[quote]=\"ChiefKiasu\"

:lol: Kekekke.. AnalectsReader... you're funny. I like you.[/quote]
yawn...i like hear this line for no less than 100x a day loh...
[quote]Let me know when you finally manage to convince someone you are under 20 years old. I'll send the opticians after them[/quote]k lah k lah...mighty chief vs brain-new Mummy...typical win-wind situation...YOU WIN !! :roll:

Dear Chief,

Thank you very much
I'm so glad that the lowly maid has spared my head from rolling...

To share about the camp ah...sigh...a little bit problem lah...
bcos only read from their brochure, looked so interesting so asked them if my 4 yo DD can join or not...they said cannot woh...so disappointed but still no-die-heart to ask them if I can join or not...they gave me this look :roll: and cruelly said that \"Auntie u too old liao\"...
(pls play this background music: Adam Lambart's Mad World)
I mean they like really eyes wide shut loh...I where got look older than 20??!
(以上全属虚构, CI 请不要告我)
Having left that cruel world with eyes full with tears and a broken heart I have decided to SHARE THE NEWS so that the world realise how noble I am...(feel like :stupid: ??)

Well...I guess u r on your own now...or visit http://www.ci-ntu.com/ci/viewarticle/5746 for details...I can try to do interpretation if u need, must u must prepare to tolarate my powDerful Pasarlish loh...

Dear chief,


I'm really sorry :booboo: AGAIN!~!
Ya Ya my bad my bad
I guess Your Highness has to swap the Chinese characters to the back of the title because it was displayed as gibberish in the Portal again.

sign,
Totally sleepy brain-new Mummy

Original Title: 九月:少年孔子文化营 Young Confucius Cultural Camp


Just to inform those parents interested in enrolling their children in Chinese Cultural Camp,
the 6th Young Confucius Cultural Camp is opened for registration. The registration will be closed on 31/8/09.

亲亲孔子文化营 \"Dearest Confucius\" Cultural Camp: (5 to 7 years old)

走近孔子文化营 \"Discovering Confucius\" Cultural Camp (8 to 9 years old)

欢乐孔子文化营 \"Delighting Confucius\" Cultural Camp (10 to 11 years old)

活力孔子文化营 \"Dynamic Confuicus\" Cultural Camp (13 to 16 years old)

Refer to http://www.ci-ntu.com/ci/viewarticle/5746 for details if interested.

I’ve been pondering for the whole day what I witnessed this afternoon.

I do not know if it’s "God’s will" to make me witness the incident? or, it’s just pure coincidence (… talk about coincidence, I read a saying "coincidence is the God’s way of remaining(?) anonymous")?

When I came out from the MRT station this afternoon, I heard a "piak" sound from a corner. I turned around, and I saw a woman slapping a boy (her son, i guessed)! I was taken aback, as "slapping" is one of the issues we have been discussing about under this thread for the past few days.

As the boy’s back is facing me, I couldn’t see the expression on his face. I could see the facial expression of the woman though…stern…cold…

Then when I walked pass them, I heard the woman said:"…don’t you dare to talk back to me…" it’s by then I had a chance to have a glimpse of the boy… to my surprise, his face was expressionless!

Why? The boy is about 8 or 9 yo…how come he could looked expressionless when he was slapped in a public place? Does that implies that, he’s gotten used to it and he feels nothing anymore?

In my mind another boy’s image flashed back…it was years ago when I was passing by a Mc-Donald, there was a woman YELLING at a boy, also age around 8-9 yo. Her voice was so loud that the whole street could hear her lion-roar. The boy covered his cheek with his hand and he was… shivering. He was not crying aloud though… but tears were rolling down his cheeks. His eyes…were filled with… despair.

I couldn’t stop it but tears welled up in my eyes each and every time I recall this scene. Does this mother not love her son? or she simply doesn’t know HOW to love her son? …

Ironically after year(s), I saw the same expression on my daughter’s face.
It was me, snarling at her in a coffee shop, simply because she refused to finish her meal.
I didn’t slap her, but the yelling was already WAY TOO MUCH for a 2 year-old to take. She looked at me quietly as her eyes turned red…and tears just rolled down her cheeks. She tried to hold back her tears, but she simply couldn’t.
She stared at me for so long that, I couldn’t bring myself to look into her eyes anymore. I’ll never forget that…despair in her eyes.

Fluffy:

... Please help! Should I leave her alone for awhile or should I do something about it? Have tried talking to her but didn't help much...

Hey Fluffy, pls consider visiting Skippy's blog.

I personally find that Skippy's blog provides many good pointers to us parents.


You may find these helpful:-

Healthy Boundaries Healthy Kids http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/content/healthy-boundaries-healthy-kids

Listening to Your Teenager http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/content/listening-your-teenager

Bringing Up Compassionate Children http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/content/bringing-compassionate-children

Problem Solving With Kids http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/content/problem-solving-kids

Alternatives To Punishment http://www.kiasuparents.com/kiasu/content/alternatives-punishment

daisyt:

After cooling down, I had a talk with my girl, she knew her mistakes and I also aware of my wrong. Eventually, the most important is to draw out a limit and both of us are aware of each other's limit.

:congrats:
...feel so happy for both of u....

daisyt:

I still manage to hold back and not slap her (I have never slap or beat her before)

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I admire u having the self-control to hold back...if not, i can imagine your Kudos points in your DD's heartbank might drastically drop to 0 ...

[quote]---how can a slap be consider abuse ?... :|[/quote]To me, a slap without a reasonable/ valid reason is considered abuse.

Having said so, I have this question for myself: if someone slapped me with a valid reason, what will I think and how will I feel?
My answer is : Logically I might think it's right to slap me but emotionally I will definitely feel humiliated :oops: (will someone who loves me try to humiliate me?? :(...this someone might be \"right\", but does he/she cares abt my feeling??...)

Thus, in order to defend my ego, will i accept your valid reason wholeheartedly?
and will I choose out of my own will not to repeat the same mistake again?

After all, I think the heart of the matter is the matter of the heart.