Child adoption

[Cinta]

hi, anyone noe how long will be the adoption process n how much is d legal fees…txs

[hquek]

I’ve heard true life stories where the adopted child later became more fillial to his/her parents (as compared with the bio ones).


In any case, a story I read long time back. This adopted child told her tormentors (bio child) "My daddy and mummy had a choice and they selected me, yours didn’t choose you, they had no choice".

I have 2 kids of my own, and probably (never say never) won’t want to add the the human population - will be more prone to adopt a child becos I feel that love is nurtured and not born. I love my kids not becos they came from my womb, but becos I have seen them grow and have grown with them.

[mum03]

Cinta:

hi, anyone noe how long will be the adoption process n how much is d legal fees....txs

It took nearly a year to complete the adoption. Has for legal fees, if I am not wrong it was about $2000. Hope it helps

[Cinta]

mum03:

Cinta:

hi, anyone noe how long will be the adoption process n how much is d legal fees....txs

It took nearly a year to complete the adoption. Has for legal fees, if I am not wrong it was about $2000. Hope it helps

txs.

[chenlaoshi]

Sorry, I don't mean to purposely bump up such an old thread but I came across this video from zaobao today and thought it's worth viewing. Hopefully sharing it on a thread like this will reach out to those who have interest in this topic.


https://www.zaobao.com.sg/news/singapore/story20220622-1285630

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BC0gS2Ij-xw]

[janet88]

I saw this pop up counter at Clementi mall sometime back regarding child adoption.

It’s really not easy to adopt a child. Even with the same amount of love showered on the child like own child, will he/she want to find biological parents one day? I remember when my kids were much younger and gave me problems, it was hard to handle. When my daughter was rebellious at 15/16, it was so stressful. But then they are my kids.

[Liew Nga Wing]

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I saw this pop up counter at Clementi mall sometime back regarding child adoption.
It’s really not easy to adopt a child. Even with the same amount of love showered on the child like own child, will he/she want to find biological parents one day? I remember when my kids were much younger and gave me problems, it was hard to handle. When my daughter was rebellious at 15/16, it was so stressful. But then they are my kids.

What is wrong when the kids want to find their biological mother? :?

I am a step mother, my step son sometimes stay with me and DH and sometimes stay with his own biological mother and step father. Should I stop showing my love on him?

[zac's mum]

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I saw this pop up counter at Clementi mall sometime back regarding child adoption.
It’s really not easy to adopt a child. Even with the same amount of love showered on the child like own child, will he/she want to find biological parents one day? I remember when my kids were much younger and gave me problems, it was hard to handle. When my daughter was rebellious at 15/16, it was so stressful. But then they are my kids.

Was the pop up counter about fostering? Currently in NEX library they have an outreach booth about fostering. Interested parties please do have a chat with the folks there :love:

[phtthp]

Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=\"2082293\" time=\"1663292104\" user_id=\"195250:[quote=\"Liew Nga Wing\" post_id=2082293 time=1663292104 user_id=195250]
What is wrong when the kids want to find their biological mother? :?

I am a step mother, my step son sometimes stay with me and DH and sometimes stay with his own biological mother and step father. Should I stop showing my love on him?[/quote]

LNW, continue to shower love on your son. You are doing the right thing. Continue to bond with him. He will still be able to feel your love. Don't give up. Take it that he is blessed, able to experience extended family love, coming from two sets of parents, instead of just one set.

Relationship building, bonding Is very important,

- between (mother and child),
or
- between (father and child)

[sharonkhoo]

I know several families with adopted kids, and 1 family which has fostered several kids over the years, and ended up adopting 2 of them (to add to their 4 kids!). All I can say is that some people really have compassionate hearts, and I am full of respect for them. I don’t think I could cope with fostered/adopted kids, especially as they tend to be traumatised and needy, or have special needs.


As for seeking out biological parents - I see nothing bad about that. If the relationship between child and adoptive parents is strong, adding another set of parents won’t affect the relationship adversely in the long run.