Estéema:Esteema, I agree with you. It's so tempting to compare with those around. There will always be people who are super smart AND kind AND sporty AND world class musicians. We decided last year to tell our son \"what you achieve will be a result of your effort. You have to decide if it's worth getting 10 more points at the cost of less reading, drumming, training time.It’s not much of meaning just to look at high scores. So long as your child put in effort to work hard, we shld be proud of our kids & congratulate those who had achieved greater scores - however it’s done. I’m sceptical abt knowing too much.
In our journey, I’ve been guilty of looking over the shoulders of these high achievers with yearly awards as highest achiever in cohort for all subjects & those many consistent achievers of high grades. Then I woke up one day to resolve that I’ll be happier if my kids are a little less high scorers but are all rounders with life skills.
I was shaken when one of my kid’s peer scored high but had never really known how to relate to most other peers & adults. Very reserved & quiet. This one the mum coached personally at home. Reads voraciously but totally alienates himself fr other kids (maybe see others as not 开窍 type to mingle with). Eventually the only one amongst peers chose Raffles route.
Ano had 3 Chinese tuition to enable high >90 but no time to do anything else due to all subj with TLL, no CCAs or other interests. Mother forbade any playdates, etc. Poor kid. Heard he got more emotional in Year 1 and cld not work with teammates on projects.
Btw, both are very well fed & fat kids.
I’m happy when my kids hv a variety of interests, able to mingle with frds & learn to give & take. There again, maybe someone might think my kids are Jack (no not my chil’s name, lol) of all & special in none.
What parent doesn't hope that their child will be multihyphenated top student? But if they have no space, no time to just vegetate and be bored, then how will they have the time to discover who they are? Guess I'll just have to cross my fingers and que sera sera
The girl's score was 293+3 by the way. Its all quite amazing, but at the end of the day just numbers, right?