Asperger? Hyperactive?

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These are often highly gifted children and often we are at lost how to handle them.


Soup rightly used the description 'nonchalant' and 'blur'...I wld say they appear 'blur' coz they simply 'bochup' (nonchalant).

The challenge I faced and still facing is in the area of discipline and it's really a test of WILL and also stretches our WISDOM. Simple example,

Parents : If u don't do this, you will not get any computer time.
Kiddo : Ok lor!!
Parents : :stupid:

Anyway, if there's anything that can be done, you have to do it when he's still relatively young, ie, NOW! If not NOW, then it'll be even more worrying subsequently. Coz when he's young, older kids are still more tolerant towards that kinda non-team spirit. Once he gets old and people less tolerant, he may end up being sabo or left out. That will effect of the self esteem of even the most hardcore nonchalant kid.

Not trying to frighten you but sharing the challenge I'm still facing

But the good news is that my friend feedback that his highly gifted (HCI) son who was simply not a team player is now a changed person after enrolling into NS...thanks to BMT!!! :celebrate:

[soup]

:thankyou:


I think that if he still can't \"fit\" into his class or interact with his peers at a later age, then I'll worry again. :roll: For now, I will just let him develop at his own pace, and look at his uniqueness in a positive way.

:celebrate:

[millan]

Hi,


Has anyone got insight of above?
And any advice on where to seek help?



Thks

[metz]

millan:

Hi,


Has anyone got insight of above?
And any advice on where to seek help?



Thks

Hi,

I chanced upon these websites. Hopefully they can be of some help.

http://shoulders.freeforums.org/
http://www.mummysg.com/forums/f97/
http://singaporeautism.blogspot.com/2008/09/clinics-for-speech-and-language-therapy.html

[snowyqueen]

soup:

Thank you to all of you with your tips and advice.


I am still not sure of how to help my boy. My 3.5 year old boy, after being at his preschool for the past 2+ months, is still behaving so differently from the rest. Not paying attention in class, wandering about (it's so obvious that when I pick him up, other parents ask me why he is like that :oops: ), no eye contact, no interaction with his classmates, somehow, he knows the names of almost all the teachers in his school, but not a single name of his classmates. He doesn't disturb people, is not disruptive, just wants to go into a corner by himself to read a book or explore a cupboard when everyone else is having lessons (okay, maybe that's disruptive for the teacher). He seems totally unconcerned when the teacher chides him, or when his classmates poke fun at him. Today I saw a classmate try to trip him as he was roaming about, luckily the teacher saw it and told the boy to leave my child alone. I'm just worried that as he gets older, he may become more affected by his peers' reactions to him

I've spoken to the principal who thinks that he is likely to be a special needs child, but that they would like to observe him further before they recommend a referral. She has also noticed that he is a fast learner and hence it's possible that he is just easily bored with classroom routines.

I thought of bringing him to see a paediatrician but my hubby is against this, or any intervention. He says that I worry too much, that there is nothing wrong with being a non-conformist, that we should just leave things alone.

Sigh, maybe guys don't realise the repercussions of odd behaviour in our society... or maybe I am worrying too much.

Anyway, I think I will await the school's principal's and teacher's assessment as to whether any referral is required, for now.

Thanks again, and any further feedback is appreciated.

My girl had same behaviour when she started school except she had eye contact with people. From my experience as my girl has ASD (Asperges Syndrome Deficiency), your description is not detailed to confirm that. ASD child has more problems than this. The behavioral problem inclusive of social behavior is a commont trait. She would repeatedly asked for things or requested for things until she got what she wanted, often in the form of crying, fussing pestering etc. This was caused by her rigid thinking as she did not understand what is \"compromising\". Neither did she know how to accomodate to people and enviroment. She also had no friends and often the target to make fun of. She would just play on her own if I brought her to house gathering with kids running and playing around. She wandered around in class until P1. I saw her kindergarden classmates (boy) pinched her on the cheek before, that was why I deciced to send her to girl school instead. Her K2 classmates even called her \"loser\". Nobody wanted to play with her. Luckliy she has friendly and nice classmates in her primary school education and she can make friends to her peers now. She still has behavioral problem at times.

I suggest for you to observe if your child has other beahvioral problem. Even with ASD, it is not the end of the world. Things can get better with encourgement and effort put on them. I am a good example.

I only has one puzzle which I cannot solve. How come her superb visual memory power deteriorates when her behaviour changes for the good as she gets older.

One example, my mother is teaching my sister's child Han Yu Pin Yin today and we just wondered how my girl learnt Han Yu Pin Yin when she was P1. We never really taught her but she was really good and eventhough her chinese teacher always complained about her walking around in class and not paying attention. Her \"giftness\" in learning Chinese has faded with time though she is still able to do well for Chinese but no special \"suprise\". It even took her quite some time to remember her script for show and tell. But I have no complaint. I am less stressful as compared to the past .

[en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg]

Just want to provide an update. The 1st result I was not convinced. So I decided to go for a second thorough tests. Diagnosis... He is an asperger.


The news takes a while to sink in. I am now very much aware of his differences and fully understand why he is acting in a certain way.

I am a bit upset. But I guess life has to go on and I have to make the best of his short coming.

[mathsparks]

en, try to cheer up, k? coz life has to go on, like you said. At least with the diagnosis, you can seek appropriate and early intervention.


Regardless our kids' shortcomings, we have to accept and love them for who they are. Take care, dear. :hugs:

[en107rn.01056yahoo.01056com.01056sg]

[quote]en, try to cheer up, k? coz life has to go on, like you said. At least with the diagnosis, you can seek appropriate and early intervention.


Regardless our kids' shortcomings, we have to accept and love them for who they are. Take care, dear. [/quote]Thanks mathsparks for reaching out. I will just have to work on his shortcoming and hope he will be able to enjoy his childhood as much as possible.

[schweppes]

EN:

Just want to provide an update. The 1st result I was not convinced. So I decided to go for a second thorough tests. Diagnosis... He is an asperger.


The news takes a while to sink in. I am now very much aware of his differences and fully understand why he is acting in a certain way.

I am a bit upset. But I guess life has to go on and I have to make the best of his short coming.

Take heart, EN. It will take a while for the news to sink in and you will feel resentful and angry. But don't lose faith and don't resign yourself and DS to fate.

Looking on the bright side of things, now that you know, at least you can do something about it. Getting early intervention is important and with a holistic approach (right therapy and therapists, nutrition etc), it will help DS integrate better into society.

There will be the ups and downs, but you must believe that it WILL get better. And it WILL!! :hugs:

[schweppes]

EN:

I will just have to work on his shortcoming

You know... what we see as shortcoming may turn out to be his greatest talent and strength

EN:

... and hope he will be able to enjoy his childhood as much as possible.

Don't let the label determine his life. It's how we nurture and help our children to develop their potential and talents that will give them the best experiences possible.

:lol: