Changes In Children
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I guess how we face up to our own inadequacy is also a lesson for our kids?
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everything we do...everything we do, my friend.
It's like reality TV, only more real that reality :love: -
Initial surprise behaviours of your kids can make you very heart ache, upset, angry, felt betrayed and so on. But after a few times, you would get immune to it. Slowly you would realise, its not that your kids are bad, its just the process he/she has to go through. I guess we have to keep telling ourselves, new problems = new challenges for us and don't worry, we are strong parents, we can handle them.
You see, for most of us who are working, we deal with so many kinds of problems, office politics, different types of peoples. We also can handle well in these years and still surviving in the working life. So what is this kiddy problem to us ? Small issue lah ....
hee .. hee ... just a way to motivate ourselves -
Well said daisyt!
Well said! :celebrate:
We also have you here with
us to guide through our time
with our teens when ours grow
up in the next coming years..
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Must say it’s really a challenge, fighting to stay cool when I just want to blow my top sometimes :x
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Wah so much more has been discussed....I must say it is really good to be here to learn parenting from one another and also from our kids. Bravo!!! :love:
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ks2me:
Wah so much more has been discussed....I must say it is really good to be here to learn parenting from one another and also from our kids. Bravo!!! :love:
Yep, what a learning process. It is ever evolving and every child is different. We not only learn how to be a parent, we learn to be HIS/HER parent. -
I read with awe the achievements of oversea secondary students in O Level results recently.
How fortunate their parents are because their child can be so clever and independent without them around.
Being the 7-11 parent I pale in comparison. I am full of admiration towards the parents of such a child. -
Bear.w.me:
Indeed, this kid is really something. She is probably a top scholar in Malaysia, but by coming to Singapore she learnt something more than academic, and that is independence. Look at how many have done this and become successful. Was last year's top O levels scholar the same?I read with awe the achievements of oversea secondary students in O Level results recently.
How fortunate their parents are because their child can be so clever and independent without them around.
Being the 7-11 parent I pale in comparison. I am full of admiration towards the parents of such a child.
I know for sure, Olivia Lum is such a person. Hardship does build character. Sometimes, I think that as our country becomes more affluent, we tend to shelter and pamper our kids too much, and focus too much in achievements, that we forget to teach them lifeskills, which is what they require to survive. Survival first, then academic, or academic first then survival? Character first, then trophies, or collect trophies regardless. Have we misplaced our priorities and exchanged what's important for what's urgent? :? -
Hardship does build character. What about emotional support when she feels down? Of course nowadays there are Skype, MSN and Facebook so distance is no longer a barrier in communication.
However, I think environment factors (in this case hostel) may shape the behaviour similar to boarding school. The environment will influence their behaviour for better time management (maybe they need to perform chores like folding their own clothes, washing their own shoes, ironing etc.) and leave time for revision at the same time.
Secondary school is the time most parents need to learn to let go of their child/children. Some how easier said than done especially when we are under the same roof.
Should there be hostel option for parents to send their teen children similar to JC or University. Afterall, MOE brought down the syllabus to primary (GEP) and IP. Why not replicate the environment as well? Will it toughen our young ones this way?
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