All About Autism

[sharonkhoo]

sweetbaby:

slmkhoo


My Ds Asperger as well. He has great difficulties in social context as I'm sure many parents here can imagine and he's very rigid in his routine. So mum and dad trying to make things as smooth as possible during transition time. Technically end of Jan, initially I thought during the school Christmas break but it will be too late. So current plan not to restart school here, and plan to be in Spore in Sept/Oct. It would be rather late to put him in mainstream CC, not sure wise to put in a new school environment for short while. Currently trying to make plans/gather info for his routine, therapies/swimming/art class/music etc. Its hard when you cant physically be there. Anyone know which music school has a piano programme based on Canadian system here in Spore? Also wonder if Ds has to be reevaluated in Spore? Still sorting out matters with his therapists, hopefully they can give recommendations to which agencies in Spore?

Why don't you wait till you are back to look for the various classes? It would probably be best to see for yourself. Also, your son will need some time to just get used to Singapore, so there is no hurry to start all these classes yet. Too many new things at once will be unsettling. Personally, since you already need to start school in Jan (presumably P1? sorry, I've forgotten), maybe you want to focus on that first.

[mashy]

wamin:

Thank you all for your reply. I was working and now when I checked there were quite a few reply.

Nugget yes trying to be hands on daddy. I work from home so I do fetching dropping job before I start my work . And my daughter and son both a very attached with me specially my daughter, she even don’t let me do work at mid night if I don’t allow her to sleep in same room where I work  and she is only 3 o_O. About school I always see the special need kids are always neglected one here, one day whenever I had enough resources I will do something for these kids. Toilet training also going to be a big issue here , once we try training our son for toilet training he only pee when we bring him in living room and don’t pee when bring him to toilet . Now we are going to start again in June holiday.
Double E, when we were looking for our first childcare, current childcare told us they have special need trained teacher and they can help us but recently she said she is having difficult time because more kids are in class and my son will not sit for sessions (each session is like 20-30 minutes long). So their request was either provide then help (domestic helper tag along) or look for another childcare. And their specific requirement was to provide Pilipino DH because teacher in-charge was Pilipino  and we have Indonesian Domestic helper and don’t want to hire another helper). But end-up they told us to find another childcare and it would be easier (don’t seems easier for us, because both of my kids like going to that childcare. But it is not our choice). Regarding CEL, at first the person from CEL never gave us list and just ask us to choose random name from list which he was mentioning on phone, lucky my wife ask about school address so that we can drop by and get more information before giving school name.

Hi there! It must have been hard for you with 2 asd children. Hang in there!

Looks like I'm pretty lucky with regards to cc. My boy was kicked out only once.

I think with special needs children, we really cannot expect a lot from mainstream cc. It was till the point when the teacher told me that he refused to do his work, I told them to send the work back home. And when he sat in the corner, even if the teacher ignored him, I also had to bear with it. He also couldn't sit still for long periods of time and will hide in a little corner. I told the teachers that if he wouldn't join them, let him be. I just ask for him to be with other children and when he felt like it, he could 'play' with the rest. Like yours, mine is not the screaming nor hitting child. He was just living in his world and will join when he feels like it. Luckily for us, even when he didn't pay much attention in class, he managed academically.

I'm also glad that I only got him diagnosed at the end of K2 altho I did share my suspicions with the cc supervisor. It solved the problem of having to tell the ccs and getting rejected. But luckily for us, his cc was very open about it. Perhaps it's because they also have orphans/abused children in the cc.

Btw, I heard that Chiltern House have an in house therapist. So those who have the finances can check it out.

[wamin]

BTW someone asked if we have any family history of ASD.

We both are difference races and none of our far relative have ASD case.
My elder brother have 2 kids (boy/girl) normal and my younger sister have a boy also healthy and normal.
My wife side her elder sister have 2 daughter and also normal.
As usual when doctor were not able to find any fault in any family member then they said it is DNA mutation i was like :rant: .
Not easy to manage two kids but they are not that difficult and i pray they stay same . Anyway starting their new childcare in April and hoping for the best.

[windie]

Can I consult any mummies who have sent their kids to Behavioral Mgt Classes before? If so, did you find it effective in reducing disruptive behavior in class?


Thanks in advance!

[mashy]

sweetbaby:

How do we know which school has more special needs kids?

Why not consider international schools? That option, not opened to most of us, is opened to u.

[phtthp]

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[mashy]

phtthp:

Did the doctor confirm scientic proof of some DNA genetic mutation? Bec my Chinese friend married a different race, and she has a special need child.

Don't think so lah. My aunt married someone of different race, the kids are fine. Some others I know also have NT kids. So I think it's just natural selection. We will never know why. Maybe someone in our genetic line long long ago had that gene and it just skipped many generations.

[wamin]

@phtthp, Doctor also have no answer they didn't do any test but this is what they conclude. Anyway every time i think about all this end-up i blame some one with higher power (totally a big topic altogether ).


Anyway KK assigned a FT doctor to my daughter and with her observation she told us maybe our daughter have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) :sad: . My wife and i was not able to sleep for a few nights (all nightmares), then we consulted a specialist (within KK) and she cleared her by doing some test. She also told us if we are that worried and want to do test then they can take blood sample and we will know result in 4-5 months :yikes: (as they have to send blood overseas for finding).
Anyway therapist at EPIC have told us that it is the way she express herself and it can be changed with enforcing different behavioral therapies.

[helplessmum3]

how about poor health parents ? that can have ASD kids? or older parent?


recently in tv ask the doctor say older parent will get ASD. these days pp get married older maybe that why increase of ASD KIDs. i not sure though.

genetic parents has to get diagnosis if they are ASD OR ASPIE then can confirmed.

[sharonkhoo]

helplessmum3:

genetic parents has to get diagnosis if they are ASD OR ASPIE then can confirmed.

You don't want to go down that road. Perfectly NT parents can have ASD kids, and ASD parents can have normal kids. So what does a test tell you even if it were possible? And although many parents may say that there is no history of ASD in their families, I think because of lower rates of diagnosis in the past and the fact that ASD a huge continuum, there are probably cases somewhere even if not recognised. For my case, I can see that my mother has some of the traits, just less marked, that my Asperger's daughter exhibits. But my brother and I don't have them, so should my parents have had us?