Hi San76,


Thanks for taking the time to empathise… think I’m so down that hearing another person’s voice is just comfort to me.

I have decided to see a lawyer to get a better sense of my options; from there I hope and pray that I will be able to make the right decisions.

Thanks again!

BlueOcean

Hi there!

I'm a newbie here
And am in need of some advice...

My wife of close to 20 years cheated on me (discovered 2 years ago). I was then devastated and was in a confused state and felt betrayed. In my fit, I hit her and broke her nose (I lived to regret that action uptill this day). My children witnessed the whole encounter and I must say I felt pain that it turned out that way.
Just last week, I discovered that my wife had a few condoms in her handbag... I was shocked though not as angry as I was 2 yrs back. This time IF I discover that she had again strayed, I would file for a divorce; only problem is that I do not want to do so till my kids have turned 21 (and thats some 7-8 years time).

I read in an earlier posting that if I can prove my wife's adultery, then i would not have to pay her maintenance (less children as I know if she gets custody, I would have to maintain the children). Will she be entitled to my savings, pension?

I also read that a PI can cost some $800/day. That's a steep sum... Are there other alternatives?

IF my wife can agree to sign a document to agree to not contest for maintenance nor any part of my wealth, will this be legal in 8 years time?

Should I start seeing a lawyer to better appreciate my options?

Many thanks for the patience and for the answers...