Quote from MOM's reply published in the Straits Time on 21 Sep 11 \"We did not inform her that the family was at risk of losing their second maid. Madam Lim and her mother, who is the registered employer, had agreed that the maid could seek a change of employer.\"


What do you think of the last sentence, ie, the registered employer had agreed that the maid could seek a change of employer? Am wondering whether the employer was given a choice :siao:

Hi hquek and celtricia


Thanks for your advice!

Hi Tamama,

I will not give the helper money to buy her own toiletries. I will buy for them and pass to them. You can get 20 pcs of sanitary pads at about $1.75 from Venus, those shops specialising in shampoos & toiletries.

Peapot wrote

Actually you can't hide the newspaper from the maid. When they meet other maids outside, they will also talk about it. Unless, your house don't subscribe newspaper, you don't let her go out to run errands and she has no off day, and you dispose the rubbish yourself then maybe it's possible to hide from her.

Agreed! My new maid of one month told me that the maid from a few houses away always talked to her and asked her how is her ma'm. I think she is trying to stir up trouble cos I recently sent my maid home for stealing money and for wearing my clothes. Maids tend to share gossips behind our backs. Any advice on how to handle this?

I have spoken to my maid and even shared the newspaper article with her. We also discussed on the underaged maid who threw the 12 years old girl down. She can tell me that the maid was underaged and cannot cope. The news was in the paper before she joined my family. See how good their grape vine is.

Catang wrote,

i'm looking for one dat can understand or speak mandarin, hokkien or cantonese other den english. most agencies i approached dun have. hiccup which is your agency?

My agency is Loyal Employment Agency at Hougang Green. Maybe I am lucky that the maid was there waiting for new employers. She asked to be transferred as she was made to clean 3 places, ie, her employer's property plus his mom and sister's flats. I normally keep clear of transfer maids, but no choice cos need one to help out during CNY.

jtoh,


Thank you

Aiyoh, you frighten me now. She is 31 years old this March 2011. She can speak Cantonese, Chinese, English.


I am hoping that she will be good. She did asked whether she can have a handphone later on and also off-day. Agent told her no.

I am also very scared that she will run away. Hope everything goes well tomorrow.


I went with her to close her bank account this afternoon. DBS Bank was very nice to waive $30 as she did not maintain the account for six months or more. I am keeping her $600 and told her that I will release it to her when she leaves.

Have also notified the agent and selected a transfer maid, eventhough I had a bad experience with transfer maid once. This maid has plenty of experience, in Hong Kong and Singapore. I am wary too, but no choice as I need help over CNY.

Keeping my fingers crossed.

My maid asked to go back to Indonesia by today. When I agreed, she immediately said she wants to go to the Agent for transfer. When I told her no, she threatened to complain to MOM. When I told her go ahead, she mumbled that her aunt told her that she can go to MOM.


When I tried booking her air ticket yesterday evening, the flights on the folowing day were all very expensive. Managed to find one on Tuesday. When I told her she will leave on Tuesday instead, she changed tack and said she wants to continue working for me. When I rejected her, she asked to be sent to Batam instead. I again refused her request as I told her that I need to send her back to when she came from.

I got this strong feeling that she is trying her luck when she said that she wants to go back to Indonesia. At the bottom of her heart, she wants to work to earn money. I may be selfish to refuse her a transfer but with her background as described in my earlier posts, I cannot let her go to another family and do the same thing to the unsuspecting family.

Thanks for all your advices.


I have decided to change maid. What triggered it was when I discovered more things. One of my chest of drawers was placed in my son room. I hardly open it but this afternoon, I opened it cos it was not closed properly. I saw two of my bras, a panty, inner wear, petticoat, a singlet that was obviously worn as it was all rolled up, a pair of stockings and two disposable underwear, which was also rolled up. :x All these placed on top of my clean clothings.

I bought a few packets of disposable underwear for my holiday in Dec 10 but did not bring all. The disposable underwear was placed in my room’s drawer. She must have taken the disposable underwear when I was away for holidays.

I was really angry and confronted her. At first, she remained silent, after that she started denying and give me the ‘you have wronged me face’. I really cannot tolerate a liar and one whose hands are not clean.

She will go off after CNY.

[quote]phil r gd at bargaining while indo r gd at lying with amazing silly excuses. [/quote]
Agreed that indo are good at lying. When I came back from vacation, my indo maid said my heavy pot (filled with soil) was broken by \"tikus\", ie rat. I nearly 'died' upon hearing it. That pot has been there since last CNY and was intact. When I left for vacation, I asked her to wash the floor. What happened is yours and my guess.

Today, my daughter told me that her money which she left inside the red packet was missing. She saved the money by forgoing her meal in school. The money was intact before we left for vacation but is now missing. My mum and my maid were the only two persons in the house when we left for our vacation. Now, who could have taken her money? :?

Should I change my maid? I have been contemplating it for some time but is dissuaded by my hubby as the next maid could be worse.

My maid is a Christian Indo.