All About Autism
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Fizz:
Oh, what are he's symptoms may I ask? I mean like is he able to follow instructions & follow group instructions etc?Hi Blokus
Yes, my boy is in mainstream K2 (Montessori) now. But his teacher always has to pull him aside for 1-1 coaching in the afternoon as he does not focus during group teaching. This is feasible as Monte curriculum has 1-1 coaching, but not in mainstream P1.
Does anyone has good recommendation for Social Communication / Skills Group? So far, I have called The Children's Therapy Place, Learning Planet and Wee Care.
I read somewhere in this forum that it is good to meet up the Principal before school starts. I spoke to the Admin who conveyed my request for audience to the P. Instead, the VP asked her to direct me to the AED, who would call me. Hmmm...I don't have a very good feel about the support of this school.
Hmm, maybe you can write to the P? Or perhaps the P feel that the best person who can help you is the AED?
I'll be going for a trial for the social group at wee care, I'll let you know how it is. -
ImMeeMee:
Indeed, that's why I go easy with my NT girl, as long as her development milestones are met, I let her be and do things she likes like coloring, scribbling. The time spent coaching my boy is frustrating enough.I was chatting with my colleague today and she was sharing about how frustrating it is to teach his son write his Chinese name. She described that it was difficult because the chinese characters are difficult to write and he keeps using the wrong strokes.
I have nothing against my colleague since she does not know anything about my special needs child and is probably lamenting casually about the kids which we all do. But I couldnt help spending a somber moment thinking silently that she doesnt understand the true meaning of frustration until she gets to teach a special needs child.
No offence to mothers of NT kids, but its moments like these that render a pensive mood. -
Fizz:
Hi Blokus
Yes, my boy is in mainstream K2 (Montessori) now. But his teacher always has to pull him aside for 1-1 coaching in the afternoon as he does not focus during group teaching. This is feasible as Monte curriculum has 1-1 coaching, but not in mainstream P1.
Does anyone has good recommendation for Social Communication / Skills Group? So far, I have called The Children's Therapy Place, Learning Planet and Wee Care.
I read somewhere in this forum that it is good to meet up the Principal before school starts. I spoke to the Admin who conveyed my request for audience to the P. Instead, the VP asked her to direct me to the AED, who would call me. Hmmm...I don't have a very good feel about the support of this school.
What's the point of mtg the principal? They are right, u should meet the AED instead. We met the AED and form teacher. They are the more important pp. The principal is not involved in any of the future interaction. Now that MOE has openly stated that special needs kids will be catered for, they can't reject them either. Perhaps when they are assigning teachers and classes, u can let them know so that your child can be assigned to a special needs trained teacher.
My boy never paid attention in kindy too. He walked around all the time. He didn't have the benefit of 1-1 in kindy. Now he is in p1, he is able to cope. Sometimes he doesn't pay attn,but so far so good. -
Double E:
You can't have a starker contrast than between my 2 girls. My ASD girl has a lot of the usual issues - social, co-ordination, focus, organisational etc - which has taken a lot of my time and effort, and still does even though things have improved a lot now that she is 15yo. My younger NT girl is very social, above average in a lot of non-academic skills (music, sports, art, life skills), and very strong academically, all with hardly any pushing or coaching. I often feel like I have a split personality dealing with such different kids.
Indeed, that's why I go easy with my NT girl, as long as her development milestones are met, I let her be and do things she likes like coloring, scribbling. The time spent coaching my boy is frustrating enough.ImMeeMee:
I was chatting with my colleague today and she was sharing about how frustrating it is to teach his son write his Chinese name. She described that it was difficult because the chinese characters are difficult to write and he keeps using the wrong strokes.
I have nothing against my colleague since she does not know anything about my special needs child and is probably lamenting casually about the kids which we all do. But I couldnt help spending a somber moment thinking silently that she doesnt understand the true meaning of frustration until she gets to teach a special needs child.
No offence to mothers of NT kids, but its moments like these that render a pensive mood. -
ImMeeMee:
But I couldnt help spending a somber moment thinking silently that she doesnt understand the true meaning of frustration until she gets to teach a special needs child.
I feel the same way when some mothers go on extolling how clever and how well behaved their children are BECAUSE of their way of bringing up kids or BECAUSE of their special methods of teaching (DISCLAIMER - I am NOT talking about anyone here in particular.) You can flash a thousand flashcards at a child with vision issues and it won't work. You can choose your school ever so carefully but there is only so much noise a child with sensitive hearing can take before exploding.
Some kids are \"easy\" and pliant and neurotypical. Others come out with iron will, SPD and all the Ds that just make them stick out... -
ImMeeMee:
I know. I read a mom crying over her son's imperfect eyesight & his need to wear spectacles. I wanted to tell her her problem really isn't a problem compared to what I'm facing & need to work on with my son.I was chatting with my colleague today and she was sharing about how frustrating it is to teach his son write his Chinese name. She described that it was difficult because the chinese characters are difficult to write and he keeps using the wrong strokes.
I have nothing against my colleague since she does not know anything about my special needs child and is probably lamenting casually about the kids which we all do. But I couldnt help spending a somber moment thinking silently that she doesnt understand the true meaning of frustration until she gets to teach a special needs child.
No offence to mothers of NT kids, but its moments like these that render a pensive mood. -
Also, now I find myself more sympathetic towards people who are slow or quirky. At the back of my mind, I tell myself to be patient, this person may have development issue or he / she is in the spectrum.
Some of my friends’ kids did wonder why my boy doesn’t want to play with them. And I told them is not that he don’t want to but he doesn’t know how to, ask them to give him some time, he will improve. My friend also said that she will try to find a way to explain to her kids about my boy when they are older. My boy only plays catching with them, chasing each other. But he doesn’t know how to chase people, he only enjoys being chased. I think is because of his senses, that he likes the running sensation -
Double E:
Also, now I find myself more sympathetic towards people who are slow or quirky. At the back of my mind, I tell myself to be patient, this person may have development issue or he / she is in the spectrum.
This is so true for me! I come from a very achievement-oriented background, where the general feeling is that people do poorly and have difficulties should just work harder and their problems will be solved. Having an ASD child has totally changed the way I look at people and has made me a lot more sympathetic. -
ImMeeMee:
helplessmum, dont be so hard on yourself. Whatever has happened has happened. I'm sure you have read enough to know that there is currently still no known cause for ASD.helplessmum3:
Mummies ,
Do u know \"Baby plus\"?
I use this while I'm pregnant w my son. Maybe this cause him ASD
thanks, can't help it, this thought keep haunting me... -
slmkhoo:
Me too! When I see a kid throwing tantrum and rolling on the floor, I first ask myself if he's special needs and not due to bad parenting.Double E:
Also, now I find myself more sympathetic towards people who are slow or quirky. At the back of my mind, I tell myself to be patient, this person may have development issue or he / she is in the spectrum.
This is so true for me! I come from a very achievement-oriented background, where the general feeling is that people do poorly and have difficulties should just work harder and their problems will be solved. Having an ASD child has totally changed the way I look at people and has made me a lot more sympathetic.