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      en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg
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      My father gave more attention and love to my sister’s daughter. He said, my kids have all the things in the world and my niece should have more too. I don’t mind such remarks. Knowing my father, he indulges all his grandchildren but more to my niece earlier on as my sister was a sahm. My mother doesn’t show her reservation but told me that she does not feel close to my niece. I reason with my mum that the reason she feels closer to my kids are because, she look after mine and not my niece. Looking after my children will remind her of my naughtiness but for my niece, there’s no similarities to my sister. I understood how my mum feels. They just came back from a short vacation. I hope the short vacation will make my mum feel closer to her other grandchild.

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        EN:
        My father gave more attention and love to my sister's daughter. He said, my kids have all the things in the world and my niece should have more too. I don't mind such remarks. Knowing my father, he indulges all his grandchildren but more to my niece earlier on as my sister was a sahm. My mother doesn't show her reservation but told me that she does not feel close to my niece. I reason with my mum that the reason she feels closer to my kids are because, she look after mine and not my niece. Looking after my children will remind her of my naughtiness but for my niece, there's no similarities to my sister. I understood how my mum feels. They just came back from a short vacation. I hope the short vacation will make my mum feel closer to her other grandchild.

        Do you think that after staying with the adoptive family from birth, doesn't the child takes up the mannerism of the adoptive families. I saw my cousin's child speaks and act exactly like my cousin. Its weird, but I think after eating/sleeping and always being with her does have effect with the child in their growing up. Its funny :lol:

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          Cinta
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          hi, anyone noe how long will be the adoption process n how much is d legal fees…txs

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            hquek
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            I’ve heard true life stories where the adopted child later became more fillial to his/her parents (as compared with the bio ones).


            In any case, a story I read long time back. This adopted child told her tormentors (bio child) "My daddy and mummy had a choice and they selected me, yours didn’t choose you, they had no choice".

            I have 2 kids of my own, and probably (never say never) won’t want to add the the human population - will be more prone to adopt a child becos I feel that love is nurtured and not born. I love my kids not becos they came from my womb, but becos I have seen them grow and have grown with them.

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              mum03
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              Cinta:
              hi, anyone noe how long will be the adoption process n how much is d legal fees....txs

              It took nearly a year to complete the adoption. Has for legal fees, if I am not wrong it was about $2000. Hope it helps

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                Cinta
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                mum03:
                Cinta:

                hi, anyone noe how long will be the adoption process n how much is d legal fees....txs


                It took nearly a year to complete the adoption. Has for legal fees, if I am not wrong it was about $2000. Hope it helps

                txs.

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                  Sorry, I don't mean to purposely bump up such an old thread but I came across this video from zaobao today and thought it's worth viewing. Hopefully sharing it on a thread like this will reach out to those who have interest in this topic.


                  https://www.zaobao.com.sg/news/singapore/story20220622-1285630

                  [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BC0gS2Ij-xw]

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                    janet88
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                    I saw this pop up counter at Clementi mall sometime back regarding child adoption.

                    It’s really not easy to adopt a child. Even with the same amount of love showered on the child like own child, will he/she want to find biological parents one day? I remember when my kids were much younger and gave me problems, it was hard to handle. When my daughter was rebellious at 15/16, it was so stressful. But then they are my kids.

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                      Liew Nga Wing
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                      janet88\" post_id=\"2082291\" time=\"1663290967\" user_id=\"12950:

                      I saw this pop up counter at Clementi mall sometime back regarding child adoption.
                      It’s really not easy to adopt a child. Even with the same amount of love showered on the child like own child, will he/she want to find biological parents one day? I remember when my kids were much younger and gave me problems, it was hard to handle. When my daughter was rebellious at 15/16, it was so stressful. But then they are my kids.
                      What is wrong when the kids want to find their biological mother? :?

                      I am a step mother, my step son sometimes stay with me and DH and sometimes stay with his own biological mother and step father. Should I stop showing my love on him?

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                        zac's mum
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                        janet88\" post_id=\"2082291\" time=\"1663290967\" user_id=\"12950:

                        I saw this pop up counter at Clementi mall sometime back regarding child adoption.
                        It’s really not easy to adopt a child. Even with the same amount of love showered on the child like own child, will he/she want to find biological parents one day? I remember when my kids were much younger and gave me problems, it was hard to handle. When my daughter was rebellious at 15/16, it was so stressful. But then they are my kids.
                        Was the pop up counter about fostering? Currently in NEX library they have an outreach booth about fostering. Interested parties please do have a chat with the folks there :love:

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