nikkismommie:

hi all! i'm a newbie... been reading on and off to keep myself updated about the \"kid-rearing\" scene.


i'm living in Marine Parade, DD1 born 2006, deciding between Haig Girls' and Ngee Ann Primary...
DD2 born in nov 2008, and will just follow whatever sch DD1 ends up in. saves me the stress! haha!

forrestgump4:

Hi there, I'm a full time working mom and new to this forum. My son is born in Sep 2008 and is now attending nursery class.
I came to this forum becos I need help.... sigh.
My son told me he doesn't want to go school and will cry everyday when my mom send him to nursery.
Teacher said he normally cried for at least 30 mins. Tehn when come to story telling, he sometimes will pay attention but when comes to interaction times, he doesn't really like to mix around with other kids.
Can someone please let me know how can I help my son?
If I send him to weekend classes like art class, will it help him to mix around with other kids?

both my girls are in full-day childcare, so i'm kinda familiar with your scenerio... there are kids in the sch who cry every morning when their parents leave them there. there were 1-2 who actually did that for like 1 year? so, it's actually kinda \"usual\" i guess. like ur son, most of them will calm down and stop after a while. it takes getting used too. i think mixing with other kids help, and a lot of constant encouragement from parents help too. keep enforcing the positives of going to sch, like how fun it is, how many frens he can play with, etc.

you can also try \"rewarding\" him with stuff like his fav snack or stickers, etc, for each day he \"improves\" in the morning routine. that could help. if using stickers, you can do a \"reward chart\" kinda thing? so he gets to paste the stickers, and at the end of each week, maybe he can get a treat of some kind? the chart works for my girls when i am trying to adjust their behaviour in certain areas.

just keep reinforcing the postive and encouraging him. positivity goes a long way!

Hi nikkismommie,

Talking abt positive reinforcement, my son likes this particular car from watching Youtube! And I told him I will buy for him but he cannot cry in the sch. And he really did not cry. Now he will keep remind me to buy that car for him. Haha, dunno whether this method will work for him in future or not....

dearzen:

forrestgump4:

Hi there, I'm a full time working mom and new to this forum. My son is born in Sep 2008 and is now attending nursery class.

I came to this forum becos I need help.... sigh.
My son told me he doesn't want to go school and will cry everyday when my mom send him to nursery.
Teacher said he normally cried for at least 30 mins. Tehn when come to story telling, he sometimes will pay attention but when comes to interaction times, he doesn't really like to mix around with other kids.
Can someone please let me know how can I help my son?
If I send him to weekend classes like art class, will it help him to mix around with other kids?

Hi,

I totally understand ur situation. My DD was like tat when she 1st entered N1 in CC. Cried almost every transition lesson. Some kids cry 4 short while, few mths, even 1yr! My DD cried 1yr! Though frm many times per day till few times, till once in the morning. Usually after I left, she will stop.

To send ur boy to wkend classes, I tink u hv to observe ur boy if he get anxiety, uneasiness or worry in different environments. My DD can't. So I din send her to any cos I do not want to add more stress on her. I hope she will outgrow the crying game & can participate like any other kids...

Hi,
Great news! My son now no longer cry le! Because he wants to buy a toy car and he promised not to cry. It seems like he want that toy car really badly....Now I will monitor further to see if he still cries. Hee.

mamalim-on:

forrestgump4:

Hi there, I'm a full time working mom and new to this forum. My son is born in Sep 2008 and is now attending nursery class.

I came to this forum becos I need help.... sigh.
My son told me he doesn't want to go school and will cry everyday when my mom send him to nursery.
Teacher said he normally cried for at least 30 mins. Tehn when come to story telling, he sometimes will pay attention but when comes to interaction times, he doesn't really like to mix around with other kids.
Can someone please let me know how can I help my son?
If I send him to weekend classes like art class, will it help him to mix around with other kids?

Hi forrestgump4,
Ur son been to any class prior to this nursery? The crying may take 1-2 mths for some kids. Perhaps u can bring him to those playgym, mingle and play with other kiddos?

Hi mamalim-on,
Great news! My son now no longer cry le! Because he wants to buy a toy car and he promised not to cry. It seems like he want that toy car really badly....Now I will monitor further to see if he still cries. Hee.

cherrygal:

You can buy a shower hat for kids from Daiso. It shields their eyes from the water coming down.


Alternatively, get ready dry towels to wipe his face constantly while washing his hair. My gal is ok with washing hair if there's a dry towel within reach.

And you must always use Baby Shampoo (no tears). Normal shampoo is very stinging to the eyes.

Ok, let me go check it out.
But my boy a bit fussy. He doesn't like to wear hats or caps.....

nerov:

I've gone through the same phase. My boy finally stood up and washed his hair like a grown up at 3.5 years old, though he is still squirmish about it at 4.5 years old.


What we did was a \"step 3\" program. At the initial stage, we will get him to wash the back of his head (step 1) and wash his side (step 2), all these standing up without water falling on his face. Then, we will carry him to wash the top of his head (step 3). This is to get him used to the sensation of water falling on his head, without the impact of water all over the face and eyes, which he fears.

After a few days we convinced him to wash his whole head standing up. Alternatively, you can get him to bend forward, so the water doesn't roll down his face as much.

There will be some fussiness definitely, but you need to preserve. For us, my boy was getting so tall and heavy, it was impossible to carry him like an infant anymore.

Hi hi! Yes it is now difficult for my mom to do that esp she's not as young as me. The 3 steps are all done when he is still standing up with the shampoo on his hair?

My 3YO boy now still need me and my mom (caregiver) to wash his hair like how we did for him when he is an infant.


He doesn’t like his face to have a single drop of water. Now that he is getting older and heavier, it is very hard to wash his hair and to carry him like an infant.

When I tried to pour water over him, he will scream and cried. Worst thing is he doesn’t seem to know that he can close his eyes when water came pouring down. Then the next day he’ll keep saying he doesn’t want to wash his hair.

Help! How to overcome this fear of his?

Hi there, I’m a full time working mom and new to this forum. My son is born in Sep 2008 and is now attending nursery class.

I came to this forum becos I need help… sigh.
My son told me he doesn’t want to go school and will cry everyday when my mom send him to nursery.
Teacher said he normally cried for at least 30 mins. Tehn when come to story telling, he sometimes will pay attention but when comes to interaction times, he doesn’t really like to mix around with other kids.
Can someone please let me know how can I help my son?
If I send him to weekend classes like art class, will it help him to mix around with other kids?