Ang Mo Kio Tragedy ....

[mintcc]

Funz:

insider:

PS: Given that the gambling woes have been for sometimes, the wife should have been more careful with the timing of her 3rd pregnancy. The baby in her tummy suffers lots even before birth...

Is the wife really pregnant with the 3rd child?

not too sure, looks like she is from one of the picture but the family say she is not...

But I don't agree that wives can foresee the man is going to kill though...from all accounts she might think the kids a safe with hiim because he appear to be a loving father....

Sad to say, such things happen often enough for there to be a term for it by criminal psychologists :

\"Dr. Levin has provided a profile of the family annihilator as a middle-aged man, who appears to others (outside the family) to be a good provider, a loving father, and a faithful and loving husband. But he tends to be isolated, with no close friends or support system of his own, aside from his family. He has suffered with feelings of inadequacy and some form of long frustration.But he tends to be isolated, with no close friends or support system of his own, aside from his family. He has suffered with feelings of inadequacy and some form of long frustration. Ultimately, he suffers some catastrophic loss which leads to his crime. This trigger may be the loss of his job, or loss of money through a bad investment, but sometimes it is the impending loss of his wife. He doesn't hate his children, although he may hate his wife and blame her for his own problems. He has previously been a controlling man, within the family, but now feels powerless. Dr. Levin's belief is that the family annihilator wants revenge against his wife.\" ....

\"Can crimes like this be prevented? Probably not. Dr. Yellowlees said that it can take a long time, even years, for a woman to realize that her husband views her as a possession, and that \"initially, a woman can feel flattered\" if her partner displays jealousy. By the time she realizes the degree of his possessiveness, it may be too late. Whether this obsessive possiveness leads to rage or frustration and feelings of failure, the family annihilator believes his best course of action is to destroy his family, and he does so with cunning and careful planning.\"


http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/266087/the_family_annihilator_fathers_who.html?singlepage=true&cat=17

[faith80]

Alas... it's really sad to hear about such tragedies happening... in fact, they can be prevented as long as one adopts the right mindset in life.... in the end, the kids are the ultimate victims....


This is one good read about managing anger that parents should take a look at.... a reminder that we might need from time to time... http://www.todaysmotherhood.com/how-should-parents-manage-anger/

Be positive!!

[cluelessmom]

tankee:

And since he was a bankrupt since 2003, he should be sensible enough and responsible enough NOT to have children ... :x
If we are not able to provide a decent environment for a child to grow, we as adults should never have children.

Sometimes, if we wait till we have the right and decent environment to have children, we might never get the chance to have one at all.........I think it's not a fair judgement and sad to expect and ask of all those who are underpriviledged, very poor or bankrupt not to have any children, who is to noe what is to expect of the future? We may be in a very comfortable and conducive environment now but situations may change the next min, how are we to judge and define when or what is a decent environment to have children? Sorry jus my 2 cents worth......

[Mama Leong]

I feel regardless of the reasons, he is being very selfish.

What right does he have to rob others of the right to live?

When he made a mistake, he wanted others to sacrific with him.
If one feels that he is heavily in debt and there is no way he can escape and need to die, he can commit suicide by all means. But leave the innocents alone!

I SERIOUSLY dun feel it is an act of LOVE, rather it is an ACT OF CORWARD!

If a person is married, he ought to be RESPONSIBLE and not landing himself into huge debts and make everyone in the family pays for it, whether they are alive or dead!

I really detest these type of people!

[buds]

Act of cowardice / selfishness or not, i still have reservations of the facts printed in the papers. Most times, the accuracy level is so-so oni... I oso have this thing about judging people at face value. I dunno them well enuf to do so, hence i find it unfair. Many things must've revolved around their family relationship that was not public knowledge. Every family has their issues, just because one family is featured on Page 1 doesn't exactly make my family any better than theirs. Though it is sad to hear / know of such tragedies and empathize with the situation, it is a good way to reflect on how sound my family is to avoid such incidences featured in the papers. Somehow, i find we'll never really know what is in store for us in the future... no matter how hard we have prepared for it. God will test us in many ways. Truth be told, i've been tested heavily... on a personal level and also at family level. It is really up to us how we are going to take it, resolve it and get on with our lives positively from then on... Just my sharings.. :oops:

[cluelessmom]

buds:

Every family has their issues, just because one family is featured on Page 1 doesn't exactly make my family any better than theirs. Though it is sad to hear / know of such tragedies and empathize with the situation, it is a good way to reflect on how sound my family is to avoid such incidences featured in the papers. Somehow, i find we'll never really know what is in store for us in the future... no matter how hard we have prepared for it. God will test us in many ways. Truth be told, i've been tested heavily... on a personal level and also at family level. It is really up to us how we are going to take it, resolve it and get on with our lives positively from then on... Just my sharings.. :oops:

Hey buds, u spoke my mind... :hugs: