All About Autism
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Lavina:
dear lavina, thanks for your candid sharing. it has given me great insights into the difference it makes to be a SAHM with a special needs child.
Hi,
I am a SAHM. I quit when my DS started K2.
I remember asking DS' psychologist whether I should continue working to earn more so that I can leave him more $ (when I die) or quit and spend more time coaching him. She told me it is more important to teach him to fish than fish for him.
I believe my staying at home is helpful in many ways. Such as
- I was able to go to therapy sessions with him and learn from the therapist and do the activities with him at home (cant expect my mom to do that)
- Able to teach him the academic stuff, cause he is not attentive during lessons.
- Able to volunteer in his primary school. The librarian, office clerks and even cleaners knew us, so would keep a lookout for me. I also know some of his classmates well and they would tell me about any bullying (yes, there were. And sometimes teachers cant be bothered unless the parents complain)
- Make special arrangements with the school such as mentioned earlier.
- Let DH focus on his career.
DS may be in Sec3 now, but he is still quite immature and playful. I have to be home to nag and ensure that he studies hard for his O's next year. LOL
But because my life revolves around DS, his ups and downs have significant impact on my emotions. I used to (wrongly) equate my sense of self-worth to how well he is doing. I used to have suicide thoughts. Last year, I read a book called \"A New Earth\" by Eckhart Tolle. I am WAY happier now.
it must have taken you a lot of courage to take the plunge into the unknown, considering the emotional implications like what you shared. at times i do think that it is too daunting for me, as i fear that i would not be able to take it myself as a SAHM in the long run.
i can definitely relate to the roller coaster ride that you were having on your emotions ref the ups and downs of your ds. It took me quite a while to get used to the paradigm and the lifestyle changes that came with it. Right now I am in the 'up' stage as dd3's therapy sessions are on track, though we just changed our therapist, she is picking up new skills and vocab, and overall she is improving. of course, i do not know when the 'down' will come, and what happens when it strikes. so i do have the same issues where my emotions are closely tied to her being.
will certainly mark your book and hope to read it one day. currently i am reading Temple Grandin's 'The Way I See It' (recommended in this thread) with whatever little time that I have, and it has also been giving me insights into the world of Autism from my outsider's perspective. what is apparent to us in terms of 'odd' behaviour could actually be happening for a reason. and I start to question what right do we have to say that we are right, just because we set the norms as the majority.
the book mentioned this clip on youtube by this non-verbal autistic individual by the name of Amanda Baggs. I was greatly moved by what I saw in this clip, so would like to share it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnylM1hI2jc -
Thank you autumnbronze and ImMeeMee.
The youtube clip is too sad for me.
Have anyone read this blog (http://life-with-aspergers.blogspot.com) before? The blogger is a computer engineer with aspergers. He has 2 sons who are also ASD. He touches on many issues - very informative.
I was trying to find out why my DS is inattentive and he wrote:
\"our aspie brains are constantly flicking back to our special interests whether we like it or not. It's like trying to watch TV with someone who keeps \"checking another channel\" every few minutes. It's amazing that we can concentrate on anything other than our special interests.\"
And DS says it totally feels like that! The teacher flashes in and out of his mind. Imagine that?
I also enjoy reading about his growing up stories and his life. Highly recommended. -
Anybody know which is the good early child intervention centre or kindergarten for autistic kids?
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Lavina, thank you for sharing, I was inspired. I hope to rid suicide thoughts at some point in time and channel my energy to helping ds to the best of my abilities instead of worrying. You are a great mom. Jia You!
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Some years ago when ds1 was there, Maris Stella Church Kindergarten used to take high functioning kids and kids with global developmental delay. There were also teacher aides trained in BrainGym and children with special needs or signs of delays will be taken for BrainGym sessions.
However note that it is a kindergarten, not an intervention centre. But the overall environment is kind, nurturing and welcoming for these children. -
deminc:
yes I agree Gym is good for ASD kids to improve their motor skills, there is one at Ah hood road (in a club), many special schs engage them to teach special needs children.Some years ago when ds1 was there, Maris Stella Church Kindergarten used to take high functioning kids and kids with global developmental delay. There were also teacher aides trained in BrainGym and children with special needs or signs of delays will be taken for BrainGym sessions.
However note that it is a kindergarten, not an intervention centre. But the overall environment is kind, nurturing and welcoming for these children. -
How about Ichiban Nurtureland @ Choa Chu Kang, I visited this center, she does provide individual therapy in between the class session. But I don’t know whether she is a right one for my autistic boy or not?
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Nana Loo:
How about Ichiban Nurtureland @ Choa Chu Kang, I visited this center, she does provide individual therapy in between the class session. But I don't know whether she is a right one for my autistic boy or not?
to me, kindi is a place for social skills and academic stuffs, behaviour, attention span, auditory processing etc... need to engage special needs teachers or therapists (1 to 1). every asd kid is unique.. -
deminc:
Do you know if BrainGym really helped ASD children? I tried to google but cldnt find any local centres. Does anyone know what the URL is by any chance?Some years ago when ds1 was there, Maris Stella Church Kindergarten used to take high functioning kids and kids with global developmental delay. There were also teacher aides trained in BrainGym and children with special needs or signs of delays will be taken for BrainGym sessions.
However note that it is a kindergarten, not an intervention centre. But the overall environment is kind, nurturing and welcoming for these children. -
artzooka:
Hi may I know if Any mummies in here knows any gymnastic school that r pro to coach asd kids ? Appreciate any suggestion thanks
BazGym Gymnastis School
31, Ah Hood Road, HomeTeamNS-JOM Clubhouse Level 4, Singapore 329979
Ph : 6256 8191 ; Fax : 6256 8191
Email : [email protected]
Website : http://www.bazgym.com
some special schs engage this gym provider for the special needs. My son attended before.
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