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hquek:

Please note HWS stresses a lot on the development of a child overall (morals, ethics) and not just academic. I don't see kids stressed out over homework/exams. If you will worry if the teachers are not pushing them academically, then you may want to consider. (this my own feeling)

actually I am more than happy that the school does not pushes the kids too hard academically. I push my kids more at home kekekeke.

I like that they are into moral n ethics teaching. I like that the principal is at the foyer in the mornings twice a week and smiles at the kids and bows back to the kids. Teachers and principals are the leaders in the school. they cast a shadow to the kids. Kids will follow when they see principal doing

[hongwen1]

Hi experienced mummies,

May I know who I should feedback to with regard to schoolbus bullies? The bus driver is already aware but she can’t do much. She ask them to stop the bullying but they don’t listen. Do I report to the form teacher or principal? Is there a "displinary master" in hong wen? Can anyone please advise what is the proper channel? Thank you so much.

My p1 gal had been crying these few days the moment she step down the bus. Need to rectify this before she started to hate school.

The schoolbus bullies are surprisingly the upper primary girls, headed by a p4. The boys are in fact the nice ones. The girls were using f word, call her female dog, throw her sweet on the floor and ask her to pick like a dog. I told my gal to ignore what they say and just keep quiet. Even gave her a MP3 player to listen so that she can block out the bad remarks. Today my gal told me they threaten to come to our place to kill the family. Also step on her foot and use biscuit to slap her face.

It all started because my ignorant p1 told them off for using the F word. Since then they treated her as their target. The p4 bully even plotted with her gang to pinpoint my daughter if they are discovered so that no one will believe my gal. My gal cried so badly when she told me this as she feels no one would believe her as she is just p1. Cannot imagine primary school kids can be so vicious nowadays. Watch too much drama.

[hquek]

hi hongwen1,


It’s disturbing…pls send email to the school. My past experience is that the school P will see and answer. You are right, your gal should not be subject to such abuse. But you may have to try to get assistance from the bus driver to corroborate.

Knowing the school, I don’t think they will pretend nothing happen.

Hope it works out for your gal. So far my kids’ journey have been smooth.

[hquek]

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[hongwen1]

Thanks Hquek. Base on your experience, how are bullies punished? I am also worried that the my gal will get worse treatments as the bullies will get revengeful after punishment. Her bus it’s those small van with about 11 kids. In fact, they warned another p1 gal from talking to my gal. This gal has an elder bro in the bus so she is spared. Now more children join them to call her names, instigated by the main bully. Can imagine the environment in the bus where the young birds listen to the old birds and join in the fun of bullying the baby bird. But the way I hear it, it’s merely name calling. Nothing as serious as what the main bullies are doing.


Actually, if not for the confirmation by the driver auntie, I would have taught my gal is lying. Initially I still ask her why do they target you and only you? They have nothing better to do?!

There is once they keep calling her losers and red house people are losers. My gal lost it and shouted back at them "I don’t care!". This make things worse. Initially they only call her stupid, idiot and the f word. After that incident, the bullies became angrier. I scolded her big time for this as I had already taught her not to answer back! Just look outside and 忍, 忍 ,忍! Guess to a 6 year old, she still do not know how to control. Had counselled her that this is not a preschool environment, no longer a pure and innocent place. I would expect her to face these when she is in sec schools but this is too fast forward. So she gotto learn fast!

I had contacted the bus operator, a very very nice lady. She is helping me to investigate and hopefully can settle this. Last resort will be to contact school. I am just worried that the bullies will seek revenge and make life more difficult for her. She actually love her school a lot. After her daily cry over the school bus bullies, she will talk to me about the fun time she had in her class, recess and the stories presented during assembly. Hope this is just a small black dot in her primary school journey.

[hquek]

Hi hongwen1,


I asked my kids who took school bus and am told that they had also seen instances of name calling…not clear what happen later. I took the chance to teach kids how to react. First, tell your gal that if they call names…if she is not the one (ie not a loser), don’t react and pretend never hear. Bullies hate to be left hanging there and they delight in victim reaction. At worst your gal can retort (mildly)’ huh…u calling yourself? Treat the bullies as invisible. Should they become physical, then she must report to teachers immediately. Recall there are very fierce teachers in school who would never condone such happenings.

Is it possible for your gal to sit in the front of the van? At least keep them segregated so they can’t touch her.

Do let the school know so steps can be taken to mitigate. Remind your gal never to hit out cos then she will be the real loser.

Hugs to your gal…

[hongwen1]

Hi hquek, thanks for the pointers. Yes, totally agree with you. Initially when they call her stupid or idiot or "f -ker" she actually shouted at them to stop using the bad words on her. The p4 will told her "I will slap you". My gal has limited vocabulary actually. She do not know how else to respond. She also do not know what female dog means when they call her that. She just sob and told me that they call her a dog, a female dog but she don’t want to be a dog.

Lately, I explained to her that anything she reply, they will be angry. So just don’t react. This week, except for the "red house loser" saga, she told me she already try not to reply anything. With the MP3, I hope she can really hear no evil.

Btw, why do they call red house loser? My gal ask me why, I also dunno man. She also ask me then why is she in red house and not other house that are not loser… Hmmm…tough to explain.

Her bus used to be a male driver. Recently change into an auntie who is really nice. On Friday, She spoke to me for the first time, wind down her window and whispered to me, ask me to get my gal to sit in the front row next time. She is aware of the happenings and how bad the big girls are. My girl is currently in the last row. So glad that there is someone in the bus who dares to help my gal. My short conversation with her further confirm this dark side of the senior girls and clear my doubts. On the surface, they look so well behaved when I pick my girl. Sitting quietly, listening to their MP3. My girl told me they are just pretending as they know the bus is turning to our place. These girls can really make it big next time. At this age, they are already so "smart".

Everyday, whenever I hear her encounter, I have this strong urge to encourage her to speak up, stand up and "fight back". Have to be aggressive and confident to survive in this society. Cannot bow down to bullies! But I held back and teach her the contrary. Hahahaa… Really not easy to be parents.

[hquek]

Hi hongwen1,


I don’t see why she should fight insults with anger, esp since she knows she is not what they are talking about. I was told green house always the winner but frankly I like the red stripes.on the shirts. Loser or winner is dependent on self. Make sure your gal is not affected by them because frankly…they are so not worth it. Hope that the school can intervene soon to stop this harrassing.

Not sure if you wanna explore. Would auntie or your gal be able to record voice memo on her hp? Then pray the seniors unleash it well and good. I am sure no one can deny. Also.whilst I do not think these will extend to physical, do tell your gal to stick in groups at school AMD do not hesitate to report to teacher.

Present p is v caring and I know very well that PSG is more interested in kids moral behaviour so this will definitely not be condoned.

[phtthp]

School Principal is looking into this bullying case, now. Next Week, those kids involved in bullying the P1 pupil will be identified. No bullies tolerated in Hong Wen school

[hongwen1]

Phtthp, the principal read this forum? I really hope they don’t seek revenge on my gal if they are being reprimanded. My gal is v petite for a P1. The school bus operator already promise to help me talk to the senior gals on Monday.


Hquek, great minds think alike!! I also thought of using the voice recording function of the phone initially. Even taught my girl how to use it on her daddy’s old iPhone. But she keep telling me school cannot bring HP and she will be caught. Told her to say mummy say can bring. She still don’t dare.
I know I shldnt teach her to break school rules, I am just not convince that those innocent looking gals will say such nasty things. I wanted to hear it myself and also gather the evidence before reporting to the school.