Move in with MIL?

[jasminesmt]

I stayed with my in-laws since our wedding 3 years ago. Waiting for our BTO flat to be ready and I tell you I can’t wait to move out.


Staying together before we had a baby was ok and peaceful. But after we had a baby, it’s difficult to see eye to eye on how to raise the baby. Often I complain to my husband but he gets sick of me complaining about his mother.

To me, it’s better not to stay with parents, no matter whose side, once you have children, conflicts are bound to surface.

[octoberbaby]

Get a maid to act as middle person. Solve the problems.


I missed staying in the west side.

[janet88]

octoberbaby:

Get a maid to act as middle person. Solve the problems.


I missed staying in the west side.

I told my maid...never entertain her nonsense, for eg what goes on in my family. Don't like her to ask so much. Telling hubby about his mother is useless...either he doesn't like it or he will never see true colors.

Not possible to stay with his parents bcos daughters in law will lose their status as co-owner.

[octoberbaby]

The house registered under whose name?

[chenwj]

What is your hubby's opinion? My mum and wifey hold different values in certain matters, and they have different ways to do house chores (i.e: one insists to hand wash socks, another insists socks can be washed by washing machine ). To be under the same household daily can be trying for the man if anything between the 2 woman escalates.


If I were you, I would sacrifice the convenience and keep the status quo.

[janet88]

chenwj:

What is your hubby's opinion? My mum and wifey hold different values in certain matters, and they have different ways to do house chores (i.e: one insists to hand wash socks, another insists socks can be washed by washing machine ). To be under the same household daily can be trying for the man if anything between the 2 woman escalates.


If I were you, I would sacrifice the convenience and keep the status quo.

:goodpost:
Trivial issues can kill...it is not possible to have 2 tigresses in ONE household. To keep sanity, it's best to forgo convenience.

[chenwj]

janet_lee88:

chenwj:

What is your hubby's opinion? My mum and wifey hold different values in certain matters, and they have different ways to do house chores (i.e: one insists to hand wash socks, another insists socks can be washed by washing machine ). To be under the same household daily can be trying for the man if anything between the 2 woman escalates.


If I were you, I would sacrifice the convenience and keep the status quo.

:goodpost:
Trivial issues can kill...it is not possible to have 2 tigresses in ONE household. To keep sanity, it's best to forgo convenience.

i clarify first hor..im not saying my wifey is tigressssss hor... :yikes: :scared:

:siam:

LOL

u know..let me try an analogy: the different values between mum and wife are like the small cut on your skin. So they don't meet daily, don't stay together. The small cut heals after 4-5 days.

But staying together, meet daily.. it is like the small cut never get any chance to heal. it reopens daily until it gets an infection and u might see pus. Have to go hospital...etc...etc..

[janet88]

I have to give my hubby face…if I am fierce with his mother, he will be upset…so I keep quiet most of the time in his presence…even though his mother tests my patience. But my eldest SIL is different. She has authority. So I let her run the show. The old one is pissed bcos she is told what to do and tries to get sympathy. I don’t want to care bcos given a chance, the old one will stab my back…again.

[mummychua]

chenwj:

janet_lee88:

[quote=\"chenwj\"]What is your hubby's opinion? My mum and wifey hold different values in certain matters, and they have different ways to do house chores (i.e: one insists to hand wash socks, another insists socks can be washed by washing machine ). To be under the same household daily can be trying for the man if anything between the 2 woman escalates.


If I were you, I would sacrifice the convenience and keep the status quo.

:goodpost:
Trivial issues can kill...it is not possible to have 2 tigresses in ONE household. To keep sanity, it's best to forgo convenience.

i clarify first hor..im not saying my wifey is tigressssss hor... :yikes: :scared:

:siam:

LOL

u know..let me try an analogy: the different values between mum and wife are like the small cut on your skin. So they don't meet daily, don't stay together. The small cut heals after 4-5 days.

But staying together, meet daily.. it is like the small cut never get any chance to heal. it reopens daily until it gets an infection and u might see pus. Have to go hospital...etc...etc..[/quote] :goodpost:

[mummychua]

octoberbaby:

The house registered under whose name?

its registered under my MIL but my dh paid for it but its considered as mil place. for the year when im staying with her, i treat myself as guest. never intrude her kitchen, nv tried to rearrange, nv try to change the way she do things. always try to make myself invisible. only speak when needed. try not to stay at hm when dh is not at hm.

but she not happy with the way i treat her son. like i force my dh to wash plates, do simple household chores which he had nv done before marriage.