dear all, thank you for your kind words and advise.


We have talk to him about his temper, his family have talk to him. There was once when he perceive some bicyclist knock on his car on purpose and he shouted at the guy and wanted to confront the guy. His parents, Ds were all in the car then and they tried to pull him back.

I think the behaviour is both inherent and grew worst after he come out to work … we knew each since Uni and it was not to this extent though there is some signs of temper. At least not the vulgarities.

autommbronze, agree with you that "Sometimes such characteristics may not be so evident (under control) because he may be trying to maintain a Mr Nice Guy facade " Dh is super good at that. All his friends and my friends and even my family use to thought that he is very nice and helpful. My family only experienced his temper right after we move into our new house and my friends were surprised when I told them things that happened .

I don’t think I love him anymore… most of the time, I feel happier when he is not at home. But on one hand, DS have a good r/s with him and on another, I fear he might do something bad if I try to leave him. I tried to leave him before and he says things like he "may do something criminal" if I leave.

lovekidsverymuch:

hihimummy:

yeah... really wish I can run far far away from him and never have to see him again...

hihimummy dont get disheartened can you ask him to see some doctor? please dont take any rash decisions....

I don't think he will... we hv been to conselling before... but he claim he is a better consellor than both the consellors we saw and did not want to go again...

yeah... really wish I can run far far away from him and never have to see him again...

Today some thing happened that made me consider the D word very seriously.


He is driving me to work as it is raining heavily. That is suppose to be a good thing, right? But he was cursing and swearing using words like Fker, m**** fker, ah**, bloo** on and on on the drivers on the road. Finally after the 10 th time, I said to him how many times do you want to say such words? Then he start to call me names such as j* b*, Cj b*, p* K* C* J* B* and other vulgar words and say that I should use my brains before I speak and I have low EQ. Finally just as we are at the exit of my work place, he says "make me angry right, I am turning back to (his work place)" and go ahead and do so. I took the chance when he was making a U-turn to get out of the car and walk in the rain to work.

It is not the first time or the even the 10th times in our 8 years of "marriage" I wanted to divorce him before a few years ago when I caught him cheating on me, but he beg me to stay and I gave in because of my son. and because he can be extremely nice most of the times.

Is it my fault, like he say what happened in the morning, that he is helping yet I say things to piss him off? Don’t I have the right to tell him that his cursing is affecting me? He has a good relationship with my son and I am sure most of the people who know us superficially think that he is a good husband and father.

He comes home late in the night 12 -4 or even 5 am in the morning at times more than half the time, smokes at home. And I will never know when is the next time he is going to blow and start abusing me verbally like that. When my son is about 2 years old, something similar happened during our way to the zoo and he lock me out of the car with all my belongings and our son in the car and threatened to drive off. Once on our way to dinner, he threatened to drive off without me and my child at a area again when my belongings are in his car. And he act like it is my fault.

Sorry for the long post…just really need to vent my emotions today

GarangMama:

Actually single mothers have it real tough - they don't get the full maternity benefits (4 months leave, cash bonus, childcare subsidies, maid levy, etc etc). That's why there's been a debate in Forum about granting the same entitlements to these individuals since they are also 'doing their NS' , despite out of wedlock.

I agree the subsidy shd be extend to single mothers too... this kind of policy is quite unfair to working single mothers who really need all the help they can get. Single mothers pay taxes too and their children are Singaporeans too.

thanks all for the feedback will definitely make a trip there soon.

I am quite tempted to sent my kid to Agape Little Uni at NTU alumni Club. Any one sent their kids there?

Where do you teach pianojazzy? I sent my boy to sempi now

, but Funan is kind of far for me since I live in the west.