.
oh! so that's why you all like sending them to enrichment! ahhh, now i know... :evil:sleepy:
No date night la. Have tibits or biscuits in front of TV after kids are asleep.
We only 'date' in between kids' enrichment classes eg. drink coffee & chit chat while waiting for their classes to end
As for weekdays, we will sometimes watch DVDs and have some snacks while the kids are asleep. -
reading thru the posts and recalling gd intentioned advice frm frends, i supposed i shd be making mre of an effort to rekindle the romance in my r'ship.
but u noe what, deep deep inside my heart, all i want is to be with my babies. my hb is a source of distraction and responsibility that i smtimes resent. i wanna dress the way i like, look the way i want, plan the day as i please WITHOUT any body judging me. Bcos,like what my ds1 tells me all the time, to him, i am the prettiest and best mommy in the whole wide world! that, ppl, is true appreciation!
oops..there u go, i said it.. :rahrah: -
jedamum:
Hmmmmm......we talk about the kids, food, gossipy stuff, his work, holiday plans, make-up plans for the home (ours is rather old liao becos living in FIL's) and oh yes, we fight as well
talk about chit chat. what you couples chat about huh? we have nothing to chat about! whahahaha....nothing much except children stuff and maybe bring up some embarassing stuff we used to do when young. we don't discuss shows (he dont watch) or current affairs (i dont watch!)!sleepy:
No date night la. Have tibits or biscuits in front of TV after kids are asleep.
We only 'date' in between kids' enrichment classes eg. drink coffee & chit chat while waiting for their classes to end
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jedamum:
I also curious, sometimes I find myself nothing much to chat too.....cos' DH man of few words. But recently, when we were in a group and he started giving his views about GE and education system, I was full of admiration for him :love: ..
talk about chit chat. what you couples chat about huh? we have nothing to chat about! whahahaha....nothing much except children stuff and maybe bring up some embarassing stuff we used to do when young. we don't discuss shows (he dont watch) or current affairs (i dont watch!)!
Tho we never discuss such serious stuff, I'm glad we hold the same views about such important stuff
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