All About Bullying

[Kaykayla]

Sometimes the school teacher don't bother about what we do or say to our classmates even when it has escalated to my friends fighting and pulling each other hair. I am lucky I wasn't targeted but I really feel very sad for one of my classmates who is slightly bigger in size. The others always make fun of her n made her life hell in school. Our FT never do anything to help, she told us that any problem we have, we need to settle it by ourselves, her job is only to teach us. Omg when I heard that! I hope I can help my classmate but I can't because the rest would gang up against me too

[Lovebelle]

chl72:

Thank you buds, mypillow and mathswiz.


I did see the FT during PTC earlier this yr. I told her to watch the class silently and see for herself how the classmates treated her. She agreed and did see a few instances that they were not very 'nice' to her. She said that she will find a chance to talk to the class about this issue. Yesterday, I heard from a mother that she finally found the opportunity (when my DD is on MC) to talk to the class. What did she say exactly I am not sure though, as the mother say her child doesn't wan to tell her too much. Something like tell them not to pick on her... let's just wait n see if things improve lor....
I talked to DD last night abt how she felt, she told me that they are making her hate going to sch. I told her to tell FT that, dun always tell tchr she is ok when tchr ask her... I know that my DD can be very blunt at times, i told her not everyone can accept that. There was a time when she walk pass a classmate n saw something wrong in his work. She told him that he did wrongly(maybe quite bluntly), was immediately scolded n tell her to mind her own business.. she can't understand why she get this treatment when she meant well. In the end, she was right n the boy blame her for his mistakes.

I am those very introverted person. Asking me to take the initiative to contact those parents is really not that easy for me... My DD on the other hand is super extroverted and vocal. She can talk to practically anyone. So I am having quite a hard time handling her. i know she has problems with her social skills, we are working on improving that.

Thank you everyone for your kind advices.

It is always worrying for parents when their dc is the target of bully. So chl72, is your child's situation any better now? Sure hope it is.

[Presby]

Why did a child become a bully? What prompted that behaviour? TV, Movies or violent computer games? Somehow it’s unavoidable for a child to be exposed to violent as it is prevalent in TV, movies and games today. Sometimes they may learnt it from their parents, relatives and friends.


Many parents are generally OK if their child is a bully or rude to others. Recently I opened the door for a lady and the kid she was with was rude to me and scream that he wants to open the door but the lady just smile.

Do most parents understand the impact on the child that is a bully or rude? The child may lose friends and won’t get support in school. If the behaviour persisted through to his or her adult life, he or she may be ostracized in the workplace or society.

This shows the lack of awareness among parents. Do most young parents know what and how to teach their children? Many may have the basics to inculcate their child but is it enough? How then can they develop a more holistic development so that their child has the right behaviour to be successfully in school and adult life? We can’t educate other people’s children and can only help our own children react in the most productive manner in today’s world. The point is what can we do.

[rakutenten]

Presby:

Why did a child become a bully? What prompted that behaviour? TV, Movies or violent computer games? Somehow it's unavoidable for a child to be exposed to violent as it is prevalent in TV, movies and games today. Sometimes they may learnt it from their parents, relatives and friends.


Many parents are generally OK if their child is a bully or rude to others. Recently I opened the door for a lady and the kid she was with was rude to me and scream that he wants to open the door but the lady just smile.

Do most parents understand the impact on the child that is a bully or rude? The child may lose friends and won't get support in school. If the behaviour persisted through to his or her adult life, he or she may be ostracized in the workplace or society.

This shows the lack of awareness among parents. Do most young parents know what and how to teach their children? Many may have the basics to inculcate their child but is it enough? How then can they develop a more holistic development so that their child has the right behaviour to be successfully in school and adult life? We can't educate other people's children and can only help our own children react in the most productive manner in today's world. The point is what can we do.

I beg to differ
BULLY wont be ostracized. In fact BULLY in class gather more bully to join in the act.
THE VICTIM is the one that will be ostracized instead.

My niece has been a victim since Sec 1.
We confronted the school involving the principal, vice principal and form teacher.
Ended up now she become the one ostracized in school.

[Presby]

rakutenten:

Presby:

Why did a child become a bully? What prompted that behaviour? TV, Movies or violent computer games? Somehow it's unavoidable for a child to be exposed to violent as it is prevalent in TV, movies and games today. Sometimes they may learnt it from their parents, relatives and friends.


Many parents are generally OK if their child is a bully or rude to others. Recently I opened the door for a lady and the kid she was with was rude to me and scream that he wants to open the door but the lady just smile.

Do most parents understand the impact on the child that is a bully or rude? The child may lose friends and won't get support in school. If the behaviour persisted through to his or her adult life, he or she may be ostracized in the workplace or society.

This shows the lack of awareness among parents. Do most young parents know what and how to teach their children? Many may have the basics to inculcate their child but is it enough? How then can they develop a more holistic development so that their child has the right behaviour to be successfully in school and adult life? We can't educate other people's children and can only help our own children react in the most productive manner in today's world. The point is what can we do.

I beg to differ
BULLY wont be ostracized. In fact BULLY in class gather more bully to join in the act.
THE VICTIM is the one that will be ostracized instead.

My niece has been a victim since Sec 1.
We confronted the school involving the principal, vice principal and form teacher.
Ended up now she become the one ostracized in school.

This is so sad. It seems like a pretty serious case for the parents to take it up to the principal. The school should be objective in dealing with the case and help the victim overcome it. Would it be helpful if the case is taken up with MOE? The worst case may be to transfer the student to another class or even another school. If the same happens to my daughter, I will probably press on.

[beth_ng]

Sigh… bullying can be a big part of academic and life balance. Sometimes, espcially having a more reserved child, you might not get a big picture about what is going on…

[Mephiro]

My son (P2) was bullied by 3 kids in his primary school, they hit him and kicked him in gang (3 of them) without a valid reason, the teacher called me after the incident, but not sure if the school has warned the 3 kids. I tried to comfort my kid and asked him not to play around in school and there must be something they are not happy with my son. Sad to say there is nothing I can do with it. I told my son not to become a bully like them and he've learned the lesson too. I think parent play a big role in these kind of incidents, it is good that children can learn how cruel the outside world in the early stage, they need to learn how to deal with bully from young age. When they've grown up someday, they will also encounter bully in the workplace. What we can do as parent is to make them a better person.

[zbear]

Sorry to learn of your son being a bully victim. Pls monitor the situation closely as there will always be a second time.

[Steadyberry]

Zbear is right. Will always be a 2nd time. My ds was bullied by a P6 boy when he was in p2 too. 1st time, my ds didn’t tell me. But when the boy saw my boy again, he did it again. Bullies won’t stop unless we, parents put a stop to it. The school even put the blame on my ds that my ds provoked the boy. I asked around & aft found out that the boy was the "naughty" type, I told the school I will call the police unless they do something about it. The school warned the p6 boy not to go near my boy in the future.

[Layyanana]

I agree