Move in with MIL?

[janet88]

sleepy:

I confirmed couldn't survive in the same household as my MIL. We have very different ways of running things in the house. Furthermore, I've a clear idea how I would like to raise my children, which rules and guidelines that they must adhered to. So clashes will be unavoidable because my MIL likes to impose her views on her grandchildren too. Yes, we're similar in that sense.


So who will be the boss? Definitely my MIL.
Yet, if I have all my rules and guideline being overwritten, I told my hubby I will have no choice but to kickbox him in order to retain my sanity :evil:

So there, mission impossible!

Same here...children need rules. Like this holiday, I get them to do work (English, Chinese or math for younger one) in the morning before we go out...even if they play computer later part of the day.

I control children's intake of soft drinks, fried food or fast food...there is no nutrition...but since holiday, I let go a little. With HER, all hell with break loose bcos she doesn't believe in drinking water but Pepsi. Then all meals are eaten outside. Daughter told me she smells like cigarette.

[jasminesmt]

I stayed with my in-laws since our wedding 3 years ago. Waiting for our BTO flat to be ready and I tell you I can’t wait to move out.


Staying together before we had a baby was ok and peaceful. But after we had a baby, it’s difficult to see eye to eye on how to raise the baby. Often I complain to my husband but he gets sick of me complaining about his mother.

To me, it’s better not to stay with parents, no matter whose side, once you have children, conflicts are bound to surface.

[octoberbaby]

Get a maid to act as middle person. Solve the problems.


I missed staying in the west side.

[janet88]

octoberbaby:

Get a maid to act as middle person. Solve the problems.


I missed staying in the west side.

I told my maid...never entertain her nonsense, for eg what goes on in my family. Don't like her to ask so much. Telling hubby about his mother is useless...either he doesn't like it or he will never see true colors.

Not possible to stay with his parents bcos daughters in law will lose their status as co-owner.

[octoberbaby]

The house registered under whose name?

[chenwj]

What is your hubby's opinion? My mum and wifey hold different values in certain matters, and they have different ways to do house chores (i.e: one insists to hand wash socks, another insists socks can be washed by washing machine ). To be under the same household daily can be trying for the man if anything between the 2 woman escalates.


If I were you, I would sacrifice the convenience and keep the status quo.

[janet88]

chenwj:

What is your hubby's opinion? My mum and wifey hold different values in certain matters, and they have different ways to do house chores (i.e: one insists to hand wash socks, another insists socks can be washed by washing machine ). To be under the same household daily can be trying for the man if anything between the 2 woman escalates.


If I were you, I would sacrifice the convenience and keep the status quo.

:goodpost:
Trivial issues can kill...it is not possible to have 2 tigresses in ONE household. To keep sanity, it's best to forgo convenience.

[chenwj]

janet_lee88:

chenwj:

What is your hubby's opinion? My mum and wifey hold different values in certain matters, and they have different ways to do house chores (i.e: one insists to hand wash socks, another insists socks can be washed by washing machine ). To be under the same household daily can be trying for the man if anything between the 2 woman escalates.


If I were you, I would sacrifice the convenience and keep the status quo.

:goodpost:
Trivial issues can kill...it is not possible to have 2 tigresses in ONE household. To keep sanity, it's best to forgo convenience.

i clarify first hor..im not saying my wifey is tigressssss hor... :yikes: :scared:

:siam:

LOL

u know..let me try an analogy: the different values between mum and wife are like the small cut on your skin. So they don't meet daily, don't stay together. The small cut heals after 4-5 days.

But staying together, meet daily.. it is like the small cut never get any chance to heal. it reopens daily until it gets an infection and u might see pus. Have to go hospital...etc...etc..

[janet88]

I have to give my hubby face…if I am fierce with his mother, he will be upset…so I keep quiet most of the time in his presence…even though his mother tests my patience. But my eldest SIL is different. She has authority. So I let her run the show. The old one is pissed bcos she is told what to do and tries to get sympathy. I don’t want to care bcos given a chance, the old one will stab my back…again.

[mummychua]

chenwj:

janet_lee88:

[quote=\"chenwj\"]What is your hubby's opinion? My mum and wifey hold different values in certain matters, and they have different ways to do house chores (i.e: one insists to hand wash socks, another insists socks can be washed by washing machine ). To be under the same household daily can be trying for the man if anything between the 2 woman escalates.


If I were you, I would sacrifice the convenience and keep the status quo.

:goodpost:
Trivial issues can kill...it is not possible to have 2 tigresses in ONE household. To keep sanity, it's best to forgo convenience.

i clarify first hor..im not saying my wifey is tigressssss hor... :yikes: :scared:

:siam:

LOL

u know..let me try an analogy: the different values between mum and wife are like the small cut on your skin. So they don't meet daily, don't stay together. The small cut heals after 4-5 days.

But staying together, meet daily.. it is like the small cut never get any chance to heal. it reopens daily until it gets an infection and u might see pus. Have to go hospital...etc...etc..[/quote] :goodpost: