All About Autism
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ImMeeMee:
Now I am cracking my brain on what occupation requires such a skill. Anyone who knows please let me know.
No need to think so hard now! Just take note that she has a good memory when something interests her. That's the case for most people, but many ASD people can be even more so. The downside is that they can be very narrow in their interests. My daughter can remember details of books and films she likes and only watched once or twice, but can forget Math formulae that we have dinned into her for the past 3 yrs! -
slmkhoo:
No need to think so hard now! Just take note that she has a good memory when something interests her. That's the case for most people, but many ASD people can be even more so. The downside is that they can be very narrow in their interests. My daughter can remember details of books and films she likes and only watched once or twice, but can forget Math formulae that we have dinned into her for the past 3 yrs!
So perhaps can get her to work in the books and film industry next time? I recall you were saying that maybe to get her to work in a bookstore ... -
ImMeeMee:
Yes, but the immediate issue is to get her through school so she can end with some paper qualifications! Maths is our current headache as it's compulsory up to Sec 4, and almost compulsory at 'A' levels (unless she is prepared to take a science subject, which would be worse!). And (although I haven't checked this), I am fairly sure that most poly and university courses, even humanities ones, will have some compulsory Math courses too. She already dumped science this year with great rejoicing (especially by us parents!). Education systems generally favour broad-based coverage of subjects which is good for most people, but unfortunately that makes it difficult for my girl.slmkhoo:
No need to think so hard now! Just take note that she has a good memory when something interests her. That's the case for most people, but many ASD people can be even more so. The downside is that they can be very narrow in their interests. My daughter can remember details of books and films she likes and only watched once or twice, but can forget Math formulae that we have dinned into her for the past 3 yrs!
So perhaps can get her to work in the books and film industry next time? I recall you were saying that maybe to get her to work in a bookstore ... -
metz:
My friend's son has a passion for maps like yours.outsider:
My DS is P2. He is crazy about maps. Read the street directory, memorized the roads, how they are connected. Roads that we have never use, he knows them too. He has super memory when it comes to maps. However, he is a forgetful boy overall.
He likes to draw maps too, naming the roads, creating road names.
Any other children with the same \" hobby\"? He not only remembers the roads, but also the buses's routes. And before he went to Japan for holidays with his family, he memorised the subway routes and stations in Japan too!
You have an amazing boy there.
Talk about \"Map hobby\", my ds3 (no autism thou) loves to go to Google Maps -- go in & out of streets and also check about any places around the world. Anyone like him? I find his 'hobby' very strange. He loves math and likes to draw comics too. In P2 now.
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http://sg.news.yahoo.com/blogs/dailybrew/ontario-police-aware-hateful-letter-telling-family-euthanize-171036930.html
See this society even at Canada .. We got to face it ..
Neighbor wrote a hateful letter to tell the mother w autistic kid to stay at woods together w animals -
helplessmum3:
Face it we must - but bravely, with faith & hope. There can & will be positives in situations. Through the above episode, the mum has experienced real ugliness but may have also gained support and understanding (I say \"may\" cos I'm guessing here... I can only pray for her remotely)...http://sg.news.yahoo.com/blogs/dailybrew/ontario-police-aware-hateful-letter-telling-family-euthanize-171036930.html
See this society even at Canada .. We got to face it ..
Neighbor wrote a hateful letter to tell the mother w autistic kid to stay at woods together w animals
Our children, neuro-typical and special alike, are deeply attuned to our feelings and attitudes. Let us not get too affected and down by how narrow-minded people can be; and continue to be our children's cheerleaders and advocates! :rahrah:
Just to share... My son was assessed to have moderate ASD when he was 2yo and he exhibited most of the obvious symptoms: spinning around, spinned wheels, couldn't talk, screamed a lot, tried to eat chalk etc. When we were still based overseas, many things happened that caused me to almost lose faith. Few times when I was out with DS, I was actually told off or accused by people of abusing him cos he screamed so much. We were actually asked to leave an accompanied playgroup (I was with him the whole time so it's not as if teachers had to handle him themselves) cos he would either spin or scream at inappropriate times. A mum at a playdate pulled me aside & bluntly told me that DS not really welcomed since his behaviour was obviously not adding value to playtime for the rest of the children... the list goes on...
In spite of the bad experiences (some really worse than the above), DS & I are also blessed to have met people who cared and extended their support. Perhaps it's maturity, perhaps it's the therapy, perhaps it's my own perception & over time I've also become more adept at managing DS -- DS's profile has also changed considerably. His latest diagnosis is that he is HFA & should be ready for P1 next year. I believe that all the bad experiences, though painful, can be positive. For one, they have helped me to be more discerning and over time, I've come to quite astute when it comes to gauging educators'/ schools' sincerity whenever I disclose DS's condition. No point \"forcing\" DS on them if they can't or won't help... I just move on...
So let's all jiayou!!! :hugs: Like Double E says - Thank God for the little miracles!
Btw DS used to be good at maps & can actually remember specific routes/ paths just by going through it once! But he has seemingly \"lost\" that ability over time as we keep trying to expose him to various things. One area that he continues to be good at is puzzles and seeing \"patterns\". Someone asked us to let him just try international chess and he was surprisingly good at it. He's now with the s'pore chess federation's junior squad.
The wonder about our children is their gifts and their unique strengths. Can be narrow but at the same time, the depth of their aptitudes are astounding! Whenever we can, it's good to continue to expose them to as many things as possible while celebrating their strengths :imcool:
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Read the reply from the grandma. Very touching.
From the fb post: https://www.facebook.com/groups/510387959036866/permalink/511629325579396/
Shelly Smith
A friend just posted this....My daughter just
showed me the reply form the lady at the
address, this is what she had said She said it
well!!!! : Dear one pissed off mother
-It’s always nice to hear from a neighbor,
especially when they have a problem. You see, I
love to help others. This is why I keep my two
grandsons who are autistic. When I take my
grandsons outside to play, it’s far from an act of
selfishness nor is it a nuisance for me to allow
him to experience the joy of childhood, a sense of
freedom and fun. I’m deeply sorry that you
consider his dreadful sounds of joy a pollution.
The real toxicity here appears to be your attitude
toward this situation and that scares the hell out
of me for your normal children. Can I ask you
how they are ever going to learn to care for
others? To appreciate that life should be
celebrated, even if to you it seems a little flawed.
And, by the way, there’s nothing flawed about my
grandson. One more question, what are you going
to do if one of your normal children grows up and
becomes the parent of a special needs child? Will
you banish your child/grandchild from your life
because they are too much of a nuisance? I hope
not.
You see, one day should you ever find yourself as
a grandmother to a grandchild like mine, I hope
that you won’t see him as a hindrance but as a
blessing. That you’ll care for him, as I do my
grandson, and teach him that he’s worth
investing in and loving. I hope that you’ll dream
of the day that despite his challenges – and they
are many – he can experience the joy of
achievement and the unconditional love of true
friends. It’s clear you’ve heard him scream, but
I’d like to invite you over for milk and cookies so
that you can also feel the warmth of his hug and
see the sweetness of his smile. Milk, cookies and
sunny play outside is how to properly deal with
any child, even my very special grandson. I know
you’re a hard working person and would welcome
the opportunity to share a meal, or even a small
snack, with you, share my family with you and
treat you special.
As to your desire that I move, I’m deeply sorry
that I can’t oblige. I love our close proximity
community because I love people, value people
and have made a home here. I also have friends
among the community whom I would miss greatly.
I try my best to do the right thing every day. To
care for my home, to care for my family and to
love my neighbors. I invite you to do the same.
Sincerely,
The lady living at this address -
Gotta love this grandmother!! What a lady and what a spirit!
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Hi mummies, I am relooking into the area of social skills group for my doter. Could you share any personal experience at any of the local centers?
TIA. -
ImMeeMee:
How about an Assistant in the library? they will have to catergorize and organise the books according to serial number and all.
One of my doter's craze is music CDs. She will listen to her favorite CD over and over again until she memorizes by heart the name of the song and its track number in the CD.outsider:
My DS is P2. He is crazy about maps. Read the street directory, memorized the roads, how they are connected. Roads that we have never use, he knows them too. He has super memory when it comes to maps. However, he is a forgetful boy overall.
He likes to draw maps too, naming the roads, creating road names.
Any other children with the same \" hobby\"?
The other day we were in the car, my eldest doter and myself were commenting on one song of the CD playing in the car and we were saying that we did not know its track number. Upon hearing my doter blurted out a number. So we tried the number and it was correct!
Then I asked her the track numbers of a few more songs and she got every single one correct. My two elder doters were so impressed with her. That was one of the rare occasions where she was able to lead the conversation with her siblings, and I could see her beaming with pride.
Now I am cracking my brain on what occupation requires such a skill. Anyone who knows please let me know.
As for my son, I think he will be very happy if he gets a job with SMRT due to his love for trains.
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