Re: All About Overseas Education

Hello my son completed his diploma in Audio production, now he is looking into changing to Economics however due to his grade and dropping H2 is o levels it looks like he needs foundation course to enter into any university.

He is keen on Europe due to the cost.

Any guidance which Foundation and where would be the best for him to take it ?

He is not keen to pursue in Singapore

Would be helpful if any tips.

thanks
-ga.

Thanks everyone for the support. I will keep options open and be patient. Yeah i have tried to talk about future and then tried to look what he needs to do . I realize kids are too young to understand this ..

yesterday he himself opened up, however anything we go against his wish this triggers him. it is really tough i have to balance it. Making them realize they are wrong in a way they understand is very tricky. keeping fingers crossed ...
-ga,

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Hello All,

I need help for my son who is 15 yrs old and now he will be in the O levels next year.
He has lost his interest in studies, most he sleeps in class, we have got many complaints from all teachers.
He has become self- centered aggressive, not caring for others and confined to only playing with friends comes to us only when he needs money or any help . it is either he needs sports shoes or games or clothes .
He is very bright but never follows a discipline ..

Would it be we have to seek professional help for him? . He has been only playing and become aggressive, missing school though he informs us \" I am not going because the class is boring or full packed today or just one class\" which he could do at home if we don't agree he will still do what he has decided and becomes aggressive. However he uses the time to sleep and only play. He has gone out of our reach to even tell him that he is not doing the right thing. i feel as a failed mum , as he does not listen to any of us and i am really not sure what he will do . few days ago he realized he has to study and he came to me saying he will study but then he soon realized the expectation to get in JC is very tough. So he feels he can't do it. After that it is gone to a drain and now he is back to playing with friends online and locked in his room always. Does not come even to eat lunch or dinner with us. It has been a tough time. Seeking anyone went through this tough time how you all handled it . if there is help it is very confusing to whom to reach out too. We have tried school discipline, career counselling nothing has worked well.

Sec 3 his result has dipped to B, C, D and F for 2 subjects, though he was promoted to sec 4 but we he has not woken up yet..
Sec 3 he graced through but next year we are very worried.. Need help. !! please share/advice how to handle .
thanks,
-ga.

With teenagers, any kind of acting out usually has more deep-seated reasons. Schools results is generally only the visible surface. He is obviously feeling that he can't cope well, and is probably losing hope. But before you can help, he has to trust you (or someone else who is willing and able to help). Has he always been less disciplined, and getting by just because he's fairly smart? If so, the lack of good habits is now catching up with him, but he has to realise this and want to change. If it's a recent change, then maybe something has triggered it.

How is his relationship with parents, siblings, friends, etc. and are there any problems? Is he being bullied, or having self-esteem issues? Any addictions to social media, computer games, etc.?

You may need to seek help from a family counsellor, to improve communication in the family. You say he doesn't listen when you give him advice or instructions, and if that is the case, you cannot help him until that is fixed.

Thanks simkhoo,
I am looking to get him support, i am really confused now. As to get him to talk to any of us is tough . He would only listen for half the conversation the minute we talk of studies he is off, now it is been 2 days he has stopped talking . I should say from young he has been less disciplined and gets by just last minute brush through in his grades.

Now he realizes he has to practice and he feels cannot do it. I tried to motivate him as how we were and his sis also could do it. i did go though a tough phase with her now she is doing her masters in Archi but that is not helping him. tried giving him many examples and asked him what he wants he says he is confused .. Later he agreed for tuitions but did not do diligently as he had agreed to and i feel may be he is angry with himself but i am not sure . Now he has shut off i am waiting patiently as if i force to talk to him he becomes very angry .. yesterday he asked me to stop tuitions and went off as i had to make another payment.

He is hooked to his PC games and plays quite late night, tried talking to take this off but he gets out of control and he became very aggressive and troubles all of us making noisy sounds while we have rest at night. He does understand that it is not good but the addiction to the internet is what is not in control . During school days at night after 11 pm the pc internet is off only during holidays and weekends he plays full time . But he still sleeps quite late.

If you can suggest any good counselling option i am ready to try, i have been looking but it is confusing whom to approach. I tried to approach the community center but i am not sure that is right option yet..
thanks
-ga,

Hello All,


I need help for my son who is 15 yrs old and now he will be in the O levels next year.
He has lost his interest in studies, most he sleeps in class, we have got many complaints from all teachers.
He has become self- centered aggressive, not caring for others and confined to only playing with friends comes to us only when he needs money or any help . it is either he needs sports shoes or games or clothes .
He is very bright but never follows a discipline ..

Would it be we have to seek professional help for him? . He has been only playing and become aggressive, missing school though he informs us \" I am not going because the class is boring or full packed today or just one class\" which he could do at home if we don't agree he will still do what he has decided and becomes aggressive. However he uses the time to sleep and only play. He has gone out of our reach to even tell him that he is not doing the right thing. i feel as a failed mum , as he does not listen to any of us and i am really not sure what he will do . few days ago he realized he has to study and he came to me saying he will study but then he soon realized the expectation to get in JC is very tough. So he feels he can't do it. After that it is gone to a drain and now he is back to playing with friends online and locked in his room always. Does not come even to eat lunch or dinner with us. It has been a tough time. Seeking anyone went through this tough time how you all handled it . if there is help it is very confusing to whom to reach out too. We have tried school discipline, career counselling nothing has worked well.

Sec 3 his result has dipped to B, C, D and F for 2 subjects, though he was promoted to sec 4 but we he has not woken up yet..
Sec 3 he graced through but next year we are very worried.. Need help. !! please share/advice how to handle .
thanks,
-ga.

May I know how travel arrangements from Simei to Tanjong Katong Sec school. ?

My son has opted as first choice but now afraid it may be too far for him.

regards
Ga

Dear All,


I arranged for home tutor as I found the centres do not concentrate on individual progress.

So I felt this is better for her to concentrate and focus on her specifically.

thanks for all the support…

I hope this will help her to score better. Its last of interest and focus that these students have as I see even very careless mistakes.

regards
Ga

Dear All,

I looking at chemistry, maths and biology a drill down tutor who can help my child to score well from 30% to 60%. Looking at a really serious tutor who can give a aggressive drill down course to my daughter. she has been given a second change to show her result.

Thanks.

Thanks for all the response. Being a Engineer myself i cant see my DS in such a situation. AS I have obeserved she puts in effort. however i feel she does not understand and tries to ignore so its also her mentality .

she works hard alteast for the past exams and atill she has failed in chemistry very badly. So my worry is Chemistry is what I am worried. So me and my husband have started to revise with her. I have had tutions for maths her year end has been 60 but have to improve else its hard for her to her in good poly or jc. But guess since both are working its really hard for us to fully concentrate and putting tutions may not be fully helpful. So wanted to share with you all to get some help.
thanks.

Dear All,

My daughter has been scored very bad this overall year.
I am wondering if she could still be able to fair well in her exams.
Now since her overall weightage has resulted very bad i have to speak to her school to understand whether she can still be able to be promoted to o levels.

If anyone has had this expeireince please let me know how to help her. I have tried tutions but really need to see the best tutors who can help her .
she scores well in English and MT and history however her maths and chemistry is very weak so tried tutoring but has not helped her final year result.

She was a good scoring in PSLE with 248 so I am really worried how to help her. It would be really very difficult if she looses a year dur to this bad scoring.

thanks. Looking forward for a response.
Worried Mom.

Thanks Mdm Koh,


I am checking but apparently not getting the dates for the camp.

So was worried whether the camps attendance is a must or not. My d always concentrate more on the CCA… thats tough to make her forgo anything even if not necessary.

Ga.