Club FTWM

[vividlaurel]

Hi All,


I just saw this thread, and FTWM (DD & DS (twins) P1) reporting. I think I won’t be happy being a SAHM, though the temptation is always there! But like most others, need the income (especially since we’ve just signed the papers to move to a bigger home) and also I get v bored just staying at home and doing housework (no offense to any SAHM, but I feel I’m just not cut out for it!)

I’ve been in this company since the day I realized I was pregnant (the day I went to the dr to confirm my preg was my 1st day here!) and though it’s not a well paying one, it lets me leave on dot, can come late if there is an emergency and at times can even work from home, so am here…

[rocklee]

Hello Mummies, FTWM reporting here too with 2 boys.


I have always wanted to quit my job and stay at home so that I can spend more time with my kids. But hor, I really can’t stand the idea of having to ask hubby for money each time I wanna buy something. Also I won’t be able to give my parents allowance. Furthermore, I feel extremely insecure with no money on hand. So here I am, still slogging in the office…no courage to quit…

[tree nymph]

rocklee:

Hello Mummies, FTWM reporting here too with 2 boys.


I have always wanted to quit my job and stay at home so that I can spend more time with my kids. But hor, I really can't stand the idea of having to ask hubby for money each time I wanna buy something. Also I won't be able to give my parents allowance. Furthermore, I feel extremely insecure with no money on hand. So here I am, still slogging in the office....no courage to quit....

me too leh, also cannot stand the thoughts of asking money from hb. and i also wanted to be financially independent too. the bigger reason is to escape from MIL cos we stay under one roof...

[Bronzy]

Hello to all the newcomers (that makes me feel like I am now a senior!)


I have always entertained the idea of being a SAHM but have not had the guts to quit after working for long. Also not sure whether we can manage on a single income. So plodding along.

I think that it would be great to be a SAHM if you have a maid to do all the housework!

[daisyt]

Hi to all seniors and juniors FTWM, just a little announcement here to share with all,


From another forum, a mum was co-ordinating for hiring a private small bus from North to Raffles Place every morning. If you are interested, please email to her [email protected] and she would send you the details. She is looking at either a 11 seaters or 19 seaters bus, depends on how many we can pool in. Of course a 19 seater is cheaper.

Operating Days: Mondays to Fridays (Excluding Sat,Sun & PH)

Pickup Point: MRT station (Marsiling, Woodlands, Admiratlty, Sembawang)

Drop off points:
1. One Marina Boulevard/One Raffles Quay
2. Republic Plaza
3. China Square Central
4. Great Eastern Centre
5. Tangjong Pagar MRT
6. Cantonment Road
7. Smith street
8. Suntec

[workingmom]

The eternal dilemna of FTWMs - not enough time with our kids !


Yes, after years of working full-time & seeing how much additional time the SAHMs have with their kids, the temptation is there to stop or go part-time. Hubby says though that he thinks I am not cut out for staying at home & better to outsource some of the teaching...anyone a firm believer in outsourcing? I think the SAHMs will be appalled at my suggestion :roll:

[KS_me]

workingmom:

The eternal dilemna of FTWMs - not enough time with our kids !


Yes, after years of working full-time & seeing how much additional time the SAHMs have with their kids, the temptation is there to stop or go part-time. Hubby says though that he thinks I am not cut out for staying at home & better to outsource some of the teaching...anyone a firm believer in outsourcing? I think the SAHMs will be appalled at my suggestion :roll:

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[MMM]

workingmom:

The eternal dilemna of FTWMs - not enough time with our kids !


Hubby says though that he thinks I am not cut out for staying at home & better to outsource some of the teaching...anyone a firm believer in outsourcing? I think the SAHMs will be appalled at my suggestion :roll:

It really depends. But it's true that not all mothers are the same and some cannot teach the kids so it's probably a better idea to outsource. But the issue with outsourcing (eg. tuition, enrichment classes) is that, to ensure that you are not dumping $ into the sea, you still need to re-enforce at home. Otherwise you might not be able to see results.

Unfortunately at the end of the day, it's still parent's involvement that matters most.

I am just hoping that I will have a good work life balance job for the next 15-20 years. This is my only wish.

[mum_triplets]

lovekidsverymuch:

mum_triplets:

Hi


Hello All,

I am FTWM reporting with 3 kids, DD1 DS1 and DS2 (all P2) this year.

Wow triplets... how did u cope when they were born and u FTWM.... kudos to you :celebrate:

Manageable with the help of my MIL and a maid. I always want to be a SAHM but my application was rejected by DH - HDB loan, school/enrichment/insurance fees.....

We need to travel to and fro from home (Tampines) to MIL's house
(central) every morning and evening. Poor children have to wake up @ 7.30am and reach home about 9pm every day. After homework, really have no time for revision as they have to sleep before 11pm.

[nothing2do]

hi all, i’m also FTWM. with 2 girls. P6 and Sec 1 this yr.