桃花谈
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insider,
hope u n ur son r well…Root canal…scary…muz go few times…after that,jaws pain…muz rest well,ok? -
insider:
Da Jie, lucky u come back Liao.hahaha...me not around for a few days (busy with my root canal and my son's operation), this thread becomes shoes, bags, water heater, etc...
Oei!!
I was about to ＂刊登寻人启事＂for u to come back here... :evil: -
Imami:
yesterday I spent quite a long time talking to my mil yday and the session ended with me 感触良多. I Haven't figured out why these kept running in my mind.
Mil-for some strange reasons, she kept saying to save money so that if she end up with stroke, can self fund and send herself to nursing home. I was like :slapshead: come on la, u got three kids, why u sound even more pathetic than me?!
Emmm...I dont think you really believe in what your MIL has been saying right? Many women, esp old ones, are good at 口是心非. They say one thing but actually are trying hit for the opposite...
Guess your MIL is feeling insecured about her old age and hope to get more re-assurance by saying about nursing home. Maybe when we grow older, we may also act like this towards our kids to try to 声东击西. It's just a 'normal' tactic used, esp by women...
When we see others suffer, we just carry a compassionate heart in us. There's nothing much we can do as we don't know much about their past deeds to have resulted in their current situations.
Miscarriage of course is a painful thing though somehow, experiences tell me that some times it is 'self induced' ones. 'Self induced' coz of too many worries and anxieties. The pregnant woman may keep thinking of \"will I lost the baby? will I lost the baby?\", carrying the baby in unnecessary fear of losing it and therefore at the end, may really lose it. (many really find it hard to stop worrying and start real living somehow. Worries most of the time are futile thoughts that consume one's positive Qi unncessary but many just can't stop this bad 'habit'...)
PS Chief:
My son just been through hernia operation. Now resting at home. Wound will take about 8 weeks for full recovery, meaning he will need to be 'out of actions' for about 2 months which is a 'torture' for him. My house now so 热闹, everyday got his kakis visiting and his room full of laughter...
PS Vinegar:
My root canal procedure actually quite 'comfortable' but tedious. Completed three sessions and got another 3 more to go (incl crowning). I will try to write in details in the dental thread when I have time and after I completed the whole procedure (coz not as 'scary' as what I thought it would be). -
Hi insider,
Glad to read that all is well with your ds and you.
After my last report, I was doing well. BUT I failed miserably during the 3 days prior to my menses. My next door neighbour and my neighbours living above and below me definitely heard my screams.
I must keep track of my cycle to be mentally prepare for the next time. I usually don’t keep track. Poor kids and hubby…
I’m more sane now. -
About branded goods.
If you can well afford, then go buy them coz with your income, you are supposed to support those people who are working in those lines (good karma).
And yes, not buying with the intention of making yourself looks ‘big’ and then others looks ‘small’ else bad.
Best is got money, spend them evenly on things that you can afford, luxury goods if you like as well as on charities. Then money will Come Come Come easier…
I can afford luxury goods, can afford to have my own car, can afford a private property, etc. But I have minimal luxury goods and non of those car and pte property. Not so much of I am not willing to spend but I have no ‘feelings’ towards these material needs. I have no urge to invest too to let money make more money (I don’t really believe in having a lot of money coz more money = burden if the purpose is not for donations/sharing with those in needs). Whatever I have should be enough to last me till me and hubby die and I don’t need to plan for my 3 kids other than for their education. And so, by living simply = financially I am ultra comfortable… -
TAN
I gave my sis 5 years to see more meaningful improvement in seeing herself managing her hot temper.
You are more conscientious than her and so you will get to see the results sooner.
As you keep trying and trying, one day (hope sooner) you will hit an ‘enlightenment point’. It’s a point where you really understand that there’s no need to be upset over anything and from thereon, this power becomes yours that you don’t need to ‘control’ yr temper anymore coz it will become natural that you don’t get upset over things like in the past that will agitate you… -
Hi insider,
Thanks for the encouragement. -
insider:
Wah, this theory I like :evil: good karma if I go shopping!About branded goods.
If you can well afford, then go buy them coz with your income, you are supposed to support those people who are working in those lines (good karma). -
insider:
Erm.... Actually I believed what mil said. After her 4 key hole surgery last year, she seemed frail, memory weakened a lot and losing her usual enthusiasm and appetite.
Emmm...I dont think you really believe in what your MIL has been saying right? Many women, esp old ones, are good at 口是心非. They say one thing but actually are trying hit for the opposite...
Guess your MIL is feeling insecured about her old age and hope to get more re-assurance by saying about nursing home. Maybe when we grow older, we may also act like this towards our kids to try to 声东击西. It's just a 'normal' tactic used, esp by women...
When we see others suffer, we just carry a compassionate heart in us. There's nothing much we can do as we don't know much about their past deeds to have resulted in their current situations.
Miscarriage of course is a painful thing though somehow, experiences tell me that some times it is 'self induced' ones. 'Self induced' coz of too many worries and anxieties. The pregnant woman may keep thinking of \"will I lost the baby? will I lost the baby?\", carrying the baby in unnecessary fear of losing it and therefore at the end, may really lose it. (many really find it hard to stop worrying and start real living somehow. Worries most of the time are futile thoughts that consume one's positive Qi unncessary but many just can't stop this bad 'habit'...)
For a long while her daughter, son in law and grandson always park themselves at mil's home - eat dinner, let kid shower etc.
Bil also recently sold his place and bunked in mil's home with his wife and new born. But recently all took flight (for various reasons) and only returned for dinner once in a while.
So I am also not sure if she is suffering from \"empty nest\" syndrome?
Recently, when we were leaving her place, I thought she was tearing. :scared: dunno got see wrong or not. -
Oh yes, regarding the \"self induced\" miscarriages - to a certain extent, I think the 念 in sil was acting up. When she was pregnant with her first child, I congratulated her and asked if they had painted the town red when they confirmed the news. Her reply was quite a shock - we didn't celebrate becos we scare drop. U know or not, 25% of all pregnancies ended up in miscarriage.
I was like :lightrod: What she said influenced me though. When I was pregnant, I also didn't celebrate. But as I was doing very well, no morning sickness etc, I sometimes forgot I was already pregnant :slapshead:
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